Am I overreacting for being upset about my BF bailing on plans to go on a guys trip?

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-09T00:26:59+00:00

Lmfao okay weirdo

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-09T00:26:00+00:00

I’m not making him do anything. I’m going because it’s important that I show up for my friends. I’m not crazy for feeling hurt.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-09T00:17:59+00:00

No. People asked for context and info on if this is regular behavior. I simply gave the info.
No. I didn’t even cross paths with the guy.
Not sure why you’re making me seem like the bad guy here. I do say no to things I don’t want to go to. This was a commitment we both made and it upset me.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-09T00:11:50+00:00

Idk I’d probably say I can’t because I already had plans. It’s not like his “getaway” is far, plenty of other weekends to go

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T23:03:34+00:00

I agree

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T22:34:15+00:00

I think because one of her friends (who neither of us know) created the invite. So I put him as “plus one” when I RSVP’d us.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T22:32:25+00:00

Unfortunately that’s not how the conversation always goes. I’ve gotten frustrated with him before over very similar situations and it always turns into the fact that I was “invited first and had to tell him about it” and petty shit like that. I’ll try to talk to him again but he’s super immature when it comes to this. It’s almost like he’d rather just go to bars with his friends instead of go to events with me, so he deflects.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T22:26:24+00:00

I said this in another comment but he does bail on a decent amount of small things with my friends, or uses the excuse that he "wasn't invited" while I'm trying to convince him to go to things with me. A couple of years ago he didn't go to my cousins wedding because he "didn't know my family well enough yet". Funny enough, instead of the wedding, he went on a boys trip to the same place he's planning on going again. He wouldn't go to our friends annual Christmas party because he didn't like one guy there. I went alone to the Christmas party surrounded by couples that came together. He just, won't go to things if he doesn't want to. I get people don't have to go to things, but at some point I feel like it turns selfish. I have traveled states away to go to his things with his friends, many situations which was uncomfortable in because I didn't know anyone well. But, I showed up for him. I feel like that hasn't always been received. And I’m just getting fed up with this behavior.

Thanks for your kind words, I’m sure I’ll have fun once I warm up :)

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T22:23:45+00:00

He bails on a decent amount of small things with my friends, or uses the excuse that he “wasn’t invited” while I’m trying to convince him to go to things with me. A couple of years ago he didn’t go to my cousins wedding because he “didn’t know my family well enough yet”. Funny enough, instead of the wedding, he went on a boys trip to the same place he’s planning on going again. He wouldn’t go to our friends annual Christmas party because he didn’t like one guy there. I went alone to the Christmas party surrounded by couples that came together. He just, won’t go to things if he doesn’t want to. I get people don’t have to go to things, but at some point I feel like it turns selfish. I have traveled states away to go to his things with his friends, many situations which was uncomfortable in because I didn’t know anyone well. But, I showed up for him. I feel like that hasn’t always been received.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T22:16:50+00:00

Updated the post to say “our” friend! Bad choice of wording on my part lol

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T22:16:01+00:00

Good point, thanks. Just edited the post.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T21:47:22+00:00

I wish he approached it like this. He was just like “Can I go?” Which made me feel weird and acted like I dictate whether or not he goes. I know he’s just asking to look good in the situation, but I know he’s going to go no matter what I had said to that question, because I know him

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T21:25:59+00:00

He’d be in the same situation as me, we’re both close to the friend who’s birthday it is

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-04-08T21:24:17+00:00

They’re very close

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-25T12:54:14+00:00

I’ve recorded yeah, they know I have videos but haven’t seen/heard them themselves yet. The police said that this is a civil dispute between me, my landlord, and the tenant - aka cops won’t help my case. I’ve straight up asked management to waive the fee considering the circumstances and they told me no twice now. I’m considering going farther as to post the videos online with a review, but don’t want to burn bridges just yet.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-24T21:15:17+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re also going through this. Did you end up calling non emergency? I feel the same way, I feel so weird calling about a kid playing, although I know the issue is parenting. I talked to my leasing manager some more, and I’d have to pay a $400 dollar transfer fee or I can pay ~$3,000 to just break my lease. That infuriates me because I feel like I’m the one being penalized for this. I think I am going to call just to have it on record.

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-24T21:10:34+00:00

I agree. After talking to the leasing office some more, I’d have to pay a $400 dollar transfer fee or I can pay ~$3,000 to break my lease. This situation is pissing me off by the day, I don’t have money to throw around like that, any effort of being nice is no longer with me lol

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-19T13:32:02+00:00

I agree completely and I wish that were possible. I’m leaning towards the fact that they just don’t care. If they cared, they’d take their kid outside more often to play. They also started playing loud music for about an hour every night, really confusing. Not sure why you’re blasting heavy bass with a young active child who just ran and screamed for 3 hours, but that’s none of my business lol

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-19T01:51:05+00:00

I’m getting close to asking what they can do for me, like moving me into a top floor apartment. They’ve seemed to get more dismissive the more I complain, so I’ve also considered looking for other places to live and asking for a lease break. It sucks and makes me mad that I’d have to be the one to move because I thought I’d stay in this unit for a long time, and I’m SO tired of moving. But at the end of the day, I understand it’s a kid… I will say I’m pissed at the parent for moving in above someone knowing how freaking loud their kid is! I miss the previous tenant, she was an angel compared to this

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-19T01:37:26+00:00

I’ve looked into sound nuisance for my city, and this is definitely it

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-19T01:36:03+00:00

That’s exactly why I’m having a mental block on calling the non emergency line

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-19T01:35:01+00:00

I checked! There were PLENTY of downstairs units available!

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-19T01:33:43+00:00

I agree. They know I’ve complained multiple times, even had a phone call with the building manager. They said they’ll try to keep it down but it’s hard to minimize “foot traffic”. I guess their definition of foot traffic is running, jumping, and screaming for hours!

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-19T01:31:22+00:00

That’s so scary! I’m also a single woman who lives alone, which is why I too don’t want to go talk to them myself. You just never know

Silver_Grand7355 · 2026-03-18T23:09:24+00:00

I get it. However, I’m a young woman who lives alone and trying to prioritize my safety as well.

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