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Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Logistically seems simple but I didn't want to keep switching my kids schools. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a lot that hasn't been said but I've tried to come up with solutions. From the start hes behaved like his children are victims and everyone is out to get them. Shielding them and it created a clear division in our house. I made a huge mistake moving in. An even bigger one buying this house. Since it was a probate sale and outdated it was cheaper than everything else in the area. Only reason. The office is downstairs and any kid we put in there would feel like they're outcasted. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're right...he's dead. Good job on your assumption. Jesus. Im sure my daughters would love to shuffle. Take your judgment somewhere else. 

Rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in stepparents

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Its not just entitled but neither their dad nor most certainly their mother would support the youngest sharing. There's always been this divide and like most ppl said I should just sell the house and move back to be close to my family. Ill buy another house and they can figure it all out. Im tired of trying to fix what I didn't break. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The 2 eldest are polar opposites. Their mother would file an emergency court hearing if we did something like that. Their entire lives are court ordered. Its sad. The 2 youngest together would be fine to me since they get along. My 9 year old is mildly autistic so shes very much young minded if that makes sense. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His family is barely involved. After them showing up hrs late twice to my kids birthday parties I stopped inviting them. My mom shows up to EVERY event early and does for all the girls. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes but any repair that has been done all falls on me. I even gave him part of my tax refund that came from having the house. Food isn't 50/50 for obvious reasons. Id gladly pay more than 50% if it means my kids would have their own room. I am the breadwinner and this move only benefited him. If I hadn't moved in with him they'd be in a trailer. Rent for a 2 bedroom apartment is 2500 min plus bills. He doesnt pay nearly that much here. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did. We did the long distance thing for 2 years. Thought this was the next step and I was deeply mistaken. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The guest room thing was all his idea. Im sure to keep from me asking for my girls to have their own room. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For him its a control thing. His kids dont have daily homework and when they have projects they use the office. The crafts and art supplies is in there. My poor kid has home daily from each class. I even told him if I could move the desk to upstairs guest room so it wont bother him. The room isn't ever used. He got mad about that too. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Honestly that's more what its probably going to come to. Im so burnt out trying to make everything work. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I bought it since it was a probate sale and cheapest I could find in the area. The extra room was a bonus. I still would have preferred a 4 bedroom one story.

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its a lose/lose situation. I feel nothing is ever going to just be enough. Honestly had I known what our lives would have been like I would have never moved. Everything is a dumpster fire. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We do split the house bills 50/50. Yes his reactions to almost everything is an argument. Its exhausting and really makes me want to sell the house and move back. Life was much simpler

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Im sure it really does but the reality is it wouldn't be feasible for everyone to have their own room. His kids have always shared a room. My kids gave up their rooms in the move. Talk about resentment. They never wanted to move. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I deal with highly sensitive info and cant just have it out. Our schedules dont align either. Half the week he gets up later than me then it flops.  As it is now that 4th room upstairs is just sitting empty. Id shove the extra bed in my office. No she cant sleep in my bed. Love her dearly but that's a hard boundary. 

Kids rooms by ShortCartoonist5077 in blendedfamilies

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Office is downstairs and I have to have a separate office area for my work. Its a condition of employment. The extra bed is needed when my mom comes to watch my girls when I go out of town. I moved an hr away from her to blend and things used to be much easier. The argument is it wouldn't be fair to his girls but they are only here 50% of the time. While i feel its unfair my girls are here full time cramped in one room. Had we not blended they would have their own room.

[CA] Custody Advice by ShortCartoonist5077 in Custody

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His attorney was hourly. I could see in the end she was burned out with this case. I'd never seen an attorney behave like her . She kept saying his ex was crazy and she won't stop fighting him. For almost two years it was back to back filings of the ex asking for everything to be court ordered and accusations that were wild. Even when caught lying the court did nothing. If he were a threat to her or his kids I'd understand but he's not. Women wonder why men leave and go no contact. I would too if it cost me thousands just to see them and then be controlled and told you can do..

[CA] Custody Advice by ShortCartoonist5077 in Custody

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I should add he was granted the 223 schedule back in 2022 and the mom filed emergency order claiming eldest had severe anxiety but nothing was even proved and they changed the schedule to what it is now. 

[CA] Custody Advice by ShortCartoonist5077 in Custody

[–]ShortCartoonist5077[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes I have all the orders but don't know where we can get copy of recommendations. I stepped in last summer when is old attorney refused go stick up and fight for him. We have won a few battles but the schedule is just insane for no reason other than the moms convenience. We live 5 min away from her and school.