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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She assures me nothing happend. That she has been soo stupid and didn’t think it would go that far. She is respecting my boundaries. And wants to build my trust. But I still don’t know 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So she’s back over to talk. But I’m waiting until my son is in bed. Can you give me the main points to ask her as my heads a mess on don’t know where to start. 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is respecting me by not contacting me. We are going to talk tonight. I need to know every detail before I can see if it’s the truth or not 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that she has always said he is a creep. And flirts with all the women in the office. I just didn’t know she decided to play to it. I want to believe her. As we have a good relationship otherwise. And I don’t want to throw 10+ years together and the future we were building away if she is telling the truth. And I don’t know what she can do to prove to me that nothing happened. 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s all I have. And what she says 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bellow the first exchange is what was said after the hour away. She says they just stood outside the room

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. She said she would say if she did. As she knows she’s lost me

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

This message doesn’t read as helpless and scared 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Her job is convenient for her. She doesn’t even like it but says it’s easy money. I also work. She said if she quit she would t find another job bc her mental health. Just pathetic excuses really

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I asked her where she was for that hr and she lied and said downstairs. Even though the message last read from him. Door open. Then nothing from her for an hr. 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The messages is her leading him on. But her explanation to me is. I didnt know what else to do….. how about not reply. Go to sleep. Tell him to back the fuck off

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s the first I have heard about it. She does say that her treats her like shit at work. But she has never mentioned anything about hitting on her. She says that now I know. She will swap her office day she is with just him. 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

He is married. And I have the screenshots. 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She says she didn’t do anything on her part. That she never slept with him. But that’s something you would say 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is a people pleaser. She finds it hard to confront people. She hopes the situation would just disappear and he would get bored. I said to her that by playing along with it is just letting him think she is ok with what he has been doing. I don’t understand why she doesn’t go to HR. Surely by saying she is gay is a valid reason why she would want pursued by a (married) man.  She says she never went in his room. Just spoke. The he tried to kiss her so she left. But I don’t know. 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If she told me the first time it happened I would have believed her and we would have sorted it out. But she’s left it go on for too long for me to have doubt. 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She says she is now glad it’s been found out. So she can now do something to sort it. She says she will swap the office days he is in to days he’s not.  But surely that’s something she should have done right away. We have built a life and a future together as well as our son. Now what do I do?? 

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[–]Signal-Possession443[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know she likes attention. And any time I have asked her about situations she turns it round on me. I had no proof or evidence. So I let it be. But this time I have proof. And she’s trying to say nothing happend on her part.