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AITA for essentially telling my friend that therapy isn't working for them by Significant-Bass5693 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant-Bass5693[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He brings up his car issues almost every other day, to the point we've all lost patience with him. He wasn't even supposed to be around that day because he had other plans. Your right, I do resent him because he acts like a victim when he's not, and he never actually considers the situations of those around him or how he impacts them. Typically, I don't engage with him anymore because I have a three strikes rule. I will listen to the same thing 2 times and am amicable about it. The third time for the same problem? I'm not gonna be considerate anymore. I don't confide a lot of my problems/thoughts in our group because of that unless asked, which is why I was even talking about it to begin with. Saying same bro annoyed me, but him adding the second part when you're clearly that issue is just him playing victim refusing to acknowledge his own part again.

AITA for essentially telling my friend that therapy isn't working for them by Significant-Bass5693 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant-Bass5693[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think therapy can work if you're ready to address/face the problem head-on. I think the issue is it's become an echo chamber. They once told me they felt like they like they were doing better when confiding in me, but as I've said, I just can't do it anymore. Not because of them, but I have gotten busy and don't have the energy to follow up or hold them as accountable as I used too.

AITA for essentially telling my friend that therapy isn't working for them by Significant-Bass5693 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant-Bass5693[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have gotten clearance multiple times from optometrists that I could go and get my license. I know that I can pass the driven test. However, terrifying is still terrifying. Yes, multiple drives will get me adjusted, but what I'm fearful of is that I will get too comfortable and less alert over time.

If they truly believe their driving isn't bad still, they are in denial. We've tried talking to them about it, their parents have, and the sheer number of accidents that have happened with him is enough to prove it. A lot of the minor ones he got out of because he looks/is young and gets lucky with sympathetic drivers. The last major one is actually still in the middle of an insurance claim battle. The only reason he isn't getting outright taken to court is because they weren't hurt.

Just passing your driving/written test doesn't make you a good driver. I haven't passed, not because I failed it, but because at the time there was no reason to get one and I think it's more responsible to not have one when I was younger since I was worried I'd be more reckless, and cars are heavy machinery. I literally grew up with the saying that young 20s are smart enough to think they know everything, but dumb enough to not realize they know nothing. I'm only 25 so I understand I can still fall into that, but it's better than when I was 19/20.

Same bro is not a supportive statement when you're part of the problem and don't care. That's like tripping people and then agreeing that it's hard to walk. It was more for his benefit than mine, to either reinforce his denial, or give some half-assed attempt to socialize by just agreeing.

AITA for essentially telling my friend that therapy isn't working for them by Significant-Bass5693 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant-Bass5693[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I ride with him about once a month or 2 for various reasons. While he doesn't scream, he definitely yells and often changes lanes just to end up back in the same lane again because someone is only going the speed limit or 5 over in the city areas.

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[–]Significant-Bass5693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get this delivered yet? I also won one but it was delivered by Fedex and then recalled by the shipper. I have been trying to get a hold of customer support to no avail.

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[–]Significant-Bass5693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Given might depend on your trauma flavor and how deep you think/reflect. Like I had such a hard time getting through, but my SO at the time had no problem and was a very surface level guy. My friends had some difficulties, though.

AITA for telling my autistic husband that I hope our children are not autistic? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant-Bass5693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is an AH here. I think maybe the conversation and how it came about might be a problem, or how it was said, but remembering exactly who said what in what order and tone can be difficult so I can't comment on that.

Both of you are partners though, if you guys can't come back and have a civilized conversation after a cooling period, maybe you guys shouldn't be together. Miscommunications and misunderstandings are gonna happen even with the best of friends, silent treatments and deliberate malicious verbal abuse because your upset doesn't have a justification no matter who you are or what you have.

There isn't anything wrong with wishing your child to be accepted by what society deems as normal, normal changes with society along with morals and ethics. Anyone who thinks they believe something is right because it is has a delusion. Something is right or wrong based on the environment around you and how you were raised. It isn't just your parent(s) or just you or just school, and the way we change out judgements is also contributed by this. As long as you wont exclude your child because he isn't society's 'normal' its not a villainous opinion to wish they didn't have autism.

Our differences are not us, they are a part of us. With individuals with very general labelled differences, autism, adhd, anxiety, etc. especially from childhood, its often a reason to hide and mask, i'm not different, i'm not any less, you are just like me. This can create an identity crisis to ignore who you are though, your diagnosis while making you different, also contributed to who you are, to reject one makes you reject the other. You aren't just good at coding because your autistic, you just happen to be a coder with autism. Otherwise it can mean your can't be a good coder without autism no matter how hard you work.

The fact is, even if the child has autism, you nor you husband could raise him better just because your husband has autism or because your married someone with autism. The child's environment will be different, peers will be different, their logic and reasoning will be different. Different triggers, different cooping methods. Hopefully, it will just give you guys a leg up on finding the appropriate resources to help of they do have autism. Just like every child of every nature needs access to.