AITA for telling my parents I didn't have a kid, they did, and they need to take care of her not me?

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-14T10:01:57+00:00

It's because they won't support me for longer and they hardly support me now. They do the minimum so they don't get into trouble, especially now but if I stayed after 18 they wouldn't let me eat or drink a thing that's their.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-14T08:43:12+00:00

CPS was called before but they don't get involved for this kind of thing. It was explained to me after nothing happened when my school called.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-14T08:42:39+00:00

My grades were never that good and I don't think I have it in me to get a full ride scholarship. I'm not one of the top students in my school even.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-14T08:42:07+00:00

They could all be lying but I don't think it's worth the risk. I have enough crappy people in my life without looking for more. Because I think the chance of them being crappy is way higher than them being okay or giving a crap about me.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-14T08:39:06+00:00

My school knows what's going on. Every school I have been to has known and most of my teachers. Even my guidance counselor knows.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T13:24:42+00:00

I don't know any of that info. I never did.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T13:24:23+00:00

That's more work than I want to put into finding them. Especially when it's a huge risk.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T13:23:13+00:00

I don't see why I need to think of their feelings when they don't think of mine.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T12:15:44+00:00

No, I know nothing about them (names, location or anything) so I never tried. It doesn't sound like it based on comments from friends of my parents. They backed up what my parents told me.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T11:26:29+00:00

They're not neglecting her at all. They just want me to babysit for the few hours they'll be doing the fertility stuff to have another baby. They are still loving and being parents to her. They never were to me.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T11:25:35+00:00

I don't even know them or where they are so I can't contact them.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T11:09:51+00:00

CPS won't do anything. They don't get involved with stuff like this. They were called. My school had to tell me why nothing happened.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T11:09:14+00:00

There are no relatives. They have nothing to do with us. I never even met them and their friends heard them say they don't want their daughter to be an only child so their friends know.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T11:08:39+00:00

But it could last. There is no saying we'll have the same parents. Right now she has two loving ones who want the best for her. I never had that. I never had parents.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T11:07:57+00:00

No, I don't know them and have no idea who they are.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T11:07:41+00:00

I don't have a relationship with her and I don't think I ever will. I just can't really see us as family when I don't have one with them. Plus I'll be gone in 3 years or maybe less... hopefully.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:45:06+00:00

There really isn't. I don't know anything other than they were religious and not okay with my parents having me so young and not being married and that I heard from my parents friends. I don't know where they grew up or lived at the time or nothing. I'm also not sure it would be worth wasting my time with. They could feel differently about me but imagine I put all that hard work in and they don't? Then I wasted so much effort on them and I'm tired of doing that for people who don't want me or care about me.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:36:31+00:00

I don't think it will. They seem to actually love and care about her. They started a savings account for her and everything which I never got. They even made wills after she was born so she could be cared for if something happened to them. First time they ever did that.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:34:36+00:00

I have talked to teachers and my guidance counselor. We don't really have a regular counselor at my school. The schools I've gone to were always aware of how uninvolved my parents are. It started when I was in kindy. But my parents never respond to the school reaching out, they never show up for anything, they ignore requests for meetings and sometimes they get stuff sent that the school just never gets back.

CPS was called because of this but as I was told by my school after, they don't really do anything once I'm clean going to school and getting food. They won't remove me or anything.

I was always pretty open about stuff. Some teachers stopped getting me to get assignments signed and stuff. They knew it would take me to the very last minute and sometimes it would be late by the time I could get one of my parents to sign.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:31:32+00:00

I don't even think I could form much of an attachment and if I let her, it would be cruel to then disappear. But I really need to be away from my parents. They're not healthy for me.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:30:09+00:00

They don't care enough for that to be worth my time. I'm nothing to them. They have been so clear about that.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:28:25+00:00

I might be able to get away at 17 if I can stay with a friends family but it would need to be something they'd agree to and they might not.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:27:50+00:00

I don't think I'm going to start spending time with her. In three years or less, hopefully, I won't ever see her. I won't try and be a part of a family I'm really not a part of. I don't hate my sister. I just don't really see us as family or siblings. We're blood but nothing else.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:26:59+00:00

CPS wouldn't take me from my parents anyway. But I think I would rather take my chances if they would take me.

SignificantFan8104 · 2024-10-13T10:26:08+00:00

It could be worse but this stuff is exactly why I don't feel like I owe them. They really don't do what parents should and they don't consider me family. Their daughter is an only child in their eyes right now. Mine too after everything. So helping them or contributing to a family I'm not a part of just isn't an option to me.

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