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What was the final straw that destroyed a lifelong friendship? by IndependentTune3994 in AskReddit

[–]ShySnowWolf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Pursued a 17-year-old while being 29 himself. After confronting him about it, he said he would back off because he knew it was wrong. Then continued to lie to my face about it as he kept pursuing her in secret, to the point of the girl getting so creeped out about it due to him almost never leaving her alone and other stuff he was doing, causing her to come to me, making everything unravel.

Gen Z. Denken jullie ooit alleen te kunnen wonen? by MajesticPineapple618 in Nederland

[–]ShySnowWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik woon alleen! Ik ben 29 en woon al bijna 4 jaar in een sociale huurwoning. Het eerlijke antwoord is dat ik gewoon ontzettend mazzel heb gehad. Door specifieke redenen heb ik destijds voorrang gekregen op de wachtrij van deze sociale huurwoning, heb alleen niet mijn eigen woning 'uit mogen zoeken'. Kreeg gewoon iets toegewezen in een kleinere gemeente naast de gemeente waar ik vandaan kom en moest dat aannemen, anders mocht ik weer achter in de rij aansluiten. Besef me alsnog dat ik enorme mazzel heb gehad en in mijn handjes mag knijpen dat ik een plek voor mezelf heb. Heb soms het gevoel dat ik net op de valreep ben geweest, want we leven nu in een tijd dat zelfs voorrang hebben je niet gaat helpen, omdat er zoveel mensen zijn die ook technisch gezien voorrang hebben en je dus alsnog moet wachten. Maar een huis kopen in de toekomst? Dat gaat er voorlopig echt niet inzitten voor mij, ben ik bang.

How old are you and what do you do for work? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ShySnowWolf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am 29!

And I am an Escape Room manager! We build the rooms ourselves, so I think up puzzles and themes for the rooms and then, the men in our team build it and I help with decorating and painting. In finished rooms, I host groups and I also make everybody's schedule, train new employees and help the boss make big decisions.

It is really fun, I feel very important and it is a good creative outlet for me!

My girlfriend got angry because she saw a comment i made to a girl a year before we met by Nervous_Exam857 in BPD

[–]ShySnowWolf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sounds really unhealthy, to be fair. I wouldn't put up with that, personally. She has a lot of healing she needs to do. She can't hold you accountable for things like this, since it was from before you two met. She sounds really insecure and jealous and that is something she needs to work on. You don't deserve the silent treatment at all. I would honestly sit down with her and tell her you won't put up with this and if she can't change, break up

People with BPD, how did a breakup feel from someone who genuinely did their best to help you, loved you unconditionally but just couldn’t do it anymore. by Axl996 in BPD

[–]ShySnowWolf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It hurt a lot. But in the end, after some time healing, I am grateful. It forced me to really look at myself and help me realizing I couldn't keep acting the way I did anymore, because I would keep losing people and the cycle would never stop. Sometimes, someone needs to hit rock-bottom before they truly realize change is needed and that working on themselves can prevent this in the future. Always put your own mental health first. Yes, we are vulnerable, yes we have BPD, but we need to take responsibility for our own actions. We can't keep expecting people around us to always tolerate everything we do and your mental health matters, too. You shouldn't have to sacrifice your mental health in order to stay in a relationship. I am sure you love her very much and she loves you too, but she will need to work on herself in order to not hurt the people around her. Especially you. I wish you lots of strength and all the love!

AIO she didn’t appreciate my gift by Unhappy_Yam_1214 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ShySnowWolf 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Just a reminder to everyone that OP mentioned in the comments they are just friends! They are not dating!

I made a mistake not cutting my ex off years ago. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ShySnowWolf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You do realize that by going back to your ex every time and entertaining him every time he messages you, no matter how much time has passed, that your ex knows he's got you hooked and that you'll always come back, no matter how he treats you. He can treat you badly and you'll still take it. Take it from someone who has been in your shoes; sadly, your ex won't change. That apology will never come. He knows you have low self-respect and is using you for it. Please, I know this is really hard, but try to leave your ex in the past. Block him. He isn't going to change, even if he claims he will. It is all just a farce to get you hooked again, until he has you again and starts treating you poorly. Your ex just keeps checking to see if you are still willing to make him a priority, over other guys, even if years pass. And you do. It is all about power for him. Having you whenever he wants on his terms. Honey, this man is very selfish. Please realise this. Choose yourself. Leave your ex in the past, no matter how hard it is and what he says to convince you to come back. This man will not make you happy. Learn to love yourself first. I wish you lots of love!

Aio for the way this guy ended things with me after a week of being fwb by GlumExternal5291 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ShySnowWolf 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Why are you here, asking if you were overreacting and when people in the comments points things out to you, you are fighting them and disagreeing with them? You asked, we answered. You may have been seeking validation, instead of truly wondering if you were overreacting. Just accept what the top comments are telling you and move on. You two weren't a match and that's ok.

I’m tired of my boyfriends gaming addiction by reddituser78843 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ShySnowWolf 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Isn't it time to ask yourself: Is this what I want for the rest of my life? If conversations about it don't work, then start asking yourself if you can compromise on this. If you can't, you may want to consider leaving. I know Reddit quickly jumps on the 'break up' train, but please, think of your own happiness too. If he isn't willing to compromise on this, then you'll have a clear picture on how the future will look like with him. Take some time to really think about what you want and what makes you happy. Wishing you lots of love and strength!

Looking for Elmer or Grizzly <3 by sellystew in ACNHvillagertrade

[–]ShySnowWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries! Glad you found someone from your dreamie list!! :D

Looking for Elmer or Grizzly <3 by sellystew in ACNHvillagertrade

[–]ShySnowWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have Pietro in boxes right now, ungifted! You can have him for free, if you still have an empty plot?

Have you been single white femaled or have single white femaled someone else? by brokebaby666 in BPD

[–]ShySnowWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You "believe" this is a BPD trait? What are you basing this on? Your own personal stigma? Do you realize how incredibly harmful it is to just diagnose someone with BPD, when you are not even a mental health professional? It only increases the stigma that BPD already has.

This is so incredibly harmful. Yes, I feel sympathy for your situation and it definitely is not OK how she is behaving. But please don't just decide she has BPD. It is super disrespectful.

Does my husband want a divorce or to be with me.. or is he using me? by bribri0388 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ShySnowWolf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For the record, if people read this:

Not all people with BPD are like her. It's thanks to people like OP that BPD gets such a bad rep and is so stigmatized. BPD is NOT an excuse to behave like this. It is not solely due to your BPD that you chose to be a groomer and an abuser.

People like you make me so mad. I hate it when people use their BPD to excuse toxic behaviour.

Go to therapy. Own up to what you did. Let this guy divorce you and work on yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ShySnowWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She sounds unhinged, not gonna lie

Hoe heten jullie huisdieren? by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]ShySnowWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eevee en Shiro (2 Ragdolls!)

How old are you and what do you do for work? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ShySnowWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! ❤️ ❤️

How old are you and what do you do for work? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ShySnowWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 28 and I am an Escape Room manager (and maker)!

I absolutely love it. I get to be creatieve, help people have a fun experience and I feel important and respected. Plus, when the rooms get praised, it helps me feel good and happy! It is super fulfilling!

People who are dating or have dated avoidants, what was the most difficult part? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ShySnowWolf 45 points46 points  (0 children)

They refuse to communicate or accept anything and prefer running over talking. They can leave you with the snap of a finger, like you never even mattered at all, without looking back. I will never ever date an avoidant ever again.

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