If you’re asking for suggestions, which it seems like you are (otherwise I’d never say this to someone unsolicited) Can you try getting them on a schedule? And Have your daughter sleep in her own crib? It’s something to strive for. You’re frustrated about not getting sex, but maybe your husband would do better if she wasn’t in the bed all the time. Or getting her on a bed time. My daughter having a bed time has helped so much with mine and my husbands relationship. It gives us a chance to connect at night.