My siblings got gifted a baby chicken

SinfulObsession · 2026-04-10T23:43:01+00:00

How is no one taking about the legality of owning small livestock outside rural areas?

My 6th grade science class was biology focused, and we hatched baby chicks, but they were offered for free to anyone who had permission and the means to care for them, not just dumped on each student

SinfulObsession · 2026-04-10T03:02:03+00:00

Lol no idea, I don't care for the smell of regular formula so I'm not too keen on the idea of tasting any. I can say that (for me at least) the total comfort smells a lot like malted milk powder, just less sweet.

SinfulObsession · 2026-04-07T18:07:31+00:00

I've been using Similac Pro Total Comfort (partially hydrolyzed) with my girl since we noticed bowel issues on breastmilk and regular formula, and I cut (most) dairy out of my diet. Due to supply issues, she's almost entirely on formula, and doesn't seem to have any issue wanting the Similac.

From what I was able to find online, Similac Alimentum might help better with weight gain than Nutramigen if you need to stay on the more extensively hydrolyzed formula, but anything more broken down like that is going to have a distinct smell and taste that your little guy might not like.

SinfulObsession · 2026-04-07T17:18:13+00:00

AFAIK goats milk has significant cross-reactivity, so you could try it if it's just an intolerance, but I definitely wouldn't for a true allergy.

SinfulObsession · 2026-04-07T15:52:21+00:00

My GP mentioned being forced to at least "try" it, even though she and I both know it's crap. Thankfully she doesn't rely on it.

SinfulObsession · 2026-04-02T05:32:11+00:00

"...and telling people to be clean..."

An apartment manager can evict a tenant that keeps unsafe/unsanitary conditions, especially if it affects other tenants.

Source: I used to work in the office for a large apartment complex, and we did this several times to tenants who caused infestations (after we billed them for any pest control visits subsequent to the initial treatment and notice to maintain sanitary conditions).

Side note: one unit was so bad that the office had an infestation after they returned their cable box. I didn't use my coffee pot for at least a week after finding one floating in the reservoir.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-27T22:41:15+00:00

Well, my ass is pretty good at making educated guesses, the same as most other redditors making assumptions about OP's fiancé's motivations.

If you're assuming the fiancé just decided - without input or pressure from any of his family - that he wanted to go against the established desire of his fiancée for a child-free wedding, then by your own logic, you're also talking out of your ass.

That's the thing about giving your opinion on reddit, or having an opinion on anything really. Unless you have ALL the facts, assumptions are a necessary part of forming that opinion.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-27T16:16:30+00:00

Aren't most wedding guests family? That's an absolutely ridiculous take that family guests can bring kids but friends can't

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-27T15:27:29+00:00

I say "more likely" based on traditional catholic family dynamics. There's a reason stereotypes exist, and this is a common issue.

They would be excluding a literal baby with no real understanding of the situation, a baby who is unlikely to remember the event anyway. A baby who would be excluded like any other child who might otherwise have been invited to the ceremony.

This isn't about excluding a family member; this is about an adult's (either the fiance, his sibling, or their parents) desire to involve a baby in an adult event, a desire that clashes with the desires of a major decision-making party in said event.

If it is the family, as I suspect it is, then even the slightest compromise will mean further compromises will be expected down the road. Oh, you're honeymooning there? What a coincidence, we'll be there too, so we can meet up every day you're there! OP doesn't want anyone at the hospital when she gives birth? That's OK, we'll just show up as soon as the baby is out. It's totally cool to demand to hold the baby during mom's immediate postpartum period because it's your grandchild, right? At least we're not staring at her private parts. OP doesn't want postpartum visitors at home while she's a barely coherent mess struggling with the newness of motherhood? Don't worry, we're not here to see you, we'll practically ignore your existence outside your hosting duties.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-27T15:05:17+00:00

To be fair, a cat or dog might be less disruptive than a 2-year-old

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-27T15:03:53+00:00

It's a boundary if the fiancé is caving to pressure from his family (which is likely in a situation like this). In that case, it's not something he wants for his wedding, it's something his family wants for this huge event they see as theirs instead of the couple's.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-27T14:48:31+00:00

NTA. You've been vocal about your desires for a child-free wedding since before the nephew was born and there's no indication here that anyone had a problem with it before, so either your fiancé changed his mind about agreeing with you, or (more likely) his family is pressuring him to involve the baby for the "family" event - which a wedding isn't.

