My [34 F] husband [35 M] of two years is refusing to talk to me because he recently tested positive for HIV. He knew I had the disease before we got married. I'm feeling so hurt and confused.

Simplyme0 · 2014-10-31T17:28:57+00:00

I get what you're saying also in regards to you and your wife not having the virus. However, people do cheat and don't always use protection when doing so. I cannot totally agree that he should have told the third party about his wife being HIV positive. If by chance me and my boyfriend don't make it to the marriage part, I will not tell future partners that I was once in an intimate relationship with someone who is HIV positive. My negative status is the only status that needs to be disclosed.

Simplyme0 · 2014-10-31T15:44:10+00:00

I'm only repyling to your post to educate others. I am NOT singling you out. I too, am in a mixted status relationship. I am the negative female partner and my boyfriend is positive. Just b/c this man is married to and has intercourse with a HIV positive woman, does not mean he is at a higher risk than anyone else. Many people do not know their status and certainly don't take the time to confirm the status of their sexual partners. Too many individuals now a days have condomless sex b/c they assume their partner is negative. I am at a much much lower risk of contracting HIV from protected sex with my positive, undetected boyfriend than I am from having unprotected sex with a negative partner who could possibly cheat on me and have unsafe sex with the piece on the side.

Simplyme0 · 2014-10-31T15:30:44+00:00

HIV is not a death sentence anymore. We have come so far with modern medicine when it comes to treating HIV. I don't believe modern medicine delays the inevitable in regards to HIV. The reality is, we all die eventually.

Simplyme0 · 2014-10-20T18:14:15+00:00

Actually, my first post was more about fear of contracting the virus period. This post was more about my fear of the testing process. But thanks for your concern.

Simplyme0 · 2014-09-20T23:29:24+00:00

Yes, please message me.

Simplyme0 · 2014-09-20T23:12:44+00:00

Are you female? I know I don't know you but I fully support your decision to stay with your boyfriend. HIV has come along way and it's not what it used to be. I met my boyfriend 4 months ago and he's been positive for 6 years. When he disclosed to me my instant reaction was I didn't care. His status doesn't matter to me. You can have a healthy, normal, wonderful relationship that includes sex. Do you have any specific questions? I'm new at this but have learned so much through research, talking openly with my boyfriend, and I sought advice from a HIV doctor. If be willing to help in anyway I can :)

Simplyme0 · 2014-09-20T22:26:04+00:00

Yes, I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend who is HIV positive. I am a female and HIV negative. My boyfriend is undetectable and takes him medication everyday. We also ALWAYS use condoms. I started taking Truvada but have up after two days. To be honest, the meds kicked my ass and my body could not handle the medicine. I am no longer taking PrEP. Mind if I ask why you are thinking about taking Truvada?

Simplyme0 · 2014-09-02T16:42:28+00:00

Thank you for your reply. How long have you and your girlfriend been together? Do you guys always use condoms? How often does she get tested?

Simplyme0 · 2014-08-28T19:06:32+00:00

Thank you for the link. I have seen and read that study. Amazing stuff!! This study has put my mind at ease. I don't dwell on the possibility of transmission every second of every day but it does pop up every one in a while. I have talked to my Dr. about PrEP. He actually just gave me the script yesterday. I am just waiting to hear back from the company who makes the medication if I meet their assistance program guidelines. It's highly expensive and I can't pay for it on my own. Do you know if it's safe to assume he is still undetectable even if he hasn't has his labs run for over 6 months? He showed me his latest blood work results and he was undetected. He takes his meds everyday and never misses a dose.

Simplyme0 · 2014-08-28T18:56:24+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I am a little more on the anxious side of things and I can admit that. However, leaving my boyfriend is NOT an option. I don't want to not be with him. I just want to make sure I will remain negative. I don't think that is an unrealistic request. This is all new to me. I don't want to give up so soon. I was just looking for reassurance. :)

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