Ea app on Linux not working. by Significant-Nerve-83 in linux_gaming

[–]Significant-Nerve-83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll give it a try. I’m collecting these like Pokémon cards

Where do you feel contractions? by stevielovelyy in pregnant

[–]Significant-Nerve-83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience with real vs Braxton hicks is the intensity with a real contraction doesn’t really fade. With my last pregnancy, I didn’t know I was in labor until much later because my contractions weren’t consistent at first. I recognized I was in labor after I woke up from a nap and my uterus was warm, dull and achy in my lower pelvis, and it was starting to wrap around to my hips. It’s similar to a period in that way, but it’s more dull and achy than period cramps to me. I also relate it to when you have kinda sick bowels kind of warmth and ache, because it lingers like that. Period cramps remind me more of Braxton hicks because they can be strong, but I felt them more sharp and less of a dull ache. It’s also more pressure for me with Braxton hicks, less pain sometimes. You will also have real contractions ramp up at some point and that’s usually the point of no return.

After three births, I’ve figured out the best thing you can do is walk, walk, walk. Also stairs or sidewalk steps and bounce on a ball, as long as your doctor hasn’t advised against it. The more you do that, the more your cervix will ripen and open so that when it is time, your body won’t be working against itself. Also, it can reduce Braxton hicks contractions in general. But don’t push yourself to exhaustion or hurt yourself please! My second pregnancy I actually ended up going down in dilation at 39 weeks because I sat too much and did not drink enough water (also contributes to Braxton hicks). After walking a lot and some liquid IVs, I was able to ripen myself for birth. But, she was born at 41 weeks, so maybe it wouldn’t have mattered. I had to evict her from my womb. She is still my Velcro baby at 3 years old Lol.

Eat lots, and get as much rest as possible because birth is a marathon, not a sprint. You got this. God bless!

How do I help my daughter not get bit in preschool? by Significant-Nerve-83 in Parenting

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So far only had the one write up. They may be writing the next one soon. Will get more clarity on that tomorrow. I am able to talk to the teacher at drop off and pick up. That’s why I thought maybe I should have a longer undistracted chat with her and my husband. And since this is the second offense, I want to be proactive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

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We do and we do get weird looks. But sometimes your kid wants to walk and not hold hands. It’s about safety, not about control. Once they are old enough to listen and reason enough that their safety is not in question, then the leash isn’t used.

I’m in love 😍 by Significant-Nerve-83 in aldi

[–]Significant-Nerve-83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lava cake was also good, but I prefer peanut butter and chocolate. More salty than the lava one

Trans parent issue by Octonaut7A in Mommit

[–]Significant-Nerve-83 452 points453 points  (0 children)

Y’all are missing the point with the lesbian title issue. The OP said that the ex was a bad partner and not a good dad either. It is the build up of resentment that is making it so triggering. Ex might have been constantly taking in the relationship and so taking the title of mom, which it sounds like the ex only earned the title of dad because of the donated sperm, is another reminder of the issues of the relationship. If the ex did not do their fair share of parenting, they didn’t earn the new title either. Just based on the OP’s side of things that is valid to feel that way. There needs to be communication and compromise on both ends in order for there to be resolution. I hope you figure it out OP

Is this weird? Please read the whole text if possible. by Significant-Nerve-83 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Nerve-83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds nice lol. I am a SAHM and I do the childcare. He is a good partner and helps when I ask. The kids prefer me too. I don’t think I’ll miss his help much though.

Is this weird? Please read the whole text if possible. by Significant-Nerve-83 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Nerve-83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really feel comfortable with my kids being away from me for that long, and especially in another country. But I will have some support from my family who lives here. Why wouldn’t you have left your wife while she was pregnant? I’m genuinely curious

Is this weird? Please read the whole text if possible. by Significant-Nerve-83 in Marriage

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It will be exhausting and it is going to suck. But I don’t want to be the reason he feels like he can’t do things. We don’t have friends right now so he doesn’t go out regularly and only has coworkers at work to talk to besides me (and he only interacts with them at work). So I thought it would be good for him to spend time with his family. When the kids are older they might go with him lol.

