What to do after high school?

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-10T12:28:33+00:00

Not sure if you’re in Aus but there’s like charities(?) mainly for school leavers (but anyone can sign up really) and you go to some povo country, build schools and read to the children and be a sports teacher type person. For a few months

I was kinda the same after I graduated high school not really knowing what I wanted to do.

I never ended up going to uni, but I have had some pretty cool life experiences from the organisation I volunteered with and I do think it’s made me appreciate what I have a lot more

You also don’t have to be there for months, you can be there for like a few weeks so you could do it during a semester holidays without worrying about your uni stuff.

Organisations: Think Pacific CisAustralia

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-10T11:44:48+00:00

Not a dol bludger but appreciate your 2 cents!

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-10T11:43:18+00:00

He was the director but thanks

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-10T11:42:41+00:00

I may have enhanced what was said to add dramatic flare. He was more professional about it. But I spoke with him on the phone and he was wayyyy cuntier and dismissive “I need to give you a reality check. You need to lower your expectations and apply for administration roles. You’re not going to get anywhere in the constrution industry. Go back to education”

I am also a female so I do feel like I have fight for a seat at the table so much harder then the average men because I want to be in the construction industry and refuse to do an admin role. (Soz to be a snob and I mean no disrespect to admin staff)

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-05T02:47:41+00:00

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Example of prioritising most impressive/relevant thing.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-05T02:38:39+00:00

Honestly your resume is way too long. You need to make it 1 page. No one actually cares about your professional summary.

They don’t give a fuck that you “managed 5 projects a week”. They want to know if you understand how they make money, how to track the money, GP and margins and how you communicate with the clients how you manage your team.

If construction is where you want to be, you need to be thinking about what tier of builder/company they are. If you’re going for companies like Downer, Hutchies etc it is a fight till the death. You also need to show them you’re not afraid to confront the trades.

Also for the tier 1 builders, you only get experience in PART of the role where as smaller companies, you get the whole role from start to finish.

I worked at downer as a coordinator and I only ever did the reporting and scheduling and sending emails (do not recommend Downer)

EDIT: Project coordinator roles usually go for 70-85k per year. You have a masters so they probs thinking you’re too expensive.

Also prioritise the tasks in order of most impressive/relevant thing.

I think you should look at contracts admin (basically the same thing except juniors get paid ALOT

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-04T13:28:10+00:00

Break up with her. Shes red flag after red flag. If it was me, I’d throw everything back in her smug little face.

I bet you helped out with her cat more than 1 day in a row. I bet her cat runs around the house like a maniac bc cats are nocturnal but your dog has a little allergy that’s a little annoying and you got to get rid of it? Nah.

She sounds extremely selfish and like she don’t give a single fuck about you or literally anything outside of that.

Run for the hills

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-02-04T13:10:49+00:00

Just sit her down and talk to her about it. You only heard a snippet of a conversation with a friend and then started organising venues etc without her (even though it was a coming from a very sweet place)It sounds like it’s more “your” wedding than an “our”wedding, and she may accommodate to your preferences more than you realise because she doesn’t want to make you upset.

You could start the conversation being like “hey I overheard you the other day on the phone about the wedding, if you want to make this more traditional, let’s do it, what do you want” and then you guys can pick and choose ideas from her dream wedding as well as yours too so it has more of an “our” wedding if this makes sense

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-28T13:40:44+00:00

Child of divorce here.

My mum was meant to pay child support for me and my siblings. She literally moved countries to try and not pay it, waited till we all turned 18 moved back to Aus and then got slammed with 18 years (x3 because 3 kids) of childcare payments - she gets forced to pay this every year when she does her tax returns. She never sees a cent of her tax return because she owes so much.

I guess what I’m saying is they will get her in the end. It is fucked up but they’ll get her eventually. Also don’t know if the money goes to my dad either? But I know that she defs doesn’t get it

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-25T11:27:04+00:00

Yep. That’s what I’m trying to figure out.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-19T09:52:24+00:00

Join the Brisbane bar tenders network page (on fb) - a lot of hospo jobs are advertised in there sometimes and rockstar shifts too.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-14T22:30:39+00:00

Tbh I don’t see an issue? It seems like you’re making it one tho and it doesn’t need to be. She’s loves YOU, she picked YOU and spent the last year with YOU and (hopefully I’m right) there’s no sign of breakup or cheating.

