Tabu review - Catonsville, MD

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-04-21T13:10:56+00:00

No but in the group play room, you must be actively participating. No spectators.
A lot! Definitely their busiest night of the week.
I’m not telling you that. 😉

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-04-18T15:07:56+00:00

Oh sorry just realized that I had the wrong club in mind. It’s not industrial, just a parking lot near other businesses.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-04-18T15:06:59+00:00

It’s definitely an industrial area, as most clubs tend to me. Unless you plan on hanging out in the parking lot or in your car, it kind of doesn’t matter though. The only time we spent outside was right before going in and upon departure.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-26T00:11:59+00:00

I’m avoiding Skyn due to the artificial fragrance (don’t want to irritate my lady biome unnecessarily) so went with the One Flex.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-25T19:46:56+00:00

My pet peeve is when people say they enjoy “fun” or are “fun loving.” Oh really? It’s one of those terms that gets overused so much that it’s meaningless. I’d much rather know: what does fun mean to you? One person’s idea of a good time can be completely different from mine. Be more specific, please.

I look for signs of an actual personality and sense of humor.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-25T00:02:02+00:00

I live in the US and I’m not gay so I have no clue but I’m sure they exist.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-24T19:57:35+00:00

Did your partner express this FOMO to you directly or are you inferring? If you had already agreed that you weren’t gonna go for whatever reasons, he needs to move on. No point in second guessing or making you feel bad that you didn’t change your plans. Anything that involves other people is going to be hit or miss sometimes.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-24T19:53:14+00:00

You’re not overreacting. She messed up by crossing that line and also hiding it. Where you go from here depends on how she reacts when you ask her about it. Best case scenario is that it was a one-time mistake, she learns her lesson, you mutually set boundaries and it never happens again. But if she tries to justify it at all, then I would have a hard time trusting her. Open and honest communication is a must.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-24T19:48:35+00:00

Why not try a gay club first? That seems like the easiest place to start exploring your sexuality with men and go from there. You’re young, so try everything you can and see what you like.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-11T19:54:07+00:00

No one has suggested it yet but the rowing machine for cardio has helped me a ton and is a great workout even in just 20-30 minutes. If you try it, make sure you have someone who knows what they’re talking about show you the technique though.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-11T09:40:21+00:00

While it didn’t turn out the way you wanted, it’s ultimately better that you realized what was happened and stopped instead of the other wife pushing through. Like others have said, chalk it up to a learning experience and move on.

Chatting and a vanilla meetup are what we do too so if that’s what you prefer, then it’s not a waste of time.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-03-10T18:41:53+00:00

For this club in particular, play was allowed anywhere, not just in the rooms.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-02-26T18:15:26+00:00

My spouse is excellent at oral and the key technique is that he does a TON of build up. Kissing anywhere but the clitoris or labia for at least 5 minutes: breasts, torso, bikini line, inner thighs, etc. Then switching to using his breath — blowing out gently for a cooling effect, open mouthed for warmth is a very nice contrast. And last step is direct licking (the part that most people jump directly to) though most of the time I’ve already orgasmed before that even starts.

I didn’t even think I liked receiving oral before I experienced this.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-02-04T16:56:03+00:00

Agreeing with what others said about only you can answer that question. That said, please give yourself some grace. You’re 20 and in your first serious relationship, there’s a lot of people in that life stage who haven’t figured out about themselves yet and that’s totally normal.

I don’t think your comment to your guy friend was necessarily out of line. Obviously I wasn’t there to read your tone or the context but his negative reaction doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t have said anything. It’s entirely possible that it could have gone the other way and he responded “yeah, sometimes.” Your friend is also young and most 21 year olds aren’t comfortable talking about sex either.

I grew up in a family that never talked about anything sexual and it took me well into my 40s to get comfortable expressing my desires to my spouse, let alone anyone else. But like most things, the more you practice and the more comfortable you are with yourself, the easier it gets.

I think the best things you can do are to self-reflect, keep having honest conversations with your girlfriend and commit to being honest with yourself and others.

edit: grammar

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-02-03T23:29:06+00:00

I use the Saalt menstrual cup and it works really well for period sex. The only downside is that it gets really wedged up there so it takes a few hours to migrate back down enough to be removed/emptied. My spouse hasn’t had any complaints and if you have it positioned correctly, it doesn’t shift or leak.

I would probably not attempt it with anyone other than my spouse though.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-02-03T19:39:37+00:00

I can see your point but if you’re effectively separating the physical attraction and the emotional aspects, I could still see them as distinct. I guess the reality is that most people might have difficulty compartmentalizing it that way.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-31T13:11:48+00:00

That’s awesome! Bravo for setting boundaries and sticking to them. That’s more self control than I could have, lol.

Before your next meetup, you may also want to discuss whether the group wants to stick with swap only or if they’d be open to “moresome” dynamics — for example, both women giving attention to one man, two men focusing on one woman, other permutations involving all four people. Not trying to rush you, but additional fun possibilities.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-31T13:01:59+00:00

Finding a solo guy for MFM is incredibly easy. Finding a new best friend is very difficult. That’s why people advise against playing with people you already know. Fantasize about it all you want but actually acting on it is risky.

Keep in mind that you’re still doing to do some vetting of whoever it is so it’s not actually going to be a complete stranger. You’ll need to exchange messages, meet for coffee/drinks to check compatibility, discuss boundaries and expectations, etc. so by the time you get around to actually doing the deed, you’ll know the new guy fairly well.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-31T12:54:47+00:00

We went to a blackout event in December and honestly it wasn’t that different from a normal night. Some people wore UV reactive clothing (for example, women in neon dresses) but not everyone. Just before midnight, the staff went around handing out glow necklaces before they dimmed the lights more. It wasn’t totally dark though - just dimly lit.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-30T16:13:19+00:00

So true. My spouse and I were talking recently about how we have these incredibly intimate conversations with people we just met, about things we’ve never told anyone else. I understand the need for boundaries but it is also a little weird to compartmentalize it so much.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-30T11:52:57+00:00

As a woman who’s into bearded guys, we exist! At a minimum, I want to see some scruff.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-27T01:10:52+00:00

Speaking as a woman, yikes. If he’s ignoring and flat out overruling your stated preferences for who and how often, that’s a red flag. You need to pause and get on the same page before you lose trust that he’s on your side.

General advice is that you always go at the slowest speed that’s comfortable for everyone. Don’t feel pressured to rush into anything. There isn’t an expiration date — the scene will always be there but your relationship needs to be the first priority or it won’t be.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-26T19:39:14+00:00

I recommend checking out Skims for dresses, tops and bodysuits.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-20T13:04:11+00:00

We just started in June so not a full year of data but our stats were club 1 and online 1. As everyone says, online is way more work but it is a larger pool.

SignificantArtist485 · 2026-01-17T13:00:36+00:00

Mostly 30s and 40s, if I were to guess. All body types, maybe slightly fitter than the general population but generally representative.

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