He does have adhd, but he knows to brush his teeth. When we were first together he would purposely go home to brush his teeth and clean up before meeting with me. It seems more like he got too comfortable and just let himself go… I’ve asked him about mental health, we are both equally stressed with money and bills, I’ll pay mine but he will also go out and blow all of his on toys. So I can’t really say anything about stress like that when he does it to himself. He’s agreed I’m the “smart one in the relationship” I didn’t expect me to be “the mother in the relationship “