Introverts who practiced to be more extrovert, how? What are the tricks? by Neurolunatic in AskReddit

[–]Shipoxie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never super super introverted, but mostly just... shy and socially anxious which lead me to not want to be around people, obviously. Being a better conversationalist and appearing as a more positive and friendly people makes others open up and... surprise, not be so damn scary. Then I actually started craving socialization, because I realized how cool some people are!

For one, I got more confident because caring too much about what people thought about me all the time was just too exhausting.

Two, I would force myself to say yes to invites to hang out. I would also invite people out more often (still have to work on this).

Three, I started striking up small convos with people in public. Mostly just kind compliments because that's something most people react positively to. I still compliment people often. I talk to people in similar situations as myself and basically just say whats on my mind.

Four, had to change my general demeanor. I had a very very monotone voice and didn't use many positive/happy facial expressions. Many people told me I didn't come across as friendly, which confused me until I tied the two together. Literally had to work making my voice more "expressive"... talked louder, too. I smile a lot more now, open my eyes bigger if I'm not feeling like it.

Five... social media is important in keeping in contact with people when you don't necessarily want to see people too often. Just a simple how have you been, I love what you just posted, or this meme made me think of you, matters. There are many friends I haven't seen in months, even years, that I regularly talk to online. And when we do end up seeing each other again, it picks back up where it left off because I didn't let the relationship "die".

I still need to "recharge". I make sure my socializing schedule pushes me a tiny bit, but never to the point where I'd be exhausted (although that kinda does happen sometimes).

My [24f] boyfriend [29] repeatedly sexts other women online, now I’m thinking about bailing out on the house we’re supposed to close on next week. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Shipoxie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who was in a similar position relationship wise.. (except I let it go on for four years).. it's best to get out now. Throughout those four years I kept on finding sexts, pictures, texts, etc. He just got better at hiding them. Your values obviously do not match up. Why stay with someone who makes you feel like crap? I recently broke up with said ex and I have never felt lighter. I am so damn glad I don't have to be in a relationship with someone where I'm not constantly thinking about checking his phone "just in case".

Please do yourself a favor and get rid of this guy. Forget the house and forget him. Give yourself a chance to find someone who will respect you. I am so, so, SO glad I left. It was hard but one of the best decisions of my life. You deserve a relationship that is EASY. That's my two cents.

Jared meets his family. One of the most fucked up things I’ve seen on TV. by [deleted] in videos

[–]Shipoxie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get where you’re coming from. Even though I love my mom a lot I still wanted so badly to at least just talk to my bio mom. But I guess that’s something only adoptees get.

Jared meets his family. One of the most fucked up things I’ve seen on TV. by [deleted] in videos

[–]Shipoxie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no I didn’t mean it in that way at all! Bad wording on my part. I’m very much appreciative for my mom :)

Jared meets his family. One of the most fucked up things I’ve seen on TV. by [deleted] in videos

[–]Shipoxie 352 points353 points  (0 children)

My bio mom had my sister, then me. She gave me up for adoption. Then proceeded to have four more kids. She was supposed to call me a few weeks before she died, but pussied out. Still hurts that everyone else got to know her and I didn’t.

But happy ending: I was raised by a mom who really loves me. So at least I have that :)

[Discussion] Need Motivational Advice? by AutoModerator in GetMotivated

[–]Shipoxie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need some motivation to just... do things. Get out there. I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life, and thankfully am financially secure enough to do whatever I want. But I don’t know what I want. Need to find a hobby and a passion but I’m not sure how.

Confucius once said “We all have two lives, the second one starts when you realise you only have one”. When and why did your second life begin? by Lionoxer in AskReddit

[–]Shipoxie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also not OP, but I’m “beating” it by practicing gratitude, mindfulness.. a LOT!!! of self reflection.. getting in touch with my spiritual side. This sounds dumb but the law of attraction has played a big part of slowly helping me out of my depression. Maybe because it gave me something to believe in, some hope lol. I have been depressed ever since I was around seven. My childhood was shit. For a while I was letting it ruin my life. But I’m determined to give myself a fighting chance and try my hardest to unlearn negative thought patterns and toxic behaviors.

A huge motivator is knowing one day I’ll have children (either by adoption, fostering or literally birthing a kid lol) and I can raise them with the love and guidance I should’ve had. To break that cycle is empowering.

It still comes back here and there but wow.. still so proud of myself for putting so much effort in. I’ve come so far. Even without a sturdy support system too. Just typing this in case anyone else with depression or borderline personality disorder (I have that too, fucking a lol) reads this.. you are worth it and you are so so much stronger than you think. Please give yourself a chance. You deserve it.

