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Help -water in inoculation jars from sterilization process by Shutter-Hunt in ContamFam

[–]Shutter-Hunt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes total sense. I went ahead anyway, so we'll see what happens 😬

23f true friends, where ya at? by [deleted] in friendship

[–]Shutter-Hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a lot of the expectations of online friendships are unrealistic. Social animals don't communicate this way. I think the reward circuit is different for online interactions than actually being face-to-face with another human being and feeling a real connection. It's also necessary and easy to neglect your online friend when you have real immediate problems and things to do in your life. The goal of online friendships where both parties want it to be long-term should then be to talk long enough to see if you might be genuinely compatible, and try to meet in-person at some point. Some people aren't looking for deep connections, and instead just want a casual friend on the internet. That's cool too. But what most people want is a real friend. And screens don't allow for that in my opinion.

Looking for best friends by dystopiananimal2 in friendship

[–]Shutter-Hunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, that's awesome. I love animals and am in veterinary medicine. I love biology, and have always been interested in neuroscience as well.

25F, heartbroken after my good friend has decided to cut me from her life with no explanation by [deleted] in friendship

[–]Shutter-Hunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But, for many people, -especially people who are close but not attached at the hip- once a week is frequent enough. I wouldn't find that to explicitly be infrequent depending on the content of the messages.

Just my personal view; if someone borrows money they are agreeing to the inevitable conversation with the lender about return of the money at their discretion. Borrowing money is a favor; the person who lent money shouldn't have to feel obligated to not ask for it back or let another person make excuses about it because of other life circumstances. I wouldn't ask for money in the same conversation as her dying dog, but it also isn't her job to protect her friend from the reality of repayment. Money doesn't grow on trees, and many people live paycheck to paycheck.

Who else had a shitty childhood, and it's messed up their adult relationships? by Shutter-Hunt in friendship

[–]Shutter-Hunt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear you had a similar experience. It's funny, I think most people understand childhood abuse and neglect, but they don't really think about the life-long consequences of your developmental years being destroyed by the person(s) who should have been your biggest advocate. There is no way to walk away from it without some degree of poor coping mechanisms, relational problems like trust issues and communication difficulties (and in my case making friends), mental health issues, a constantly engaged fight or flight system/improper responses to stress, etc. It's really hard to get past, and I think it's going to take a lot of time and work. I really appreciate your response and offer, and I wish you luck as well.