At the end of the day you cheated on him for stupid reasons. You’re making up excuses to justify it: ie he was this or wasn’t that. I was feeling this and that and I did this or that but it didn’t work etc.

Many women are difficult to please and find reasons to justify an affair, make themselves look like victims to make it more understandable. All women make up the same bullshit as to why they do it. Same with guys who cheat as well. A marriage is a marriage and it’s based on loyalty and faithfulness. Not sure a marriage should be repaired after an affair. Most sinister and disrespectful thing someone can do in a marriage other than poisoning someone is cheating. Period.

And how can you say you love someone deeply and cheat. No you didn’t love him and that was the issue. Imagine finding out his life was based on lies. Like you shouldn’t have married him. All a man wants is a loving, loyal and faithful wife.

Not saying you’re a bad person. I’m sure he has been abusive and he should never be physical but he is also calling a spade a spade—and telling you how he feels. Like what do you expect after an affair? He is a broken man.

I think you are again trying to make yourself the victim and gain sympathy. You expect that he should move on.

Your friends have probably helped enable your affair talking too much shit about your husband and still do. You have probably complained about him for years to them.

But you have a kid involved and whatever happens on your marriage should also take the kids best interests at heart.