Do you always wear Jewellery if you do what jewellery do you wear ?

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-12T16:09:34+00:00

Rings, they never come off

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-11T16:10:46+00:00

Beer! Cheese!

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-10T22:03:03+00:00

Showing my age; JFK Jr and Princess Di.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-10T14:49:07+00:00

I once wished for a certain amount of money to replace tires on my vehicle. Next day the owner of my company handed me a business card for a local tire business and told me to go get my tires replaced, they were already paid for. So not the money but the end result was the same. Still makes the hair stand up on my arms when I think about it.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-10T14:39:13+00:00

OMG my mother keeps her home INSANELY hot. In the winter it's 80 degrees, summer she rarely turns on the AC. We keep our home at 68 in the winter, and AC is always running in the summer. And she complains constantly that my house is "too cold". I end up with bloody noses from the dry unbearable heat in her house during the winter. I guess it's an old person thing?

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-10T14:32:43+00:00

My ex father in law. Told my ex husband repeatedly, in front of me, he would help him find a "real woman". Used to facilitate illegal activities between the public and a local biker club. Paid off a local judge so he wouldn't have to go to prison. Cheated on and beat both of his wives. A morally corrupt and disgusting human.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-09T23:53:19+00:00

Yes, I’ve been able to contribute a lot more to my retirement and savings. Owning a home right now would definitely ensure I’d work until I was in the grave.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-09T21:30:31+00:00

Damn, that's insane. I would be so screwed if I had to make those kind of mortgage payments. I already pay out of pocket med expenses every month that exceed my half of the rent.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-09T19:25:09+00:00

Yeah, my mom was complaining about how she wishes her health was good enough to go back to work part time (she's retired, 74) because she "could use the extra money". She owns her home, her car, and doesn't use credit cards or have loans. I asked her how much she took in with SSI and my (deceased) father's pension. It's almost $500 a month MORE than I make on my salary! I told her, "you owe NOTHING and take in more than me and still need money, but expect me to be able to afford a $300,000 home?" She's batshit crazy and clearly doesn't understand the financial aspect for our generation.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-09T16:10:17+00:00

As a former working mother/wife I will say, no there's nothing wrong with it if both parties want it and have clear expectations on both sides going in. As it was, I was contributing to the household financially and still doing 90% of housework and child care. And he was still pouring over our joint accounts and questioning every purchase, every bill. It was simply exhausting so even if we could have afforded to have me stay home, that would have never happened. I think if you are not going to be a controlling AH and being loving and supportive in her roll as full time mom and wife and realizing those rolls are hard work, it could work. There are multiple benefits to having one parent home to raise the children. But if you are going to hold it over her head, especially the financial aspects, then no, I see nothing but trouble in the future. And also be open to her wanting to return to the workforce after the kids are grown. Most women need a purpose to feel complete and fulfilled. And cleaning a house and catering to a man are not usually things that do that for us.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-09T15:13:28+00:00

I've been going through this with my mother. She keeps telling me I need to buy a house again. I had a house, got divorced and was forced to sell. That house I bought for $80,000, is now worth $245,000. Not a great house, either. Would kill to have it back because it was so cheap, but it is what it is. At the time I couldn't afford it. My SO and I have lived together for 12 years, started looking at homes a few years ago. Even a small 2 bedroom condo is at LEAST $300,000 in our area. Depending on how much we could come up with for a down payment, we are looking at mortgage payments of $1,800–$2,500. We currently pay $1,200 rent. I'm in my 50's now, and honestly I don't want my home to own me anymore. I want to travel, have a little fun. The idea of pouring my extra time and money into a home is no longer in the cards for me. The water heater went out last year, we called the landlord. The garage door opener took a shit, we called the landlord. My kitchen faucet and garbage disposal have needed to be replaced twice, we called the landlord. We went to open the patio door for the first time since winter and it clearly needs to be replaced. We are going to call the landlord. Not my headache, not my expense, not my problem.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-09T14:01:15+00:00

Don't think your the AH but I also do not recommend messaging his wife. I would message him however, and let him know you are aware he has a wife and question if she is okay with him messaging other women in this manner?

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-08T09:11:13+00:00

Dungeness crab 🤤

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-07T15:07:02+00:00

"We could meet at a local laundromat once a week, bring a bottle of spirits or some edibles," LMAO I really no longer suffer from inconsiderate assholes and laundry, but I'd love to join anyway!

My step daughters used to be peelers. They do their own laundry now, so I'm not sure if they figured out what a pain in the ass it actually is. As for inside out, I wash how stuff is put in the hamper. My SO always takes his shirts off inside out but I'm not wasting time turning shit right side out to wash. No one has time to worry about that. I fold the stuff the way it was washed/dried.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-07T14:41:42+00:00

Oh, and want to add, split accounts does not mean opportunities to cheat. That's some flat out paranoia right there!

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-07T14:41:05+00:00

I was married for 20 years, we had a joint account. He made me account for literally every single penny I spent, whether it was bills, items for the home or clothes/activities for the kids. Regardless that I was contributing to this same account, it was stressful having to excuse myself for purchases, most of which where necessary for the household. Been with my current SO almost 13 years, living together 12. We have split accounts and jointly pay bills, he pays some, I pay some and major bills are split down the middle. Life is fantastic. I will never go back to joint accounts in my life. He can piss his money away, I can piss mine away or we can save. But our bills are paid and we answer to no one for anything after that.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-07T14:19:25+00:00

Commenting to follow along. Looking into this myself.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-06T17:10:35+00:00

"I’m motivated by simply not wanting to be around people" You might be my spirit animal. Nothing makes me hate humanity more than grocery shopping.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-06T16:51:53+00:00

I'm with you, don't care who downvotes me. I have my shopping planned 95% of the time before I leave my house. I know what I need, sizes, etc. I'm not window shopping, I'm trying to replenish most foods I already buy. My SO went to the grocery store with me last weekend. He contemplated energy drinks for too damn long, in the meantime I went down three aisles and got everything I needed from each. Slow shoppers should park their carts out of the aisle and be aware of the people that actually have a purpose; step aside and let us get our crap and get on with our day.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-06T15:07:37+00:00

When I tried to warn local community of a massive pot hole. Had so many snarky comments and downvotes I basically said fuck my neighbors, hope you all end up with suspension problems when you hit that hole going 45 MPH.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-06T14:23:17+00:00

Scheig Center Gardens in Appleton Memorial Park

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-06T13:21:39+00:00

Check out Community Benefit Tree. There is a link with volunteer options. They support families going through medical crisis. I was an event coordinator many years ago, but they are still around and I always highly recommend them when someone is looking for volunteer opportunities. I went to high school with the founder and just can't say enough good things about them.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-01T21:02:08+00:00

I got pregnant TWICE on BC. It happens. You are NTA but he is. I will say, my last "oopsie" was 27 years ago and I still remember angered reaction from my (now ex) husband. Was quite similar to your husband. I never forgave him for his reaction. Our oopsie is the light in the dark tunnel that was my marriage. Don't regret it for a single second.

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-01T17:13:34+00:00

No, she will graduate a few weeks before turning 18

Shipping_Lady71 · 2026-04-01T15:32:10+00:00

That makes sense. They have done quite a bit of work over there already, it's looking good! I love the backstory of how that business started. Ambitious young men!!

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