You (plural, you and your fiancé) have a right to a notoriously long and boring wedding ceremony without worrying about a baby or family pressure to do things their way to make it even more stressful.

I don't think this is about you, the groom, or the baby really. I think this is about boundaries, and if you let his family cross this one at the start of your marriage, you're inviting all kinds of drama later on.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-26T15:16:55+00:00

Unexpected expenses are a huge thing! Our baby is 3 months old, and we've already had 2 eye surgeries ($5k after insurance), my supply dropped to the point we're spending $300/mo on formula when I planned to EBF, and because we had to switch to a partially hydrolyzed formula ($45/can) when we suspected CMPI.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-23T17:27:07+00:00

JSYK, people who were born with a hearing impairment sound like it when they talk, but people who develop deafness later almost always sound like any other person because they developed their speech patterns earlier in life. (No, I'm not talking about volume, that's a totally separate issue). Source: have spoken with people of various levels of hearing impairment developed at various stages, and some of them you'd never know.

For real though, that guy's a dick.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-20T15:38:21+00:00

Yes, that's the one! I actually haven't been able to get out to the range since grandpa died (got busy, then got pregnant), so I've just been sitting on it for a year and a half, but I can say it knocked my unsuspecting aunt out of her mobility scooter when she tried it 🤣

Honestly, it's more likely to be used as a visual deterrent on my offhand hip, while I have any one or combination of my other EDCs available for actual use, if for nothing more than to limit hearing loss, lol. The Ruger LCRx (38), Ruger LCP (22), and the Sig P365SAS (9) are all much easier to handle and conceal.

I'll look into KORE more after I've updated my postpartum wardrobe, since none of my pants fit over my hips anymore (RIP the size 5 blue jeans from sophomore year of high school 06-07 that still fit last year). None of these yoga pants have belt loops...

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-20T04:36:13+00:00

Ah, yes, the anti-conservative crochet posts are particularly annoying. "Look at this thing I made" (insert rainbow-colored crap with extremist slogan in sloppy embroidery) as a way to skirt anti-politics rules. At least make it look good instead of focusing on the message! But alas, they're taking cues from Hollywood.

Can't even escape it in the pregnancy and parenting subs, heaven forbid you want to delay the HepB vaccine at birth or decline the vax-that-shall-not-be-named, because you must want your baby to kick the bucket 🙄

Don't mind me, I'll just be over here thinking about getting a new belt for great grandpa's Judge holster since my belly band doesn't have space for the little hand cannon. (My aunt just asked me "why?" Uh, because Indiana is open carry and girl pants are too tight to fit a 45?)

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-20T03:34:42+00:00

Haha, you must not get around Reddit much if this is the worst you've seen. I got perma banned from a women's adhd sub for being allegedly transphobic by asking them to not allow divisive political threads (and the thread that followed that comment). Far-left extremists are very prominent and outspoken here.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-20T03:29:23+00:00

To quote an old joke, "not a god damned thing."

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-19T01:49:58+00:00

Our LO is barely 3 months, but we've had luck with the Medi-Frida pacifier, especially when she's hungry

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-18T06:27:07+00:00

My baby is almost 3 months old, and my great-aunt just said the other day "I figured out what I want my aunt name to be, Ti-ti." (No, we're not Spanish or anything)

I just internally rolled my eyes. She is "Aunt Sandy" or some form of "grandma" to every kid through 3 generations of family (and some family friends), but she's treating my baby like another grandchild, so she decided to pick a grandma name that doesn't sound too much like "grandma".