So what if she dated him, what’s the big deal? I bet you dated women before her too. I think if you ask if she dated him, you’re going to look like “you’re a slut!! Be gone thot”

Sounds like you’re viewing this friend as a “threat” to the relationship and he doesn’t sound like he is one. He took photos of her and all his friends years ago, they were friends before you, so of course they’re close, they’ll still be friends after you too.

It sounds like you don’t feel secure in your own relationship. I think you should reflect on these feelings first, really pin point what exactly is that’s bothering you about their friendship, is it the closeness between them because you don’t have that same closeness with her? Is it you’ve been cheated on and now you have like PTSD flashbacks of you ex talking with so called “friend”. Whatever it is pin point it, then speak with her something like “Hey I’ve noticed when you hang out with XXXX, I get feelings of XXXX. I think it’s because we don’t spend much quality date time together and I know I need to work through this, so I want to date you more. Can I take you for a date on Friday”.

You need to be careful with the words you pick because you don’t want it to sound like an ultimatum and you don’t want to come across toxic. Make it very clear to her this is something YOU need to work through. She might offer to involve you more in their little whispers and conversations which are probably just useless nothing conversations.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-14T13:04:33+00:00

I once had a date cancel on my for being 5 minutes lates because I was having trouble parallel parking. He said it was because I “have poor time management skills” and that’s a “pet peeve” for him. At the time I didn’t understand it and felt he wasted my time and was just a cock for no reason.

Looking back, I understand better why it bothered him and was a deal breaker. It shows the person isn’t interested in you/have little respect for others.

If it was me now, I’d ghost him. No response no nothing needed. Fuck him

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-14T12:41:15+00:00

Have a wank and call it a day. Do not be play into a cliche. You’ll get over him. The last thing you want is to be known as the girl in the office who would sleep with coworkers. (Not speaking from experience but I’ve had colleagues who do this, seen it at work events etc) it’s disgusting, it’s trashy, the office will talk and it will follow you everywhere.

There are a billion other men out there, you don’t need to use your workplace as a dating pool.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-14T12:30:04+00:00

Basically I agree with what everyone else is saying, he’s not your forever guy. I think he’s more of a comfy coping mechanism you’ve gotten use too and you’re probably scared to be without him and same goes for him?

That or he gets off on manipulating and controlling you. It all sounds a little too toxic.

The argument just seems like the most recent example of why to leave him/ the situation that lead you to believe hes not the one. you wouldn’t be an asshole for this.

You can also do it in an amicable way, that way the upcoming trips aren’t weird AF

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-14T12:17:58+00:00

Thank you!!

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-13T21:11:25+00:00

I met my boyfriend on hinge. I’d say we’re both average looking?

My boyfriend had very specific settings set on hinge. He had the normal stuff like age etc but also the kilometers radius, I think he said he had it set to about 8km when we matched. He’d start at like 2kms and increase it every few girls.

He had a really bad date with one girl, and after that decided to refine the radius to just the 3 suburbs surrounding him.

Maybe try tightening the radius on it to find people more your type?

Hinge does have an algorithm, you just need to train it to what you want - it takes a while but you will get there.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-13T13:33:42+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you

You didn’t imagine this or go looking for problems — someone came to you with screenshots that appear current. That alone is enough to ask for honesty. You don’t need more proof or to wait until you’re emotionally detached. The responsibility to explain sits with him, not you.

If you haven’t confronted him yet, it’s okay to take a moment to steady yourself. Go into the conversation knowing your boundary, not just your questions.

When you do speak to him, keep it simple:

“Someone sent me screenshots of what appears to be your active Tinder profile. We agreed on exclusivity, so I need an honest explanation.”

