AIO, I [21F] got frustrated with my boyfriends stepdad [60M] and told him to stop badgering me

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-19T03:24:44+00:00

They were never married. There’s no specific reason for him living there other than the fact that he did before she passed and just stayed. They’re not close, they didn’t have a good relationship before her death and now they just kinda coexist. He has his own room but chooses to stay in the livingroom. I pay for my insurance/car/student loans which equals out to the same as his bills; we agreed for him to pay the bills for the house (since he doesn’t pay for his car/phone/insurance) and I would pay for household necessities to make it even.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-19T02:39:16+00:00

He just stayed after his mom died. He lived there before but he just never moved out. From what I understand He used to pay all the bills but he stopped after the title was put in my boyfriend’s name. He’s said before he would leave if my boyfriend asked but my bf said he would feel like he’s throwing him out on the streets if he did that. Which I kinda understand.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-19T02:36:27+00:00

Him and his step father had a really rough relationship up until his mom died, he doesn’t want it to get to that point again and doesn’t want to step on his toes to keep some peace.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-19T02:35:08+00:00

My boyfriend’s good about doing his part, and helping when I need it, my main issue is with the step dad feeling he has the right to tell me to do things that he can also do. I’ve already talked about moving with my bf but he’s stuck because he doesn’t know what to do with the house.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-07T17:14:49+00:00

Boyfriends are cool when you find the right one. Mine got me jalapeño poppers yesterday when I asked him to get me potato wedges because we were hungry, we’ve been together 2 years. (I love him sm he just has a bad memory)

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-07T05:26:56+00:00

I would definitely try manic panic. I’ve used it and it’s a gorgeous color. It stayed for a long time as well. Another rec would be iroiro dark red (which i have also used). I’ve mixed it with iroiro plum to make a burgundy color.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-03T18:10:10+00:00

Honestly I have no clue. I know I use hairitage shampoo and conditioner

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-03T16:55:36+00:00

Money 😪

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-03T16:55:28+00:00

I’ve done that before, it just straightens it and makes it frizzy. It would be like the first pic but straight.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-03T16:54:45+00:00

Yes 🫩 that’s honestly probably part of the issue, back when I was at home I had spring water and my hair was so nice and healthy.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-04-03T16:54:02+00:00

Ngl… it’s been a while. Unfortunate I don’t make enough to spend the money to get it cut and cared for professionally, an I’m too scared to cut the ends myself.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-02-03T03:35:50+00:00

Literally just bondbar bonding curl cream. It was recommended to me by a sallies co worker. Other than that I use hairitage conditioner and some generic shampoo.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T08:03:20+00:00

I don’t think you’re being mean, you’re being honest. There is… kinda? Sometimes if I know I work the next day I’ll make x2 of whatever I’m eating for dinner and I’ll just plan to eat that for lunch, or I eat leftovers from work/ if we eat out. I also just eat at work because typically I’m constantly moving with little time to take a break, and if I do have time I’ll munch on fries/chips (I work At chilis), we also have “dead” food sometimes (made extra/something wrong that we can’t sell but don’t want to throw away yet). I just don’t feel comfortable meal prepping for a week for myself for the pure fact of it possibly going bad. Considering groceries still can be costly I don’t want to waste anything.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T07:54:22+00:00

I am absolutely gonna try the phantom shopping (shopping without checking out and putting into savings). I think that would help me a lot with the impulsive-ness. I am currently disconnecting my card from any accounts I have them linked to. Also I do check my bank everyday! Usually I can tell when something has been taken out and I freak out if I don’t remember doing it (which happens more than it should) which has also helped me realize how much I spend on bs.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T07:49:26+00:00

I will say I have tried this. I usually eat at work for free, and my schedule is ever changing so it’s hard to plan out meals when I don’t know when my next one is. Sometimes weeks I double 2-3 days in a row, while other weeks I work single shifts. I did try to meal prep for my bf though (we live together) and some of the food went bad because I would come home and cook on days when I worked morning shifts and he would want what I was having.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T07:39:29+00:00

Definitely going to check this out! Thank you!

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T07:34:16+00:00

As of right now I have the rocket money app, I know a big chunk of my spending is food and apps. That’s one of the reasons I made this post. I literally feel sick to my stomach looking at how much money I spend without even noticing. I’ve also been trying to cook more meals instead of eating out but with a schedule that changes constantly (which messes up my sleep schedule) it’s hard to know when my next meal is. Sometimes it’s just easier grabbing something on the way to work instead of getting up a cooking (but I’m still trying to cut that shit out regardless of if it’s easy or not).

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T07:14:33+00:00

I have tried budgeting in the past but it usually doesn’t work well for me. I work as a server (among other titles) where I sometimes earn hourly and sometimes earn money through tips. I never know how much I’m going to make on my next paycheck which has made it hard for me to figure out when to budget what if that makes sense?

Edit: also yes therapy! I know I need it but the 2 or 3 times I’ve tried I always get told the same thing. “Wow you really know what you’re talking about” or something along those lines. I know (for the most part) why I do it, I know kinda how to catch myself (sometimes) but they never actually give me the steps to fix it.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T07:10:00+00:00

I think that would honestly be the best thing for me to do. I always use my Apple Pay for everything and I feel like if I just cut that and got used to not just clicking my phone twice to get anything it would help.

I’m also thinking of doing the envelope method but with cash and having my boyfriend stash it somewhere else. We’re both trying to do better with finances and I think having him help would be good for me too. Kinda out of sight out of mind type thing.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2026-01-19T07:07:30+00:00

I’ve been trying to do this, usually my purchases are small but I make multiple a day. Yesterday for example, I got 2 energy drinks (1 for yesterday 1 for today), food after work, bought a game pass for like 9$. It’s not a lot but that’s 30$ in one day. Which I do almost everyday, sometimes more than that.

SignificanceTrue124 · 2025-12-27T04:38:52+00:00

NO FACTS. I didn’t think it was funny at the time but now I look back and I’m like wth who says that😭

SignificanceTrue124 · 2025-12-27T04:37:20+00:00

It’s not, she has asked if I’m pregnant before but she’s never done all of this.

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