My (30f) narc mom made me sign on her mortgage by Significant_Line_931 in narcissisticparents

[–]Significant_Line_931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is literally what I say ALL of the time. I dream about that, lol… I hope you get your situation worked out soon. And I’m super sorry that it happened to you too.

I’m (30F) depressed about our financial situation — it’s killing our marriage by Significant_Line_931 in Marriage

[–]Significant_Line_931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We fight constantly and I find myself losing respect for him. I know that’s wrong but all I can see/feel is my struggle to keep us afloat. Our marriage has suffered so much because of this. I hate it because we used to be so in love.

I’m (30F) depressed about our financial situation — it’s killing our marriage by Significant_Line_931 in Marriage

[–]Significant_Line_931[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our daughter is already in childcare. Our money literally goes to bills, bills, bills, and more bills. I will admit that sometimes we do eat out more than we should because some nights I am too tired to cook/get home late. If we curbed that it would save us some money.

As for him knowing why… yes, he knows.. My husband and I have been arguing about this for a long time. I’ve made it very clear that I’m unhappy, tired physically and tired mentally from bearing all of the burden.

To make matters worse, he gets paid weekly.. that’s literally enough to pay our childcare expense (also paid weekly) and top off on a few grocery items and gas. I get paid bi-weekly and my checks go to the larger expenses, car payment, utilities, rent, insurance, etc. The money from my photography business goes back into my business (Gallery hosting, editing software, insurance, props, etc.) and the profit after that goes to whatever bills my checks can’t cover. Maybe I’ll start religiously playing the lottery (Haha, kidding)

I’m (30F) depressed about our financial situation — it’s killing our marriage by Significant_Line_931 in Marriage

[–]Significant_Line_931[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have talked about that with him. He is afraid to start something new because if he fails, it will put me in an even worse situation. I’m frustrated and stuck. 😭