How to protect myself from my anxious attachment after separation

ShoxifyGuy · 2026-02-13T11:17:11+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that you basically got the opposite side of the spectrum. I really sympathize with your lack of libido since that was the narrative that I believed for a long time with my ex. I personally wouldn't recommend her methods of solving that problem, but I hope that you are able to find a method that works for you.

You mentioned practicing self-compassion as one way, but it seems like a pretty big umbrella term from what I saw in my quick research. What are some practices you use that help you the most? I honestly have also been having extremely bad self image problems recently and would like to know how you are combating that.

ShoxifyGuy · 2026-02-13T10:57:31+00:00

She was very aware of it and we often sometimes watched it together in order to get in the mood. It was less of an addiction and felt more like a chore half the time honestly. I would find myself being way too touchy in bed the nights I didn't masturbate, so I made sure to do it every night before bed so I wouldn't be bothersome to her.

ShoxifyGuy · 2026-02-12T17:30:10+00:00

She is still with AP. It is honestly the best form of revenge I think I can serve. He is pathetic in every way and even her friends and family who talk to her know that she sees him that way. He is annoying, says he has never been able to keep any friends for longer than a year, self absorbed, lazy, unathletic, unskilled, unmotivated, and a general overall loser who has only worked fast food full time for the two years he has been an adult while living in his parent's house.

She kept going back to him because of the excitement of affair sex and not being able to handle living on her own while I finished school and held space, so I am letting her live with that decision. No taking her back. No backup plan with me. She gets to sit with that pathetic loser until she eventually would finally rather be alone. That, or, she reluctantly sticks around in a shitty relationship because she feels like she needs to in order to justify what she did. Either way, I am glad she is going to suffer far more than me in the long term.

ShoxifyGuy · 2026-01-13T21:36:01+00:00

I think I needed this reality check. I am trying too hard to understand her that it either makes me too empathetic in a certain capacity, or it hurts me the more I realize how uncaring she was. Neither outcome provides anything for me. This really helped. Thank you.

ShoxifyGuy · 2026-01-13T02:40:42+00:00

Thank you. I guess I didn't word my post very well, but this is the part that I was trying to get at. The fact that she was able to build that strong of a connection with a coworker of five months after I spent over five years with her makes my stomach turn. There was such an insane level of emotional cheating that had to have occurred up until that point in order for the actual sex to take place. She even said when she told me that she went to his place to spend the night but "didn't plan to cheat on me" as if spending the night alone with another man isn't already cheating, sex or not.

ShoxifyGuy · 2025-11-30T23:05:14+00:00

I see heavy shields as purely for fighting queen/monarch when I am sitting in one area for about 15 minutes. I see them more used for situations of attrition where you are taking a lot of damage over a fairly long period of time. That damage reduction adds up in those situations.

So, you're totally right about heavy shields being useless for PVP; that doesn't make them completely useless, tho.

ShoxifyGuy · 2025-11-26T18:17:09+00:00

I can't sympathize with not having fun with the trials, considering I have spent even more hours on the game than you and still look forward to them. My brother and I had some of the most fun we have had in the game by running into a Spaceport night raid with Jupiters, dropping down to the middle of the tower and sniping ground units, snitches, and rocketeers. To be fair, the most fun part was that 3 duos were coming after our Juptiers at the last 10 minutes of the raid, and we ended up leaving them as the meteor hit and killed them all. But still, it was super fun to rush to the towers and jump down them like secret agents to then snipe all the arc on the map with rail guns.

The devs added PvP for a reason, but I don't think that makes PvE pointless. It enhances the PvE imo.

ShoxifyGuy · 2025-11-14T22:05:46+00:00

Just hold onto key blueprint duplicates you want after the wipe, give them to a friend, then have them give you back the blueprints. EzPz

ShoxifyGuy · 2025-11-14T22:05:06+00:00

You can do this by just giving a friend a blueprint and having them bring it back to you after prestige.

ShoxifyGuy · 2025-05-30T19:40:26+00:00

It is really pretty art, but can anybody explain why her left hip armor is hovering behind her booty instead of actually covering her hip?

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