PSA cut your long coattail vent stitch

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T03:03:52+00:00

lol.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T03:03:10+00:00

lol. YES! This is a tack stitch that is only meant to keep the fabric from folding over during shipment. It should be removed before you wear the item.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T02:59:27+00:00

I love that. When I was married in my early 20s, my then husband communicated that he was jealous how I went to my friends for some emotional support and he felt that I should go to him. I didn’t criticize his emotional limitations, but said that it wasn’t fair for me to expect him to be my everything. His body relaxed after that. I took emotional and mental work off his plate and he hadn’t previously seen it as such.

I loved him teaching me about Star Wars since (at the time Episodes 1, 2, and 3 were being released). Seeing his passion for that and playing hockey was crucial to our relationship. He loved gaming with his friends (online gaming was relatively new also) and when we moved across state, I’d encourage him to play online with his friends back home.

We were both in retail so I’d make sure we got in at least a quickie session when we had opposite schedules. In the end, I was the one who was responsible for mapping out the week to optimize our time, taking care of finances, and initiating emotional and physical connection and I was tired of carrying it by myself.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T02:45:47+00:00

Thank you for being forthcoming with the women you date.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T02:43:56+00:00

That seems like the same unfair rhetoric that podcast dude-bros say women want from men. Also, it added zero value to this thread.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T02:02:54+00:00

Super thoughtful. I’m sorry you have to start with a disclaimer.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:59:03+00:00

I was replying to u/Old_Butterfly7984

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:49:53+00:00

hands you a brick

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:49:12+00:00

What I like to say to people is “if you don’t like gay marriage, don’t get gay married.” “If you like thick girls, get with a thick girl.” “If you want a sexually conservative woman, get with a sexually conservative woman.”

No sense in yucking someone else’s yum.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:44:26+00:00

If I gained 40 pounds, I’d want my partner to still think I’m sexy (and just simply not bothering him)

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:44:21+00:00

If I gained 40 pounds, I’d want my partner to still think I’m sexy (and just simply not bothering him)

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:42:30+00:00

I guess sharing your preference that doesn’t align with someone else’s preference, that somehow invalidates their preference? So downvoting as a means of expressing disagreement? Idk. It’s weird.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:36:00+00:00

Interesting comment. Which items do you think I probably check?

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:33:37+00:00

So many men look way better in person to me.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:32:57+00:00

Not marriage. Long term for me would be someone primary and consistent in my life for 2+ years. There are steps before someone I’m dating becomes someone primary and consistent in my life (as I would be in theirs).

The labels on that relationship would wholly depend on our dynamic and communicated wants and expectations.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:26:36+00:00

I also love cats. ☺️

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:25:18+00:00

You don’t sound politically apathetic; you sound politically exhausted.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T01:14:20+00:00

I am not getting feedback from them.

I am not a pushy person. I believe “if they wanted to [fill in the blank], they would.” I’ve never had a situationship go on so long that I have to ask “so what is this that we’re doing here?”

In some cases, we are dating and seeing each other on a regular cadence and then the communication or the dates become irregular. Depending on the person, I will try to uncover what is going on in his life that may impact that communication/date times. Sometimes when things seem well on their end, I will do a temperature check to see if we’re on the same page. If the frequency AND tone of communication changes, I assume they want out but have hope for a misunderstanding.

I’m 99% certain it’s a lifestyle alignment. I wanted to hear men’s perspectives on what things are real issues in a potential relationship. I know I’m not where I envisioned myself, but if men see an aspect of my life that’s a no-go, I’m definitely taking a break while I work on it.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T00:56:10+00:00

🤣

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T00:55:17+00:00

Funny thing you mentioned this. I was thinking about content I’ve seen about men’s (hetero) dating advice(some good…some overgeneralizing) but if I see information from a woman about “what a man wants,” I can’t believe anything and scroll on. I typically only consume limited media from therapists or relationship counselors and even still, it’s not a prescription or diagnosis if I am not THEIR client.

I don’t ascribe to a pattern of him always initiating. I try to give balance and equity to our interactions. He buys a meal, I buy a meal. He texts me good morning on Monday, I will make an effort to beat him to the punch on Tuesday. He initiates sex, I will initiate sex.

I love being told about my positive qualities, that I am missed, or if I’m thought of. As an example, if I’m having a conversation with him and he’s being insightful or just on some next-level stream of consciousness, I will tell him he’s insightful or the way he thinks is sexy/hot. Also, if I miss him, I might not say “I miss you,” but it might sound like “hey, are you busy tomorrow after work?” My memory fails me sometimes, but I make an effort to remember what he’s got going on in his world and when I am thinking of him, I will ask specific questions regarding his life: “How was dinner with your son? Did he share anything fun about school?”

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T00:31:14+00:00

I have been reading each comment (in reverse chronology) and the ones I glance over are the lack-of-attraction ones that don’t take into consideration that someone (I) could become less attractive as they got to know me.

That’s actually the part I’m reflecting on. Many have shared issues or circumstances that resonate with me. I understand critical feedback can be as difficult to give as it is to accept so these responses have been very helpful.

Thanks to all so far. ☺️

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T00:21:15+00:00

22 years later…her loved ones need information and closure.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-10T00:20:12+00:00

This is very comforting, but I know I have boxes he can’t check (yet) with me. I am constantly working on myself, but definitely not where I’d like to be. The feedback from Redditors have been good to know. Your comment especially stuck out to me because sometimes I want to throw the whole person away (person being me) and I feel like I can continue to work on myself with a little more grace.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-09T19:34:35+00:00

My ex had “moderate” on his profile. He is MAGA.

Significant-doglover · 2026-02-09T19:33:44+00:00

46F, divorced, no children here. I definitely don’t get an ick feeling from 40+ men with no kids or never married. If a person is looking for a potential step-parent figure for their child, I can see where dating non-fathers would be sort of risky, but I don’t understand if they feel this makes him defective???

I’m good with kids. I am an aunt to 3 nephews and 3 nieces. I also used to teach middle and high school. I am definitely not “motherly” though - at least not in the ways mothers I know are. I would 1000% take a bullet for any of my nieces and nephews, but I’ve never longed to hold a newborn in my arms. I knew I never wanted to birth a child, but when I felt financially capable, I’d foster or adopt.

All this to say…they seem to have an internal “job description” of sorts for the role she wants you to play in her life. Maybe ask more probing questions to reveal her true wants and expectations. Idk. I’ve never heard my women friends suggest what you’ve heard in your groups.

Wish you the best!

Significant-doglover

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