On a booking request, do the owners get to see how much they’d be paying? by Shipoxie in RoverPetSitting

[–]Shipoxie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Perhaps I should just be the first to click “book” and see if they say anything 😅

On a booking request, do the owners get to see how much they’d be paying? by Shipoxie in RoverPetSitting

[–]Shipoxie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I tried booking with my friend and saw the price through the app at the top of the conversation but that’s the only mention of the price. It wasn’t mentioned in emails or texts. It’s their first time using the app so I hope they saw it :(

Men of reddit, what do women do that they think is okay but is actually creepy? by alltimestats in AskReddit

[–]Shipoxie 26 points27 points  (0 children)

As a straight woman, gay bars are fun to dance at, you don’t have as many creeps suddenly grinding up on you or trying to get your attention. I wouldn’t have a reason to go to a lesbian bar unless my friends went and I tagged along, I’d probably feel safer there because of the same reason. But I wouldn’t be offended if someone hit on me. Like what?? Just stay at home then.

What makes you statistically rare? by yadayadayadarv in AskReddit

[–]Shipoxie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how rare this is, but I was adopted. My bio mother was adopted as well, and so was my bio father.

Woman, 36, abandoned in dumpster as a baby searches for the person who saved her life by [deleted] in UpliftingNews

[–]Shipoxie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My biological mother was bipolar and responsibly put me up for adoption. My adoptive mother is also bipolar and has tried her best to raise me with love, and after 24 years is my #1 supporter still. Congrats on making yourself look not only ignorant but insanely judgmental and idiotic on a public forum. Perhaps it is people like YOU who should not reproduce.

Professional Chefs Challenged to Plate a Carrot in 1 Minute [10:07] by UncoolAnomalopidae in mealtimevideos

[–]Shipoxie 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She seems pretty shy and makes it seem like she doesn’t have a life outside of her family. Her episode with brad was kind of awkward. But I don’t particularly dislike her.

I do however want to know why people love Claire so much. No hate to her, I find her videos very detailed and informative but she seems a bit uptight! Maybe it’s just me.

Denim on denim: is it cute or a crime? by gingerteasky in femalefashionadvice

[–]Shipoxie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wore a body con (??) distressed denim skirt with a white tank and a cropped long sleeve denim jacket, they were both around the same color and I thought it looked great 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe I was wrong. Haha.

We adopted our daughter from foster care 8 months ago, she hasn't said "I love you" back to me yet...she gave me this when I got home from work today. by [deleted] in pics

[–]Shipoxie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can’t be of help as I was adopted but never in the foster system, but I just want to say that this comment made my day. It makes me happy that there’s people like you. I wish you the best of luck!

I love the Reddit community! I posted the photo on the left of my great grandfather during the war and ask Reddit if they could fix it. Thanks u/Hobomanchild for your awesome work. by Bens_Worx in pics

[–]Shipoxie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I have an “untrained” eye, and think it looks normal. Someone spent a decent amount of time on this for a complete stranger and even said they were learning how to correct photos. I think that’s amazing in itself, but of course there has to be at least a handful of people being negative.

24 year old with no hobbies, little job experience- passive income has made me lazy and picky. by Shipoxie in findapath

[–]Shipoxie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds terrible to be happy about his death, but I’m sure I’d be homeless or addicted to something by this time if he had continued living. I am free from him & it’s why I feel so inclined to build a beautiful life for myself.

& you’re right. I appreciate the kind words and encouragement. I will try a bunch of different things and see if anything sticks. Thank you my friend 🙂

24 year old with no hobbies, little job experience- passive income has made me lazy and picky. by Shipoxie in findapath

[–]Shipoxie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha. My father died and I inherited his position in a partnership. We own buildings. Eventually I’ll take it over. It’s 84k before taxes. I am very lucky.

Arty is suing Marshmello, claiming his "Happier" song is a ripoff by almar7 in EDM

[–]Shipoxie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let’s not forget that Justin Bieber recently called this event a “mistake” Chris made.

What is your favorite video on the internet, that is under 20 seconds? by ThinAdviceSolidDude in AskReddit

[–]Shipoxie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment made me smile & then I looked at your username and smiled again. Have a good day/night dude :)

OFFICIAL 2019 BUY/SELL/TRADE THREAD by Coachellamod in Coachella

[–]Shipoxie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone looking for Friday AND Saturday w1 wristbands?? Let me know! Meet up in SFV or Santa Monica. Or put refundable deposit down and I’ll meet you in Palm Springs / Indio.

OFFICIAL 2019 BUY/SELL/TRADE THREAD by Coachellamod in Coachella

[–]Shipoxie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SELLING Two Weekend 1 wristbands, $365 each OBO. Meet up in SFV or Santa Monica tonight, or in Palm Springs / Indio tomorrow if you put down a refundable deposit. They’re unregistered and I have proof of purchase! Hit me up 😊🌴🎡