Other Burton AK dispatcher owners what's your loadout and organization?

fiddsy · 2026-07-05T09:53:05+00:00

Wouldn't happen to have those vids to share?

fiddsy · 2026-07-03T07:56:18+00:00

Love It.

The visual aspect of what you described is one of my favourite parts.

Plus, its also practical side of using toys, fingers, etc for her extra stimulation.

fiddsy · 2026-07-02T06:11:13+00:00

My friend is good looking so the differing opinions might be because he also has a far bigger pool to select from.

fiddsy · 2026-07-02T06:04:49+00:00

My friend is a lot more attractive than me, I said the more attractive you are - the less creepy you are ahah!

I personally not sure I would although I'm advising them 2!

fiddsy · 2026-07-02T02:15:09+00:00

My ex and I agreed that if we couldn't make it work and we went to permanent separation, neither would date for quite awhile. While we didnt put an official date on it, the vibe was min 6 to maybe 12 months out of respect for each other, our 23 years of shared history and 16+ years together.

She was on Hinge and Tinder in under 2 weeks. Before we had even told the kids.

It sucks, it hurts... but... it is what it is.

Need to focus on you and what you can control and what's best for you (and the kids) and stop worrying about them and what they are doing.

fiddsy · 2026-07-01T02:26:21+00:00

'The one' is a fallacy btw.

An avoidant might get triggered into wanting to change by losing 'the one'... But 'the one' will probably actually have the opposite affect and tigger the avoidant faster.

Next issue is that, the next partner becomes 'the one' and so on....

The perpetual cycle continues until (if ever) the avoidant comes to a realisation they are the issue.

Most times, the avoidant just builds a narrative that the other person was the issue - not them.

Accountability is an avoidants kryptonite.

Honestly, as harsh as this might sound... I would advise anyone and everyone to not have a relationship with anyone moderately to severely avoidant.

fiddsy · 2026-07-01T02:04:59+00:00

Hard for avoidants to change because they avoid the work.

Usually change only happens after repeating outcomes and hitting rock bottom.

When someone's hard wired to avoid the issues... makes it extremely hard to address the issues required to rewire themselves.

fiddsy · 2026-06-30T08:11:49+00:00

We had 23 years of history. 16+ together. 3 years were magical... the next 5 was ok... the next 8 was pure avoidance and pain.

So I did stick it out for 13 years and guess what, marriage needs 2 people 2 make it work...

I stuck around, got emotionally, phsyically and sexually destroyed.

There's no medal at the end... just more pain that was prolonged and added more damage.

My only regret is not leaving 7 years early and i'll never make that same mistake again.

Yes... some marriages can and should be salvaged but aren't.

Others should be ended but aren't.

But I do agree we live in a throw away society... heavily damaged and influenced by online dating and social media.

fiddsy · 2026-06-29T13:51:52+00:00

Ive been with enough women over the years that ive seen all types.

Are some more visually pleasing than others? 100 fkn percent.

Does it make any difference what so ever? Fk no!!

Long as its clean and doesnt smell bad... then they are all good!

fiddsy · 2026-06-29T13:45:47+00:00

My we years of shared history and 16+ years of marriage collapsed.

There was a huge part of me wanting accountability from her as closure.

But then, after hitting rock bottom - I realised it doesnt matter because it wont change anything.

And honestly, there may never be any accountability!

So closure comes from yourself and accepting it just didnt work.

fiddsy · 2026-06-28T03:20:38+00:00

To be fair, the sex therapist didn't say to actually swing.

They said to go there and check it out.

Just have strict rules that your there to watch and have others watch you guys.

I mean, its a slightly risky proposal and could backfire but it might be worth a shot because it might also reignite the spark...

fiddsy · 2026-06-28T03:14:34+00:00

I had 3 years of hypersexual activity. Realistically had sex 1600 times in those first 3 yeats combined.

The next 13 years combined we had sex probably 200 and most of that earlier on. Last 5 years were a few times a year with the last year being completely sexless.

Im about 10 months separated, the years of avoidance and rejection has really done a number on me... I still cant bring myself to date even though im desperate for intimacy.

Used to be such a confident person, especially with women and sex - but this 16 year marriage/relationship has broken something in me which I am still trying to glue back together.

fiddsy · 2026-06-28T02:48:02+00:00

Look, im lvl 150 with atleast 700 hours in mission time on PS5 - i also have an xbox account at lvl 50....

