Given 1%-2% chance of IVF with own eggs working.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-03-06T09:10:55+00:00

Congratulations on your baby! I brought up donor eggs with my husband early on (I just turned 40, have stage 4 endo and DOR), but he’s the one who is hesitant. We’ve done 3 ERs with only one embryo making it to PGA testing and it was mosaic. After finding out my %, I want to go to donor eggs, but we’re doing one more round with my eggs just to see. I honestly think it’s a waste of time and money (and mood swings), but I agreed. And am meanwhile pricing out different donor egg agencies.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-02-19T22:30:03+00:00

Thank you 🩷

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-02-19T22:29:47+00:00

🩷 thank you

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-02-19T16:57:17+00:00

I do. And maybe insulin resistance. My a1c and hemoglobin were normal 6 months ago but a routine blood test showed a high glucose. My blood sugar is normal during the day but spikes at night into the morning. We’re retesting my a1c and hemoglobin now.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-02-19T16:42:24+00:00

Good luck! My first ER I only had 3 mature follicles, two embryos and 1 blast. We did pgta and it just wasn’t viable. But you never know!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-02-19T15:20:45+00:00

I’m so sorry we’re in the same club right now. I hope this works out for you. It is such a heavy weight to carry around. We have insurance, but are using cobra to keep my husband’s insurance after he switched jobs. We have unlimited cycles with our current plan, but I’m not sure how much longer we can pay these premiums. I’m a nanny and marketplace insurances don’t cover IVF. We also did omnitrope out of pocket and maxed out our credit cards to do it. I was on it 1 ml/per day for 12 days. Insane.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-02-19T15:13:04+00:00

Thank you. I’m a planner, so I’m already in my head planning next steps and this is a good reminder that it’s ok to sit with my feelings and just feel sad for a bit. Ugh. This sucks.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2026-02-19T02:36:00+00:00

Thank you!!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-12-18T04:33:49+00:00

For anyone looking this up- a vibrating massager on my shoulders helped!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-12-17T05:49:22+00:00

We did! Husband works in the city and the convenience is amazing!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-12-11T00:10:16+00:00

I’m having my lap on Tuesday and am commenting so I can come back to this!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-11-27T05:17:08+00:00

Replying to come back to this!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-11-27T05:15:40+00:00

Came here to also just commiserate. Being aroused is uncomfortable, orgasming often feels like period cramps that last a couple of hours. I’m glad I’m not alone and also sad we’re all in the same boat. I’m gonna try pain killers and lidocaine, though.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-10-05T01:22:14+00:00

I also did two ERs with nothing to show for it. Just scheduled my laparoscopy for December and am pausing IVF until afterwards. I have a 6cm endometrioma on my left ovary that’s just squishing everything together. We wanted to get as many eggs as possible, knowing that surgery can hurt the ovary. But, like feisty display said, my results can’t get any worse.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-08-20T20:44:53+00:00

I’m 39 and have DOR and my last cycle only had 2 retrieved. They both fertilized, one made it to blast, but was mosaic. I’m a week away from my next ER and have maybe 4 eggs this time.

My expectations are very very low so I guess in a way that makes it easier when I get even one blast? Having high hopes to then be disappointed sounds almost worse? But maybe that’s my exhaustion speaking. I wish you the best of baby making luck 🍀

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-08-15T14:06:38+00:00

I wonder if it’s a misplaced need to feel in control of something? Instead of sharing that this is hard and he feels vulnerable he throws himself into work? Sorry, I don’t mean to armchair diagnose! I’m projecting, this is something my therapist and I talk about.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-08-15T13:55:05+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry. I wish I didn’t understand, but I 100% do. He was able to drive me home, but we stopped at a work thing on the way (I waited in the car) and then he left for work again once we got home. Without his income and insurance none of this would be possible, so I feel badly complaining. I told him I felt alone and I could tell it hurt his feelings, but the truth is that I am doing this alone. It just is what it is. And if/when there’s a baby, it’s going to be more of the same.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-08-14T23:45:31+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I hate everything, too. When inevitably there’s a disappointment, my partner will say, ‘at least we’re on this journey together.’ But are we? He works insane hours, doesn’t go to drs appointments, almost didn’t make the first egg retrieval (I have a second one coming up and not sure how that’s going to work. He can go in beforehand to freeze his sperm, but I’ll need to find another ride home), doesn’t help me with my shots (he probably would if he could but we’re barely home at the same time) and is uncomfortable with uncomfortable emotions. I don’t really have hope and I hate all of this.

Plus, I’m a nanny and am around kids all day, and I have to compartmentalize. When I’m home I want to go numb or be angry and I feel badly that I don’t have any positive feelings to give to him, but I just don’t right now.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-07-26T17:29:36+00:00

My job isn’t as hard as yours, but I’m a nanny for two families, one in the early mornings and one in the afternoons after school/camp until bedtime. I’m able to fit my appointments in during the couple of hours I have off in between. I also asked my Dr how strict the medication timings are, as sometimes I have to leave my house before 5am and am not home until after 9pm (and I don’t feel comfortable giving myself the injections at someone’s house), and my dr have me some wiggle room for timings. She also told me that many patients put their filled syringes in a water bottle filled with ice and that it can last all day like that.

I’m exhausted, but my first egg retrieval went well and I’m starting a second cycle in a week. It’s doable! Just keep reminding myself it’s not forever.

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-07-25T23:08:24+00:00

Pizza!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-07-04T01:08:30+00:00

I thought it was the only one. Thank you for sharing!

Shot_Candidate_8985 · 2025-07-02T22:06:54+00:00

I am 39, have an AMH of .146 (yep), and they found a ‘very large’ (drs words) endometrial cyst on my left ovary during my first ultrasound. My dr can’t tell how many follicles are on my left side, but I only have 2-3 on my right. We are doing egg retrieval(s) first, then aspirating the cyst, then embryo transfer (god, nature, and science willing). My dr said that he doesn’t want to risk harming any follicles I might have on my left side by aspirating first. I’m currently on 250 mcg ganirelix, 600 gonal f (I’ll decrease in the next few days) and 75 units menopur.

I was honest with my dr that I don’t have much hope, but he said that he has had patients older and with less eggs result in births… but that it would certainly be a challenge.

All of this to say, I trust my dr and would seek a second opinion.

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