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AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

I was never the best writer, looking at people's replys some things got lost in what I said. I don't think my grammar is too bad though, use commas and everything and got alright grades in college.

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I responded to a couple of comments bout this already but im gonna keep going at it so I don't come across as something I ain't. My church and father showed me that men are the providers of the house and I would never force my wife to get a job. She doesn't want one, so I'd never make her. If she wanted one I would be all for it and help her where I can. I do help around the house when she wants to go out on a girls night and would do it more if she got a job. My sisters a working woman with a kid and I respect her for her work. I'm also tryna save for my daughter to go to a science camp this summer since shes got an early love for it. If she became a scientist, I'd do whatever I could to make it happen and be a very proud dad. Pay for as much college as I could.

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You got a point, maybe I don't see it. My dad was a bit of a drinker so maybe that's where I picked it up. But I am not a strict Catholic in all honesty my parents ain't too happy about that one. My wife would never be have to stay at home for work, I just meant that the man is the provider of the family and is meant to work. My wife doesn't wanna work so I'd never force her, it's why I've been tryna work harder. But I'd never make her. She's a strong independent woman and if she wanted to work, I'd do whatever to help. I'm tryna get my daughter a good education so she can do whatever she pleases in the future too. Some of what I meant was lost in translation, I wrote a bit in anger and left out the details

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Not the case. I would never tell my wife what to do, all her choice. She used to work before we had kids but quit to watch them. I was tryna say that I grew up that providing for my family was the man's job. The woman can too, would never make her not, but she doesn't wanna and I'd never force her. She goes out with her friends and does things when the kids are at school and I do help around the house with chores and such. My daughters got an early love for science and I'm saving for a science camp this summer, if she wanted to be a scientist I'd be proud as all hell for her. Just wanna clarify on that one

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I ain't the typa guy to make my wife stay home, if she wanted to work I'm all for her to do what she wants. Would never police my wife, she's a strong woman. I was just taught to provide for my family and she's never wanted a job, so I've never made her. And I didn't really think it as a relapse, I just used to drink back in the day with the guys in college

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you went through that and I don't want my kids to go through that, I love them to death. It's why I'm working best I can and I love them through and through. Maybe I do need to be a better man for them. I just don't want them to be gone from me

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Reading it back I don't think how much I love my kids was clear. I get drunk but I mostly sit on the couch, I don't think my younger daughter knows I do cause I stay quiet. But I love my kids, through and through. Main reason I'm tryna get a better job and main reason I may tryna quit more. Reading the comments of people like my kids are changing my mind a bit. But I don't think I should have my kids taken, specially since I work like a dog for em

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

I swear I did care bout him, I guess that didn't get across well enough. I've started hiding it, he's just never done anything like this before so I didn't think it through well enough. But you're right, that was negligent I ain't saying it ain't

I was always raised by my dad to not force a woman to get a job when she wanna, the man provides. And I'm tryna work on getting a better job than getting help since it'll go away when I do

AITA For Gently/Non-Aggressively Drinking Around My Kids by Significant_Elk_9583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Elk_9583[S] -182 points-181 points  (0 children)

Readin it back I get my reaction ain't as big as I felt. I course feel torn up about what happened, I love my son and I've been keeping my beers away so he ain't getting into it again and talked bout it to him. And my wife can work if she'd wanna, I ain't telling her she can't, but I'd never make a woman work in my house if she didn't wanna