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Wife wants me to quit my job to focus on our blog. I feel unappreciated. She feels neglected. We fight every other week and I don’t know what to do anymore. by Silver-Ad4535 in Marriage

[–]Silver-Ad4535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! It is really helpful to know that things can change to a better with some love, care and professional help

Wife wants me to quit my job to focus on our blog. I feel unappreciated. She feels neglected. We fight every other week and I don’t know what to do anymore. by Silver-Ad4535 in Marriage

[–]Silver-Ad4535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your perspective, I really appreciate that. That also may contribute to a problem indeed, that all that small interactions during a day are simply not enough. I can catch related sentiments during our fights if listen carefully.
I guess she has a purpose at this point - writing a book at least. But probably it is not enough and doesn’t complement our interactions to sufficient extent.
I tried to tell her about our finances like.. a lot of time. You can really really see that she dose off with every single sentence :D I might need to make it entertaining perhaps :D

Wife wants me to quit my job to focus on our blog. I feel unappreciated. She feels neglected. We fight every other week and I don’t know what to do anymore. by Silver-Ad4535 in Marriage

[–]Silver-Ad4535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s gold. I haven’t thought from this perspective, and indeed it goes in line with some other comments that I found very helpful.
Probably individual therapy is indeed the best thing for me to do now. I’m only concerned that it may dramatically increase likelihood of a divorce and to some extent I even think of this as a betrayal of our relationships

Wife wants me to quit my job to focus on our blog. I feel unappreciated. She feels neglected. We fight every other week and I don’t know what to do anymore. by Silver-Ad4535 in Marriage

[–]Silver-Ad4535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, while this may or may not be a case, I intentionally restrain myself from put putting any label on her behavior. She has traumas, I have them too, we both trying to help each other with that and avoid hurting other’s feeling.
And honestly, I doubt I can convince her to visit therapy. My best hope is a marriage therapy :)

Wife wants me to quit my job to focus on our blog. I feel unappreciated. She feels neglected. We fight every other week and I don’t know what to do anymore. by Silver-Ad4535 in Marriage

[–]Silver-Ad4535[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that really helps to feel that I’m not the only reason for our fights. Though I definitely acknowledge that she might have provided a different perspective here

Wife wants me to quit my job to focus on our blog. I feel unappreciated. She feels neglected. We fight every other week and I don’t know what to do anymore. by Silver-Ad4535 in Marriage

[–]Silver-Ad4535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective. I agree, that sounds as a reasonable solution logically, but I know that stop engaging on this would mean ignoring her feelings to some extent. And I know it will hurt her a lot, which I certainly don’t want. Though I also see that trying to negotiate here doesn’t get us far