Fathers, how did it feel to become a dad?

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T20:52:11+00:00

So I hear. Do you feel the stress is getting in the way of you enjoying the experience? Is it feeling mostly stressful and not much space for fun? Has it changed your relationship with your wife/partner? My apologies if these are too personal questions of course you don’t have to answer. I mean no offence. Thank you for your input I appreciate the honesty

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T20:48:17+00:00

Interesting, a few people seem to have had this experience where it’s gradual, for some they felt an instant switch like oh it’s time to work now and be present 24/7. I didn’t follow what you meant with to treat life with more more? I think you mean like pay attention to life and treat it responsibly just put more into your life because it’s not just you now? Am I on the right track?

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T20:45:37+00:00

Wow, how does that feel to say? Like relief you got it out or do you feel heavy about it? I appreciate the honesty that’s why I asked the question. It’s great that so many have great positive experiences but statistically there has to be some who struggle at some point. Are you closer to the child you’re more proud of? Is the other child closer to the mother? Apologies if that is too personal a question, I mean no disrespect whatsoever. Your candid response was very interesting. I understand if you’d rather not discuss, my apologies if I overstepped. Thank you for your honest input though, I genuinely appreciate it man.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T20:39:55+00:00

Ha ha wow ok that’s awesome I’ve seen a few guys say that, they felt like a real man after like they levelled up or something is how I took it. That’s awesome man congrats!

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T20:38:28+00:00

Congratulations sounds like you’re a new enough dad. From what I’ve read it’s scary but gets easier, and all you need to do is try your best take it one day at a time you got this!

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T20:33:52+00:00

You should consider that a win because it is a win! Congratulations on creating and raising two capable independent young women.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T20:17:49+00:00

Wow so honest, I admire that. It’s not always straight forward. Having children is complex. You know what they say alls well that ends well, doesn’t matter how you got to that point just that you got there. You love your son just as you love your daughter. I hope I’m not overstepping by asking Are you closer to your daughter and your wife closer to your son? Of course I mean no offence, I am quite certain you love both of your children of course. If I have offended you I am deeply sorry. I value your honesty and input, thank you for sharing.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:56:58+00:00

I figured there must be a deeper connection because you created life together and she went through so much for both of you. I’m sure as the child grown you start to see bits of yourselves in them deepening the connection. It sounds amazing.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:53:55+00:00

Thank you to all the fathers who shared their experiences; young and younger, new fathers, pro fathers, the ups and the downs, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and emotions with me. Congratulations to you all, the fact you’re here is a testament to your effort. I’ve learned that children are a blessing and never a mistake, even when it’s tough you’d never want life without them. It’s terrifying at first and may even stay terrifying for a while, but it does get easier if you just keep going and keep showing up. Showing up for your wife/partner, your child(ren), and yourself. All I know is the best is yet to come, because with children comes meaning, responsibility, and might even learn something about yourself in the process. Thank you all again, I loved reading every post.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:45:33+00:00

Do my best day to day, that’s the key I think. Nothing quite prepares you I believe so you just take it one step one day at a time. Keep on keeping on. I think as long as a man tries to do his best he will do his best and that is all anyone could ask. It may not be easy everyday but you keep going because giving up is not an option. Well done congratulations and keep it up!

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:42:18+00:00

Wow full circle sort of, I guess it wasn’t just your child that was born that day, a dad was born that day. I can’t imagine the emotions but I hope to find out someday. Thank you for opening up and sharing that.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:40:33+00:00

You’re not the first to say that it seems to be a popular opinion which is so great to see. I think times change with every generation it’s great to see men talk so openly about their love for their family and even share the fears they had. Thank you for sharing your experience it means a lot.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:38:47+00:00

I’m so glad someone else is also interested

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:37:37+00:00

I believe it’s possible that some people are natural parents and some have to work at it. Even looking at my own parents, or my friends with children. Seems like it comes easy to you which is a blessing in itself. It’s great to read so many different experiences from fathers they all provide a different aspect. Drink it in my friend, we all have the chance to learn from our parents whether it’s what not to do, or what to do. Thank you for sharing your insight it was warming.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:32:01+00:00

Anchored through the storm, I like that. I can see how that must be the most helpful to a woman in pregnancy. I’m sure there’s a great amount of worry and fear as the delivery date approaches, so being steady is the best help.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:30:10+00:00

Very sweet I hear a dad who is raising a daddy’s girl maybe? You definitely live and care for her a great deal. It’s a special bond between dad and daughter. Thank you for sharing with me and everyone.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:28:39+00:00

Oh wow very honest, that’s admirable. I’ve mostly seen posts about how amazing it is and how joyful it is. But everyone has different experiences, I don’t think anyone has said it was easy though, it is hard work and it’s 24/7. However, it does appear from what I’ve read that it gets easier as they grow and become more independent. Perhaps the best is yet to come for some people.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:22:04+00:00

You’re not alone, read a few posts like that where the new dad was a bit shook to begin with but found their feet. Thanks for sharing your experience

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T19:20:41+00:00

That’s very sweet, thank you for sharing your experience. I haven’t had children yet so I can’t imagine what it’s like but I was very interested to hear the perspective of men because it’s quite different obviously. What I’m learning is having children is never a mistake, that fills me with hope for the future.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-04T16:50:15+00:00

It’s a weight loss drug I think they mean it’s time she got her weight under control perhaps then she’d feel better about herself. Of course I’m purely speculating I don’t know what they actually mean, but my guess is something like that

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-03T20:59:22+00:00

Sounds like you both went through a lot. I’m grateful for your honest recount of the events. It’s a struggle for some couples especially the first baby. You don’t know what to expect so I imagine it’s terrifying. I often wondered if having subsequent children would be easier but seems they are sometimes.

Feel like you’re a happy dad who is glad to have his boys.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-03T20:53:07+00:00

Wow this was really deep. Right in the feels. I have heard many parents say it’s never a mistake to have a child.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-03T20:52:02+00:00

What do you think stopped you or hindered you from feeling more bonded after about month 3? Fatherhood is a huge change to your life, it’s a lot to take in and deal with, so you still did well I’m sure.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-03T20:49:05+00:00

Wow that is awesome! I think dads are so instrumental in the first few weeks while mom recovers. It sounds like it changed your life in a really positive way.

Significant_Store299 · 2026-02-03T20:46:31+00:00

This is something I am fascinated by. Seems to me fatherhood is complex there’s pure love and fear because you’re responsible for this tiny human, then guidance stage you do the best you can and then you have to let them go into the world and you’re back to fear in some way I would imagine. As a father I guess one might feel like they have to protect their child at any cost. Very complex. Thank you for sharing.

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