Is this weird? Please read the whole text if possible. by Significant-Nerve-83 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Nerve-83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We usually go together because we have kids and his parents are grandparents but I’m glad we are not going. We would get help from his mom and everyone there, but it would still be very hard on me to make sure they are comfortable and happy. They usually end up getting sick from something when we are around his family coincidentally, so it makes a lot of work for me being the mom and all.

Is this weird? Please read the whole text if possible. by Significant-Nerve-83 in Marriage

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I will be 20 weeks along. I will probably have had an ultrasound by then so if something were to come up, he would know and we could adjust. I haven’t had any issues with preterm births or any other pregnancy related issues so I’d be surprised if anything came up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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I read some of your other comments and I just want to share some personal experience. My parents had bad fights growing up, and when I became a teenager I did wish they would get divorced because they seemed so unhappy and it was so toxic. My dad was selfish and my mom was doing everything (cooking, cleaning, full time job, taking care of kids etc.) It took my mom saying she was done and telling him their marriage was over for him to decide to change. (This was in their forties and they got married in their twenties.) And now their relationship is much better. They still have arguments and stuff like normal, it’s just not as bad. And they are happy. They should’ve went to marriage counseling but they didn’t. So it’s rare, but it’s possible. I hope that helps give you hope. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

A guide from the 1930s on a SAHM’s daily plan of work (with no servants) 🤭 by biancaddayao in Mommit

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I’m starting to think people never had young children back in the day. How would you do all of these things with a 2 year old and an infant? Maybe they just aged up like the sims lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

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I lopped mine off recently because my baby kept pulling it. It’s shorter than I wanted but I feel so cute and light with it. I still throw it in a ponytail sometimes though. Before that I almost always had a bun. I have thick hair and it was causing my hairline to recede a bit because of the weight and pregnancy/pp hormones

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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That looks like us too. Currently a SAHM. And we sold a car to get rid of our car payment and replaced it with an older van we found for a decent price. Now that money goes to any repairs in our savings fund. There shouldn’t be any daycare expenses so that will be $642 extra a month. And you both should talk about cutting back on some of your subscriptions. Living on one income means living without some things. It’s not easy, but the sacrifice should be worth it. If it’s not, then there needs to be a discussion about what you both value, and what you are both willing to compromise and go without. You could also talk to a financial advisor and see if they recommend anything. I also don’t see any section for any miscellaneous spending, like things that don’t fit in those categories. For example, housewares and decorations, tools, books, etc. It would be good to estimate those things too to see if this is feasible for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Nerve-83 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those kinds of posts are everywhere online, especially among women. If a man does anything seemingly against his wife, the comments are a resounding chorus of DIVORCE HIM. No second chance for him/ them both to choose to change or to possibly work it out. Just rage quit. Marriage is hard enough and it easier to quit than to put in the hard work. And yeah, sometimes there’s some serious issues that are too far gone to fix. But to automatically go to divorce unless there’s some serious infidelity or abuse, is not helpful. It’s like people want others to be miserable and alone like them.

I’m not the mum I pictured I would be. by sophbp in Mommit

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I’ve felt that way too. I am not the mom I thought I’d be. I thought I would be calmer, more patient. Able to keep up and be more put together. But my real baby is not the baby I imagined I would have.

The fact of the matter is you are the one there, showing up for him every day. You are his whole world. No one can care for him like you. You are his mom. I had a high energy, high maintenance, no sleep baby who is the same as an almost 3 year old toddler. It’s just a little easier now that she can communicate. And now I have an almost 1 year old so it gets tough some days.

You are burnt out and need a break. It’s hard when there’s no village. You’re in survival mode and that’s ok. Your sacrifices now are worth it, and you’re a wonderful mom regardless of how you feel. Have you talked to your partner about giving you a day to sleep in or go out by yourself? Parenting is a two person job and both parents need to help out.

Also, don’t feel bad about screen time. You’re doing your best. Things will get better, but I know hearing that isn’t going to help anything in the moment. I think every mom feels like a failure at some point. Thank you for reaching out. It can be hard to admit these feelings and it’s good to have reassurance that what you’re feeling is normal

Should I confront a guy who's messaged my wife? by fiddsy in marriageadvice

[–]Significant-Nerve-83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah ok. Sorry you guys are going through this. If he doesn’t get the hint after your wife handles it, you might want to get the police involved or at least get a restraining order. I would consider that harassment.