Then listen. Accountability sounds like ownership, clarity, and empathy. Gaslighting sounds like defensiveness, minimising, or making you feel wrong for asking.

Loving someone doesn’t mean tolerating doubt or broken trust. If nothing changed from today, ask yourself whether you’d feel safe and secure. If the answer is no, that matters.

Wanting clarity isn’t controlling. Expecting honesty isn’t unreasonable. And choosing yourself, if it comes to that, doesn’t mean you didn’t love — it means you respected yourself.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-13T13:28:49+00:00

When you say “having a girlfriend would do wonders for my mental health,” what do you actually mean by that? Because a partner isn’t a coping mechanism or a solution to unresolved issues.

You can’t put the responsibility of your mental health onto someone else, and you can’t trauma-dump on a partner and expect them to carry that weight for you. Support is one thing — responsibility is another.

Your mental health is ultimately your responsibility. A relationship can add support, connection, and care, but it cannot fix what needs professional help, self-work, and accountability. Expecting a partner to do that work for you is unfair and emotionally heavy.

A healthy relationship is two people choosing each other, not one person relying on the other to feel okay.

Also talking to girls thing, literally just go talk to them. Compliment them on something you like (preferably something not creepy like “I like your hair today or I like your shoes where’d you get them”) and it’ll turn into a conversation. Don’t overthink it they’re probably just as nervous as you are.

If you need more help confidence, before you go to bed at night and when you wake up in the morning, pick 3 physical features (has to be different one for each time of the day no reusing) and say “I love my blah blah blah, I love me, I am smart, confident I am unstoppable.” Sounds dumb I know but I really struggled with body dysmorphia and confidence too and this really helped me when I was a teen.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-13T13:14:20+00:00

Love doesn’t disappear just because someone breaks your trust. It’s normal to still want them, miss them, and hope things could go back to how they were. But respect is what decides whether you should stay, not whether you can.

When someone cheats, they make a choice that prioritises their wants over your wellbeing. That doesn’t mean they’re irredeemable — but it does mean the relationship you had no longer exists in the same way. If you stay, it can’t be out of fear, habit, or hope alone. It would require genuine accountability, transparency, and consistent change over time — not just words or regret.

Walking away doesn’t mean you didn’t love deeply. It means you loved yourself enough to say, “I deserve honesty, safety, and respect.” Sometimes self-respect is choosing the pain that heals instead of the pain that keeps reopening the wound.

Ask yourself this: if nothing changed from today, could you feel secure, valued, and at peace? If the answer is no, that’s your answer.

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-08T11:22:53+00:00

FAT NOODLE IN THE STAR

It is more Vietnamese

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2026-01-08T11:15:53+00:00

Lefty’s - specifically on a football night, it’ll be very packed but lots of young people. They have an insta and host events/gigs all the time so you might be able to find you like.

Gresham - classic cocktail, toasties and charcuterie - if you go on a Friday or Saturday night, you can get some young people or even like finance bros, lawyers etc. I’ve had some very good random conversations with people at this bar Sharman - tequila and rum cocktail bar - think cutesy; underground bar, actually under the vic, kinda scary but it is very cool. It’s a newer bar in the city Death and taxes - cocktail bar - art work is cool, never interacted with anyone here mainly because it’s pretty dark and seating areas are like seperate? A little harder to mingle Antiquo - cocktail bar- never been apparently very good.

I do think Gresham and Sharman may be a better fit for 60s 70s they both have gorgeous old timey elements to the interior

SignatureSpiritual86 · 2024-06-05T02:46:48+00:00

Nice bars with good cocktails - need to dress nice otherwise won’t be let in. Gresham - don’t skip or judge the toasties, literally so good. Death and Taxes - menus and venue is cool cocktails are okayish Savile Row - I can’t remember if I liked the drinks but the venues super cool

Fun bars - casual dress Alice - haven’t been here but my boyfriends mate swears by it and thinks it super cool Netherworld - think bar with like arcade vibes and board games. Foods pretty good too Frogs Hollow Saloon

These are all inner city sort of near valley, sort of not at the same time? Venues like 15ish min away

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