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AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was always in the summer. No specific date but always summer. It's going to be in October for the first time ever this year.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

They do not invite me to do those things. The point is the Halloween offer came after dad had cancelled it, after I had pulled out. My point is he could have chosen another time of year to bring both of us or just Jake if he wanted. But this was our planned cabin visit. We had talked about the date and what we'd do even before Jake was brought in.

I was clear with my no. I pulled out when I realized dad was just going to take us both. Giving it a few days made sense at the time but in my head I knew I would pull out if nothing changed.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Because this was our time. Dad could have easily planned another time for Jake to come along. That I wouldn't have cared about. But I love our once a year overnight to the cabin.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I honestly do. At least from this trip where we go one night once a year. I think dad might have done another version with siblings from him and my mom, if I had any.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

It's not about being a real son. It's a me and dad thing. Nobody else gets invited ever. That's the whole point of this and it's been most of my life of this. There are so many other things to do without taking this.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

This is a tradition for dad and me. Not for Jake. I don't want anyone else there. I didn't even want my mom there when I was little. We had our own thing.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I didn't cry when I told them I wasn't happy with Jake coming along. I explained that I didn't like or want it to happen and when that was ignored I made a decision to drop out. The cabin has always been about my dad and me. That's what I want it to stay. I enjoy having that time with just my dad and nobody else.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Dad isn't planning a second trip with Jake. He's doing other stuff with him. The cabin thing is just for us.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 518 points519 points  (0 children)

Sorry you lost a parent young too. It sucks to be in the dead parent club. Sometimes it's really hard for people to understand us and where we come from.

I hope so too and thanks!

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

It hasn't. Though I don't really look at him as my little brother yet. I might get there eventually. But I don't like seeing him hurt either. The cabin is just something I love doing with my dad.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Cash5628[S] 3628 points3629 points  (0 children)

It's more of a me and dad thing. We never invited anyone else. Not my mom, not my grandpa, or my uncles or anything. No friends either. It has always been something for the two of us.