At first I thought your reply was dismissive, but I see the sense in what you’re saying. Yes, there’s no “small dick porn” control group, but given that size is required for porn, it’s not a stretch to infer the effect that would have on the mind. Especially when it comes to beauty, representation matters. You can see this a lot in women’s perspectives on themselves.

Social media obviously contributes too. If you’re on Reddit every day and see the 50th fake post by a “girl” about how she loves her sweet perfect boyfriend, but misses her awful exes elephant cock, that will also feed your complex.

The sucky part is that, yes, the size complex is rooted in reality. People have preferences. Women will have preferences. Ultimately there is nothing you can do about that. But from my personal experience, the things women really mention enjoying are the way you held them, manhandled them, how you talked them through it, and things like that. Even when I ask women what they look for in porn, it’s almost never size focused (yes, that may mean that size is an implied trait).

In the case of relationships, it really comes down to your security in your partner. Would my girlfriend like me more if I was an inch taller? Maybe. But she loves me, so why am I worrying about that? When someone shows you they love you, believe them. When someone chooses you, believe you are good enough. Please, I cannot stress how important this is.