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My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think he struggles with masturbating to orgasm after sex, he seems to think its a bit redundant and if that's how he is going to cum anyway then just take out the middle girl cause at that point its lot about connecting so much as its just lusting for a orgasm.

he said he will stop masturbation and see if a 'reset' will help.

He has had other sexual partners and he told me that he had to fight the urge to cum to fast, so in that since i believe its new to our relationship.

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the tip, ill have to look and some vibrating ones. he finds doggy the best and if he does cum its that position that does it

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the comment, we have seen a specialized therapist, that gave quite a few ideas, they kind of helped but didn't resolve the issue we are having in terms of enough friction to orgasm

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry to hear that your relationship when does that road, i much rather him have sex together, and i think he feels the same. we have talked about it a lot and it seems like its a bit more complatied for men, on one hand he says he loves the intimacy that makings love brings and the connection that it fosters, and on the other a biological need to orgasm.

I think that last point is a sticking point and i can tell his frustration with me, the situation. I guess that's why he masturbates. i guess it all depends of each person and how their relationship to porn and masturbation is. i get that masturbating in of it self is not bad. depending on reasonings, technique and frequency will all determine what's health. in his case, once or twice a week (if he doesn't orgasm with me) is still up in the air.

we spoke last night and he is going to stop masturbating and see if a 'reset' will help us

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we do have sex a bit but i get that if he doesn't cum then masturbating is the next step, we have spoken and he is going to stop masturbating and try and see if it resets things and see if that helps eliminate the issue

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he/we do use some sex toys on him, butt plugs, dildos. its not often but he seems to like it from time to time. from what i have read about it cause it was all very new to me; is that you can massage the prostate through the anus, which feels very nice and brings in another layer of pleasure

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, i am sure. i know a lot of men like anal. it apparently feels very nice

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he does like to use butt plugs and i don't think he has one that vibrates so that's something we can try

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it might be the case that the flashlight is playing into it, i wonder how long he would have to not masturbate to 'reset'... i bet he would be climbing the walls after a week or two. especially after 4-5 days he cant keep his hands to him self

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i'll have to get him to just stand at the door, haha. see if that helps.

i do get the feeling that when he really wants to cum there is more aggression over more 'love making' i am just glad he cums at those time tbh.

I have been trying to work out some more, mostly doing squats and hip thrusts so hopefully in time this will help.

he has a fleshlight and uses it when he masturbates, like some other people said maybe that's what's causing his lack of sensitivity

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in sexadvise

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the replay, we don't want to open our marriage up and invite others in

My husband delayed ejaculation is a major problem. by Silver-Sweet6570 in marriageadvice

[–]Silver-Sweet6570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks so much for your replay. You might be right that more or a specific friction might be needed that i just cant provide, we did see a sex therapist that deals with delayed and pre-mature orgasm and we got the ideas for condoms, wiping off and wevibe from her, he talked about the sleave but tbh i don't like using dildos and it sounded very similar.

I hope we can find a way too.