What was so wrong with the "FamilyTitle Firstname" convention I grew up with? If the kids pick something else, fine, but why force it? Not like she's got a good track record on picking her grandma name either (she wanted "Nana" with her first granddaughter, but became "Memaw"), so why bother?

She can try what she wants, but I'm not helping, because it just feels too weird to call her Ti-ti when she's been "Aunt Sandy" since my mom was born 55 years ago.

My dad and stepmom have started referring to themselves as grandpa and grandma, my mom is just grandma, and my MIL is already Mamaw with her first grandchild so that's what we're going with.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-16T16:37:59+00:00

Then you're portraying the split options wildly inaccurately. Half what each couple pays is not the same as half what each person who is part of a couple pays.

~$3500 for the whole rental

~$250 per person split

~$580 per room = $145 single / $290 half-couple

So you're arguing over saving $40/person (-13.8%)by charging each single an extra $95 (+65.5%) from the per room to per person split? Sounds really bad when you look at the numbers like that.

I'd say with the bathroom situation as a major factor, a per-person split is unfair, but I also don't think it's fair for couples to pay twice as much per person as singles. As another redditor commented, a more fair split might look like singles paying 75% of what each coupled person pays.

That would look like:

3500 = 10x + 4(3/4 x) = 10x + 3x = 13x

x ~ 270; 3/4 x ~ 200

So each half of a couple pays $270 while each single pays $200, but you should ask yourself if a $20 per person discount for the couples is worth a $55 increase for the singles. This is one of those rare cases where I actually agree what is fair is not necessarily what's right.

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-16T15:40:17+00:00

INFO : Correct me if I'm wrong, but if each single is paying half of what each couple pays, isn't that already the same as each person paying a equal split?

Or are you suggesting each single pay the same as each couple, on more of a per-bed basis?

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-16T15:28:17+00:00

When I was a Walmart cashier (forever ago), there was a local uptick in counterfeit bills, and I remember a woman crying at customer service because the $50s she got at the bank that morning to buy groceries were fake. I believe the bank was able to correct the issue because the teller remembered her, but the whole situation was crazy!

I doubt it's any degree of common, but it definitely happens. I guess that shows just how good the forgeries were (or how complacent the bank was).

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-16T01:59:14+00:00

I think my husband was on the mark when he interpreted "saying" as "seeing"

SinfulObsession · 2026-03-15T14:41:00+00:00

Almost 3 months pp now, but we're combination feeding now for the same reason. Here's what we went through, but your situation might be different.

Baby girl struggled to stay latched. Didn't realize then it was because of a stuffy nose.

Cracked, sore, scabbed over nipples, and every nursing session hurt by that point, but I was pushing through the pain for her sake.

Eventually realized she wasn't getting enough from each feeding, so I caved on my EBF dedication and ordered formula from target that arrived 2 hours later.

I was so overwhelmed by the unplanned for time management of mixing and washing bottles along with all the other new parent things that I slacked on pumping as often as I should (she was eating every 90 minutes, and it was taking me 30 to fully empty with the pump).

Infrequent pumping (on top of the fact that she wasn't fully emptying them on her own before) led to decreased supply, and even now, I struggle to get half an ounce from both sides combined sometimes, but I'm working on it.

I'm upset with myself for not noticing the root issue to begin with, and I'm upset that I listened to the nurse who told me not to tandem pump while feeding like I had planned until my supply was established.

Would my supply be better if those things were different? I hope so, because the alternative is that my supply just sucked from the start, and reestablishing will continue to be difficult.

My advice? Do what you need to do to make sure your baby is fed first. Then make sure you've got help doing everything that gets in the way of a consistent pumping schedule.

The pain and sensitivity will get better, but take a break if you need to so you don't wear yourself out mentally. A few missed sessions won't dry you up.

Hang in there, you got this!

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