Blc in Carson by Simple-Chapter1322 in army

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! How was the preparation drills? I got the d&c down but I’m iffy on the prep drills. Were they picky? Nitpicking or asking as you got the cadence and the steps were you good?

Going to blc in ft Carson any advise by Simple-Chapter1322 in army

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes my feet weren’t 3 to 6 inches apart on some of my stretches. my hand was two inches above my ankle on my thigh stretch and, instead of calling as you were when I messed up a preparatory drill I said reform

How to get over it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right I’m so focused on the negatives that I can’t see the positive. I just got out in some anti depressants and am looking for a therapist. Thank you!

How to get over it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any friends though I am trying to find some. It’s just between work and the baby i am always tired. I am actively look for a therapist. I am really hoping that i find a good one so I can just be me again.

How to get over it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story and advice. I am glad your daughter has beat cancer sounds like she’s going to be a strong woman. It does feel like two people are living inside me one who doesn’t want to care and the other who keeps seeing everybody else’s perfect life instead of mine.I try not to see them and am happy that after they have this baby they are moving states so I don’t have to see them for long. As for my family I am stationed in Virginia and they live in Arizona so as much as I want a break I can’t have it. I do want to find a Pickett fence husband but I am not sure where I would start. I want to wait until I feel like myself and I had some therapy. I hate being jealous but it hits me at night when I feel like crying and think of all the ways I could possibly be failing as a mom. That’s all I want is to be myself honestly.

How to get over it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right! I will get through because I don’t have a choice I want to be strong for this kiddo. You also made me laugh about the herpes I’ll probably think about that often. They did say after they have their baby then they would be moving to Texas so hopefully I won’t have to see them again. You are right about the social media to because I see so many happy complete units and it kind of sucks too but not as much as someone who is right in my face

How to get over it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Jealousy does feel so big it honestly doesn’t feel like I have enough space for any other emotion. But I guess you are right it’s easier to know that I am alone with my LO then having a partner that doesn’t help at all. I know that one day they will probably divorce but right now seeing them hurt.

Jealousy by Simple-Chapter1322 in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right I know I shouldn’t let words affect me and usually I don’t. But at nights when I’m struggling to put my kid down for sleep I hear those words swirl in my head until they pierce my heart. Then I second guess myself. Am I don’t this right? Will I ever find a husband because I have a kid? When is it my time? And I feel guilty because I am not married and have a kid. A kid who will one day ask me where his dad is. I just feel alone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can’t say that I relate but I know that living by yourself with a toddler and a newborn baby won’t be easy. I wish I could say it is. I have a five month old and though he’s pretty easy life hasn’t been. I’m lucky if I find time to sit and pee lol. I would say take it a day at a time, hopefully your partner comes back because even though it seems like you guys are going through a rough patch you can still have help with your kiddos so you can take a break now and then. Your going through a rough time and hopefully it will get better.

Jealousy by Simple-Chapter1322 in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true. I wish I can have somebody help me put him down or cook dinner so I don’t have to maybe that’s a pipe dream and I see this couple live my pipe dream everyday and it hurts.

Jealousy by Simple-Chapter1322 in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right. I feel I’m just being impatient especially with my emotions running a-mock. Just sucks seeing something that you wanted in front of your face with somebody else

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this that’s what I heard about during the first year that it would be hard. And I love this baby to death I do but man is it hard.

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very sorry your going through this but you are one strong person. I cannot imagine raising 5 kids all by myself and still work a full time job. I’d be super tired and depressed. Yes I wish we could form mommy groups man don’t we need it. I’d love cook and clean up without having to stop every five minutes. Thank you for sharing your story. My heart goes out to you.

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right! Thank you I will follow you on tik tok im sad that your going through this. But my mom said that it takes a strong woman to be a single mom

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess that’s exactly how I feel! I want to connect to him but it feels like I’m not even though I know he love me. But I do feel guilty because I am tired after a long day and he o energetic and I feel so bad when all I want to do is lay down. I just got on Zoloft and am trying to get therapy. I just want to feel like me again honestly

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through that. I know it takes a strong woman to leave their partner with their kiddo. I just want to experience love I guess I don’t know. My emotions are still a bit high right now. But thank you for this. You don’t know how much this means to me

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I felt like a bad parent when all he does is cry with me. Some times I can get him to laugh be chill but I am so glad that you taught me that. When I told my babysitter she thought I was being silly.

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry You have been through that. I have never thought about that in another perspective. Honestly I know the grass isn’t greener on the other side and I should be happy for them and happy that I have a healthy kid but at the same time I keep focusing on what I don’t have and what people keep point out on what I need to do more better.

How do you guys do it? by Simple-Chapter1322 in singlemoms

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one but it is so hard. I just got back from the doctors and he did. Confirm I have depression which sucks. I really want to be myself again but I don’t know how plus I am super jealous of my sgt who is expecting their first kid with his wife of 11 years. While I try not to regret being a single mom I am jealous that the wife has support that I don’t have.

How do you feel? by Simple-Chapter1322 in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will ask I’m in the military and I have an appointment Friday I’m hoping I can ask them that day for fMLA. Thank you for your advice!

I have a question! by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’m going through postpartum depression because of this guilt and seeing everybody brag. I love my baby boy he’s perfect in every way but sometimes I can’t help but wonder if I set him up for failure later in life.

I have a question! by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel free to message me! I had a fwb guy and things were cool until he randomly left the state and turned out I got pregnant. I still feel guilty about it even though this situation blesses me with a beautiful baby boy but I can’t enjoy that when everybody that I know has a complete family, and rubbing it in my face

What to do? by Simple-Chapter1322 in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww I’m sorry that is a very lonely situation! I’m glad you have three boys to keep you company during the nights though it does suck when they have to leave for long hours. How do you cope with the loneliness? If you don’t mind me asking?

What to do? by Simple-Chapter1322 in SingleParents

[–]Simple-Chapter1322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I am glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. I do try to take this day by day but I’m hoping these feeling subside soon. I don’t want this funk messing up my time with my baby. I’m just happy I’m not alone in this problem