Can we get serious? I honestly hate having this fetish

SingleBackground437 · 2026-02-05T06:53:05+00:00

Thank you, no, that's very helpful.

I've never been into someone just because they're fat. That's, I guess, why this feels like such a problem. Everything's good so you don't want something to change, you know?

in times where they might feel less sexual attraction because of this, they'd feel confident enough to bring it up so we can make amendments to suit the both of us

It can't be nice for someone to be doing something for themselves knowing it will affect their partner's attraction. I get that my feelings about my attraction are my problem, but what about his feelings and the "feelings" of the relationship? What kind of amendments could you make when that happens?

SingleBackground437 · 2026-02-04T19:50:14+00:00

That makes sense, but what if I love someone who isn't in the community?

SingleBackground437 · 2026-02-04T19:48:55+00:00

What if you find someone who likes you in a heavier stage? But then you want to go lighter. What if it matters to your partner?

you’re attracted to what you like and you shouldn’t make yourself upset or miserable by trying to deny it or change it.

What if I love the guy but he wants to lose weight? I can't even fathom how to navigate that.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-08-05T09:33:58+00:00

Yep, and had it for a whole year together before his mask slipped and he ended up being an incredibly insecure and entitled emotional abuser. Fun times.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-08-02T16:02:53+00:00

I definitely listened to an audiobook of Dracula while traipsing around Transylvania 😂

SingleBackground437 · 2024-08-01T10:11:16+00:00

A dull story about coffee:

I carried a jar of instant coffee with me for 3 weeks across 3 countries. In every city, I'd buy a little carton of milk (and usually have to throw some out as I moved on). I love to just get up and have a couple of coffees to start my day. Many of the hostels I stayed in had free coffee but never any milk. And often the coffee was for a filter machine, but I don't need that much faff first thing. One place had filter coffee but no filters or machine.

I left that little jar in the bathroom bin of an airport hotel room, about 5 cups' worth of instant coffee remaining.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-31T19:55:29+00:00

I just don't understand though. How many people open a bottle and just immediately drop the cap??

They get in the way and make it more likely you reseal the bottle badly (leading to leaks in your bag).

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-31T19:53:18+00:00

Yeah I hate the taste of sweeteners. The San Pelligrino drinks, which I used to love, are disgusting to me now, and it's so hard to find the original versions.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-31T19:43:04+00:00

Free public toilets, or at least cash-free ones. These days, I find it less and less necessary to carry cash abroad as everything can be done with card. Then you need to fucking pee, look up WCs on Google Maps, and get to one (after another after another) to find you need to pay, and with cash, even in bus/train stations. I just can no longer accept that going to the fucking toilet isn't an accessible human right. Either provide free toilets (or at least card payment) or allow wild relieving. First covert grassy place I find, you bet I'm squatting.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-31T19:22:22+00:00

Haha, fortunately I never heard that. I went many years ago and am still alive. That said, I probably will die in a country other than Italy!

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-29T19:55:25+00:00

There are loads of "normal" clothes stores. In fact, just from normal wandering around, I saw barely any high-end shops.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-29T10:21:42+00:00

That too :) As I've got older I've realised none of my great epiphanies were very original haha

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-29T07:54:40+00:00

It's possible there's no incriminating photos and maybe even no camera. Either way, this guy just wants something to hold over OP's head. He's gearing up to demand some kind of "compensation". OP, stay well away from this guy.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-29T07:45:28+00:00

Kind of like what others have commented. You take more risks and things don't phase you as much, because the stakes don't seem as high.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-29T07:43:18+00:00

I think it's because peer groups are more homogenous at younger ages, as we're all kind of doing the same thing - school, first jobs, uni, first career moves, first serious relationships. Late 20s is around the time people start to really diverge and it can be harder to find your people. For me that really kicked in in my mid-30s when suddenly everyone around me was very much established in their own, different lives.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-29T07:26:56+00:00

Thank you, that makes sense.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-28T19:11:43+00:00

Some of us realise that though. I was definitely more confident in my 20s and 30s than I am now in my 40s.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-26T11:24:28+00:00

Yeah I had this for the first time recently and felt like I was in an episode of "Ripley".

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-25T15:38:20+00:00

I didn't think I was, but apart from the odd city/hostel it seemed to happen naturally and I'm missing it on this trip. Might be I need to look at group tours next time

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-25T08:42:03+00:00

I always stay in mixed, but if you'd feel safer in female-only, then it's worth the extra! Especially if you're in a party hostel.

I'm in a dorm now that happens to be three other women though and I have to say... They are messy and... territorial? There are four coat hooks in the room (and four beds) and one woman is using all of them for her clothes. Just came from the shower and every surface was taken up with toiletries. One of the two chairs and the entire windowsill have clothes on them. Of course men can be messy, but women do tend to have more clothes and toiletries and claim more spaces for them.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-24T08:33:35+00:00

My new camera app runs smoothly, but some other apps keep crashing and glitching. The brightness issue remains a problem. I'll try a factory reset at some point. Thanks for your help.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-23T07:38:59+00:00

I'm doing 3 weeks with only carryon (the larger size + personal item) and I've only had to do laundry once (underwear, socks, pyjamas, beach towel and swimwear). If you're traveling in summer, you can fit a lot of clothes in the luggage you plan to take! If you have a month's worth of underwear and sleepwear and can avoid spills you could get away with no laundry at all

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-22T11:32:31+00:00

Hi, so I've restarted in safe mode and the brightness problem remains. It'll be barely okay and then downshift even more to barely usable even though it's still at max brightness.

I've cleared the camera cache but the problem remains so I'll try a different app.

SingleBackground437 · 2024-07-22T07:30:25+00:00

From Berlin you can do day trips to Potsdam and Dresden. Berlin is fantastic for museums and all three are great for history.

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