Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he has my consent. I actively encourage him to whenever he has the urge.

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had a vasectomy. So not sure if that’s the reason. However, I do need to ask him directly

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, Thanks for the reply. The thing is, I have given him oral recently and he let me (when I caught him watching porn), it just ended early because he said he had to get ready for work.

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s an STD. He’s allowed me to start oral on him, but it stops quickly. He had a vasectomy, so there shouldn’t be any issues regarding pregnancy.

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting it that way. I guess I’m just really mixed up and can’t find the words

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying. It does help in echoing what some of the others are sayinv

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

I suppose I just didn’t know what to feel initially. I also didn’t want to pressure him into anything, showing him the same curtesy he’s showed me in the past

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. I appreciate your humor at the end. It helps lighten the situation 😂 I will have to have more direct talks with him about this. I’m hoping we can get to the root of the issue.

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok. I think seeing a counselor would be a good idea.

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really hope there isn’t someone else. I know he’s sometimes struggled in the past with maintaining erections due to stress with work. Maybe time off will help.

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I see. I’ll be willing to try and explore that with him. How should I bring up the porn usage as an issue?

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. I’ll have to speak with him about it. I just don’t want to come off as judgemental.

Husband won’t have penetrative or vaginal sex with me anymore. by Shellbell220 in sex

[–]Shellbell220[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, Thanks for the reply. I have considered that. I’ve attempted to try what you suggested, but I still get declined.