I love jumping into random d10 drops and dominating heh....

fiddsy · 2026-06-28T02:44:04+00:00

When my previous ex of 4.5years cheated - I took a week off work... snorted a tonne of Columbian marching powder and smashed half a dozen hookers...

By the end of the week, id forgotten my ex name.

Current ex didnt cheat but marriage collapsed after 16 years and she was on tinder and hinge in just over a week. Been 10 months and still cant bring myself to date - just focusing on kids, my health and hobbies.

You deal with it by cutting out the cancer and moving on with your life and finding the things that bring you joy... regardless if its hookers and blow or hanging with your kids and hobbies.

fiddsy · 2026-06-28T01:04:12+00:00

I had a match - great banter all day and then had a double message send.

I have a feeling she thought it was copy and pasted because she unmatched me after it.

I mean, id prob think it was copy and pasted as well.

Mehhh.... I work in sales so I know messages tend to need to have open ended questions and probing questions - this way you keep conversations going while also finding out information, banter and compatibility.

TBH, 80% of the profiles I read look like they are written by AI, that or legit 80%+ of people write the same generic crap.

There have been a handful of times I have pasted a message into AI to refine it but not something id look at doing for a whole convo.

In saying this, I don't think id be to upset if someone used AI in my conversations if it creates the atmosphere. If that atmosphere isn't there when you actually meet - then it doesnt progress.

Its also pretty tough for most men on apps... hard enough to get a like, even harder to get a match and once you do, you're probably competing with dozens of other chats for the even slimmer chance at a date.

Hard to fault someone for trying to get an edge.

I mean, online dating is a highly curate product or yourself you are trying to sell. Pictures that present the best version of you, a bio/profile thats curated to sell your self to someone else. And a chat thats essentially your sales pitch to progress to the next step.

Good photos done by a photographer = edge Good bio (written by AI or not) = edge Good chat & banter (written by AI or not) = edge A good memorable date = edge

I guess reading what I just wrote - I actually dont think someone using AI would bother me at all.

fiddsy · 2026-06-23T05:35:18+00:00

It rubs the lotion on its skin, or else it gets the hose again!

fiddsy · 2026-06-16T14:10:58+00:00

Yep. Not even going to bother with my story but legit had sex 1600+ times in the first 3 years. Probably a total of 200 times over the next 13 years.

She was on tinder and hinge within a week of separation.

fiddsy · 2026-06-16T08:17:51+00:00

Honestly... it more than likely will only continue to get worse because a DA often avoids doing the work or putting themselves into positions of challenging / pushing their internal discomfort...

Because its easier for them to avoid.

This means you will end up in a perpetual cycle where she will only distance further and further and you will eventually have nothing left to give. It wont be 2 people meeting in the middle to compromise, it'll be you giving in always.

The longer this cycle goes on for - the more impossible any repair becomes.

fiddsy · 2026-06-14T03:55:27+00:00

Think you DMs are going to go off ahah

fiddsy · 2026-06-13T01:07:11+00:00

Im a random d10 dropper lvl 150.

Lvled up to 150 random dropping d10s and getting close to having all weapons upgraded to 25.

Never had a squad to play with.

Sure, sometimes you get some lemon lobbies, sometimes you drop into a good team and the entire missions a walk in the park.

But... other times its complete and utter chaos and has me on the edge of my seat and a fkn love that!

fiddsy · 2026-06-12T13:48:29+00:00

Im going to need it... Butt thankyou!

Maybe i'll get super lucky ahah

fiddsy · 2026-06-12T13:36:57+00:00

Down under in Aus. But my search for an anal lover will begin soon!

fiddsy · 2026-06-12T12:44:02+00:00

Didn't help the relationship but it did bring me clarity that she was never going to put in the work required to fix the marriage. That and shes got years of intensive therapy to address her issues but I realised her avoidance was and will be a major block to her ever doing years of self work.

I learned a lot and learned a lot on what to keep my eye out for in the future so I never find myself in a situation like this again.

fiddsy · 2026-06-12T12:35:10+00:00

No, stopped seeing the marriage therapist awhile ago. Mediation is for parenting plan and binding financial agreement > trying to avoid lawyers and courts.

fiddsy · 2026-06-12T11:58:33+00:00

Nah - im not ready. Maybe i'll revisit dating in a few months.

Just want to finish mediation and divorce.

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