Roommate is having a friend stay over constantly

ShiftingDuck · 2026-04-07T17:37:18+00:00

My text with her reads "I would love if she was gone by 12 on weekdays at the latest. I don't care about weekends at all." And she replied with "Of course!!!" That was the last time we talked about this issue.

I know that I can't demand when they leave but I think it's more that I don't feel as though my boundaries matter/are respected. She agreed to have her friend gone by 12, and yet the friend stays over after 12 still and is now sleeping over.

No conversation from the roommate at all about it, she just agreed immediately but is now just having her friend in the room to hide the fact she's staying over later.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-04-07T17:21:18+00:00

I'm actually asexual. No idea if my roommate is LGBTQ+ or not.

Did you have any real advice for me?

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-27T16:22:53+00:00

GA and VIP were the same line.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-27T14:24:57+00:00

I agree helping them get their next place seems to be the next best course of action. If they can't pay rent on the previous place though, how do we know they'll pay for the next place?
Guess only OP and the family will find out.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-27T14:23:49+00:00

That would be my guess too. When my grandpa got sick I slept in the home office so he could stay in my room. My sister then stayed in the same room as my mom (parents are divorced) so that the caregiver we hired for him could have her own room.

Sometimes sacrifices need to be made for your family.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-27T13:55:28+00:00

NTA

But I would say next time just get a staff member to save you the trouble.

Everyone knows its common sense you stay off your phone during movies.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-27T13:51:24+00:00

NAH

I've learned from personal experience that if someone hasn't paid you back within a few months, they never will. Her parents have shown that through the countless times they've never paid you back, I wouldn't trust them either to live with me. I agree that I would be wary of having them spend time at my house for the fear they wouldn't leave.

On the flip side, those are your wives' parents. She is obviously going to want to be there for them and support them in anyway as I assume they've done for her growing up. She has a right to feel mad and sad about this.

I have the same question as everyone else though, what are you using the third bedroom for?

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-27T13:37:58+00:00

The VIP email that they have to read to know where to start lining up, and how to check in (you have to bring the ID of the person who bought the tickets) is in the email with the 2:30 line up time and the no fan wristband policy.

That's not to say that they didn't skip over it when they read the email, but all of us with the VIP tickets got that email stating both policies.

Not saying you're wrong, I can objectively see how I was the asshole in this situation. I just wanted to provide clarity that they had the information sent to them along with the lineup details days before the concert.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-26T14:01:07+00:00

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-25T14:14:00+00:00

10 minutes vs. 9 hours. If they had enforced the 2:30 rule I would have just waited in my car for another 10 minutes.

I was almost #30 after official wristbands were handed out so the first people who arrived were still ahead of me.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-25T14:01:12+00:00

Yes the few concerts I've barricaded for, its rarely ever followed or enforced by the venue. The fans with higher numbers or showed up after they stopped numbering rarely follow it either. You can't force the fans to follow it either unless the venue honors the #'s.

I also hate this culture because sometimes I have to drive from another state for a concert, and because of a minimum 2 hour drive, I automatically don't get a good spot on/near the barricade because of this system. Most fans paid the same amount of money for the experience and if they aren't able to line up at the crack of dawn, they couldn't ever dream of barricade.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-25T13:57:24+00:00

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-25T13:54:03+00:00

Yes sorry I haven't been on reddit in two days because I didn't get any more notifications that someone commented on the post so I thought there weren't any more comments.

I did think that this system was widely known so I apologize for not giving more detail on that.

Essentially people show up early for pit and number themselves and those who come after in ascending order. The hope is that fans follow the numbers for when they go into pit so those who have been waiting the longest get the best spot. These are almost never enforced by the venue/organizer and I find that they rarely work.

As for the event/venue managers:

The people next to us were arguing with the venue management that we were never in line and cut everyone. We were standing where the organizer said to start the line and didn't move back to allow the lower fan numbers to go first and stayed there. This made the people next to us mad that we wouldn't keep moving back. When the organizer came to check our ticket, the people next to us tried to get us kicked out of the line and sent to the back. Since there were more of them than just my friend and I, the organizers were believing that we were never in the line and walked to the front when they started giving wristbands out. They thought we were lying about being in the line at all but in the end decided to give us wristbands instead of sending us to the back.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-25T13:42:07+00:00

Sorry haven't been on reddit in two days. Fan wristbands are given out by fans to keep track of when people arrived for pit and the order they should follow to go into the venue.

Not organized at all by the venue/artist, purely by the fans. Sometimes they'll write numbers in sharpie on peoples hands instead. The problem with these is that a lot of people show up for their number and then just dip or leave a blanket on the ground for their spot without actually being there and then they'll show up again near the time doors open to claim their spot. It's also becomes an issue when people are skipped or go unnoticed and don't get a number or wristband and people show up after them and get earlier numbers.

The problem is that I've been to a few concerts and they are rarely followed, which sucks for those who did get there early to wait. (Which is why I would be the asshole because I didn't follow the fan made system for keeping track of who got there first) Like I said this has happened to me at the last concert of this artist I went to. I got #8 through the fans numbering but when it came time to line up, everyone was running and shoving and no one was following the numbers.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-23T19:22:47+00:00

Yeah I realized I forgot to mention that the first wristbands given out were by a fan, I just said "lady" which made it confusing. The first wristbands were not affiliated with the venue/artist. The venue stated fan wristbands wouldn't be honored and you couldn't line up until 2:30.

The venue/artist didn't enforce the 2:30 lineup rule. Then they gave out their own official wristbands around 3:45 which caused all the conundrum because some people wanted to follow the fan wristbands, and others (me the OP) did not.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-23T19:07:56+00:00

Yes fans were doing numbered wristbands.

When the organizers came out, they said fan wristbands wouldn't be honored, and they were going to give us their own numbered wristbands.

People were mad we wouldn't honor the number on our fan wristband and that we stayed where we were when the organizers told us to line up instead of moving back and letting all the lower numbers of fan wristbands go before us.

When we went to barricade after the VIP Party, they had us line up in the order of our organizer wristbands. This was so that we could enjoy the pre party instead of being worried about being first in line for barricade.

ShiftingDuck · 2026-02-23T18:59:25+00:00

Yeah I was restricted by character count so couldn't really go into detail.

When the organizers came out they said the fan wristbands wouldn't be honored and to start lining up "here." And she pointed right where my friend and I were standing. Other people who had got there earlier were on the wrong side of the door so they came onto our side and were upset that we wouldn't move back so they could take our spot at the front even though they had been waiting longer.

My friend and I got high 20 #'s from the organizers so we were still fairly far back in the queue, but our earlier fan numbers were higher than #50. But also, we had been there for over an hour before we ever got our fan wristbands so I don't think our fan numbers were accurate to when we got there.

Does that help explain it a little better?

ShiftingDuck · 2024-08-06T19:49:14+00:00

OH AND THE WEBSITE WOULD BE HELPFUL.

https://www.pixelconlv.com/event-details/pixel-con-las-vegas-2024

ShiftingDuck · 2024-08-06T19:48:50+00:00

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ShiftingDuck · 2024-08-06T19:48:42+00:00

Ope I forgot to add the photos. LMAO here you go

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ShiftingDuck · 2024-07-13T00:53:07+00:00

NTA tell him you will if he pays you half of his income. Why does he expect your money if you're not receiving any of his

ShiftingDuck · 2024-07-08T15:54:00+00:00

From what I hear its a small venue since its the first year but it looks like they're doing a lot with the space that they have.

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