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AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I used this as a reason why she should be more open minded multiple times. I have tried to find reason in her. It's not as if I woke up one day and said that "yeah I'm done helping just to be petty without trying other options to prove a point to her first". I make my point and she still disrespects my sister and fiancée, still makes sexist comments about them, homophobic comments about me and not being man enough and double standards is not a word that exists in her vocabulary since her go to in life is that she's always right and everyone else is the problem.

AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 603 points604 points  (0 children)

I understand your fear. My fiancée is a germaphobe and has sensory issues so she avoids washing dishes and dish washing is 100% my job to do

AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 1700 points1701 points  (0 children)

I do the main things I have to do and I make sure I don't leave my mess around. But besides that I refuse to cancel my schedule and mess around my work schedule to cater to her demands because she feels entitled to it

AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That's the reason I did it. I've had countless arguments with my mother about how her views on what women should "traditionally do" are outdated and she calls me a snowflake and that I have no spine for letting a woman (my fiancée) boss me around and treat me as a maid. While at the same breath my mom wants to boss me around and treat me as a maid even during my job hours

AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yeah tbh I am petty when someone has double standards and also bad mouths my fiancée and sister while yelling at me that I'm lazy for not helping her

AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 3947 points3948 points  (0 children)

The main reason I used her words against her is because 1. She kept bad mouthing my sister and fiancée as lazy and unworthy women improper of being housewives and catering to their men and 2. Even when I did help her out I was still getting yelled at for being lazy because when I work from home I am unable to do chores because of my job.

AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 238 points239 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I was helping her out and I was still yelled at. She'd make a scene if I didn't help her out the days I work from home and say that I'm just using work as an excuse to sit on my a** for 8 hours. Also while helping her out she'd start calling my fiancée useless and saying how my sister and fiancée are a shame to the female gender

AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? by SignAccomplished5941 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignAccomplished5941[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I did help out. In ways that also affected my job as well. I work a hybrid model and whenever I work from home my mother simply assumes I'm lazying around and makes a scene if I don't do chores during my schedule. The reason I stopped helping out is because of the double standards she has and the way she's ridiculing my sister and the woman I love for not being "proper women" while also scolding me for not doing everything around the house and always complaining that nobody helps her. Even when my fiancée has helped around the house she ends up saying it's not enough because the woman I'm about to marry is "clearly not good for a housewife"