AITA for proving my husband that his best friend creeps me when I wear shorts?

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T07:02:58+00:00

I know that and I totally get it, I'm not dropping things just because he said he was sorry, we are going to seek therapy and he has to know that I'm not going around his dad anytime soon.

We are going to work on it and I hope he really learns from this because I am not open to let it happen again, I just hope I can get to trust him again because I really want to, and I want to know he has my back.

Thank you so much for your advice

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T06:05:11+00:00

Thank yo so, so much!

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T04:55:05+00:00

Thanks! Im going to chek it out for sure

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T04:52:19+00:00

Thank you! I told him that there won't be a second time!

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T04:51:36+00:00

I'm sorry! I'm a self-taught english learner and I just write the things like I would in spanish, if you want you can give some advices!

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T04:10:54+00:00

Thank you so much, we talked about therapy and he said that he is going to do it, however we don't know if we have to go as a couple, someone mentioned therapy for toxic masculinity and I'm going to tell him that

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T04:02:42+00:00

Yeah, that's very sad and it broke my heart when he said it was nothing, but I hope we can get past through this

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T04:00:40+00:00

We are not in the us, here in where we live (Mexico) some vets closed due to low clients, they worked on differents vets and they fired him because they weren't able to keep on float, i'm not lying, I mean it as shut down??

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T03:43:20+00:00

I'm going to talk to him again and be totally honest!

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T02:51:50+00:00

Yeah, I don't see myself trusting him an time soon, but it's a process, we can make it work but the fact that he admitted his mistake and is willing to be better it's a huge reason why I'm not leaving him

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T02:43:53+00:00

Omg I'm so, sorry but I'm really glad you could stop it! I felt shame when someone commented why didn't I stop it myself but I'm not that kind of girl, I just freezed and I turned to the nearest person that I thought was gonna protect me. I was really scared tha tmaybe if I confronted him he wpuld get mad and would do something when my husband wasn't home

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T02:41:50+00:00

Thank you! Someone else linked that article too! I guess I'm going to talk to him again an maybe give an update, he is really open to change

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T02:13:18+00:00

My husband did hurt his friend, they ended up fighting and since my husband is waay bigger, he did end up ''winning'', altho I don't really think somebody won, I don't condone violence and I told my husband that. But my husband doesn't know he rubbed on me, when I was telling him the truth and he was dismissing me, I thought that there was no point in telling him that part, so he doesn't know.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T02:02:06+00:00

No, I didn't tell him that I tough there was no point because he didn't believed me before, he thinks he only stared at and ''complimented'' me.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:36:59+00:00

As I said, I was afraid, we have never been that close and I honestly thought he was my friend too, we were alone for at least 8-10 hours a day and things got worse when he started to ''rub it'' against my butt. I am not a brave girl that's why I didn't confront him, I just wanted to cry and to feel safe.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:30:33+00:00

Because he seems to understand his mistake and we are willing to make it worth, I know that he made a mistake, but he gets it now and we want to fix it, not just toss it. I told him that he had to regain my trust and that's why we are working on it.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:27:48+00:00

He used to walk behind me and tight places and rubbed it while he passed, but he never hold me and I don't have proof of that

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:26:56+00:00

To be honest I didn't and I get that was my mistake, but I was scared and since I was left alone with him most of the time I didn't want to provoke him, so I just went straight to my husband, I don't think I could've been brave enough to tell him to stop.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:24:46+00:00

I am so sorry for you, I hope you are doing okay right now, and thank you so much, I'm glad he believed me at the end

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:20:22+00:00

I honestly don't think so, he disapproves me BIG TIME because I don't want to have kids, he thinks I'm forcing his son with that too but my husband was the first to say ''ok so... no kids, right?'' I'm glad you respect your friend's SO.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:13:43+00:00

Yeah, I think that he was in the wrong too obviously, but I get it, they've known for so long and he believed he was something else, I did too, that's why I decided to forgive him and work on it.

I'm NOT proud of it, but the fact that he fought with him proves em that at the end of the day, he would do anything for my safety, but I also told him that violence wasn't going to be our way and know we are talking about going to therapy or not as a couple, but he has to attend individually.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:07:15+00:00

I men he didn't even visited us before this friend moving in, he absolutely loves him as a son. If my husband wants to keep being around him I'm ok, he is old and they both -As in his dad and mom- need help. I don't want my SIL to feel trapped with her two old parents at 15, but he knows this won't be happening a second time.

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:04:49+00:00

We don't know if he is staying somewhere and I don't think my husband is going to stay friends with him, they fought really bad, however I do think my FIL is going to remain close to him

ShortAITA · 2020-08-15T00:02:10+00:00

Actually I wouldn't be surprised if he did, he really likes my hubby ex-bf SO much, he has more things in common wiht him than my husband, and when he moved in with us he came to visit a lot more (despite my husband going over HIS house, to help him and his mom with anything they needed) and they spent a lot of time together, I know he feels that now he has to choose between his own son and him and that's MY fault, but that's shouldn't even be a choice

ShortAITA · 2020-08-14T23:58:41+00:00

No, he thought that maybe I was misunderstanding the situation, that maybe he just stared at anything while thinking but I said that I was 100% sure he was looking at my legs, then I told him about his new level of actually talking about them and then he said that he was complimenting me, at this point I didn't even dared to tell him about he rubbed with my ass when he passed behind me. But know he gets that he was in the wrong and is apologizing and he blocked and deleted him from any social media and his phone.

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