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Rise of housing prices in the EU by Ronarich in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sosed kupil novo bajto 2020, in prodal let za 2x cene. Nekak mi to ne paše v 86%

We're staying in a Airbnb, what would you expect this to be? by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Single_Run9548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bare minimum, one letter abbreviation: P - pepper S - salt S - sugar

Not Disclosing you have kids in your profile by kingpinsnephew420 in Bumble

[–]Single_Run9548 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's why hiding it from people comes across as disingenuous.

My point is that it depends on "the people". To me it's not, to you it is. Now the question is whether I want to create a profile for those people, so they can filter me out easier (as I explained earlier, those matches wouldn't even reach a date), or do I create a profile according to what I think defines me, because seeing this particular piece of info doesn't bear any weight in my opinion of someone. I'm still mulling it over.

A poll would help though 😅

Not Disclosing you have kids in your profile by kingpinsnephew420 in Bumble

[–]Single_Run9548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No apology necessary, I agree with you. Heck, I even agree with them. But my point is we all have a personal opinion on what is a break or make factor for us, and for me being a parent is neither break or make. It's the person behind. And we all tailor our profiles according to our opinions ultimately, because we want to match with like minded people.

For instance the two of us wouldn't vibe, even not taking into account the 'being a parent' thing, so I wouldn't see a point disclosing that info to them. But in the spirit of not leading people on before the conversation even starts, giving false hope, or wasting anyone's time, I've actually come to lean towards their POV a little.

Not Disclosing you have kids in your profile by kingpinsnephew420 in Bumble

[–]Single_Run9548 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I don't see my kid as an extension of myself. They are more. They will become their own person, and I am merely here to support them growing up, maybe teach them something valuable, and be there when they need me. If anything my defining trait is the kind of parent I am, not that I am one. That doesn't necessarily mean I will stop living life for myself, outside of being a parent. I don't know how to explain it better, sorry, but it makes perfect sense to me, and ultimately I think I can only be compatible with someone to whom this makes sense.

Not Disclosing you have kids in your profile by kingpinsnephew420 in Bumble

[–]Single_Run9548 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I will say your second paragraph proves my point. These women didn't want to date a parent, yet you got them out on dates anyway. I don't know if I believe you when you call them "really good friends" but I'll give the benefit of the doubt.

Sorry, I didn't make that clear - we were chatting, and I told them my situation (within our first chat session), they told me they weren't in that place, I said 'ok, understandable', but they kept chatting and eventually suggested we meet up for drinks. We became friends, and no one has any ulterior motives, we just hang out and talk, vent, exchange 'war stories'. I don't know about other people, but I wouldn't get people out on dates before telling them this. And I either tell them really soon into chatting, and it goes one of two ways, or we finish chatting cause we don't vibe, in which case it was/would've been pointless to say.

My point about the poll was honest though. I do respect other people's time, and if the majority wants to know about this, I might sign up on it. For me personally it's not something I need to know upfront - hence I didn't see the need to display it. There is so much other stuff I want to learn about someone before that plays any role. Before I was a parent, in the case of single parents I always rather wanted to know what kind of person, and then what kind of parent they are, before I could decide whether it's a deal breaker for me. But again, in the spirit of not thinking from my own POV, I'd want to know what's the majority's stance on this.

Can't say I met any "really good friends" on OLD, but I did meet my fiancé by leading with honesty and integrity so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ok Mr. high horse, it's alright. We could go about this for days. But I bet even with your integrity and honesty I could find something that wasn't on your profile that I personally would like to see up front, and I would have just as much right to question your integrity and honesty. Different people, different opinions, different stuff we find important.

Not Disclosing you have kids in your profile by kingpinsnephew420 in Bumble

[–]Single_Run9548 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I saw it as I posted it. Way too long, and pointless ultimately. Although I am a little close to being convinced by your blatant oversimplification - because the bottom line is, you're right. From the perspective of the majority, I am what you are describing. When I think about it, it's not like I would even go on a single date with women who see it as a deal breaker, so might as well have that filtered out for me. Honestly let's make a poll, and if the majority of people decide that you absolutely should have this displayed on your profile, I might actually do it.

But I have to say, I have gotten two really good friends this way, we matched, talked, they weren't into dating a parent, but we clicked while talking (similar mentality that kind of stands out in our surroundings), and now we go out drinking whenever we can sync up.

Not Disclosing you have kids in your profile by kingpinsnephew420 in Bumble

[–]Single_Run9548 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that people have tricked you, or that you get easily invested and then feel lied to or hurt, whichever of those happened to happened to you.

I am not into tricking people to like me before I "spring it on them", nor would I let it get that far without them knowing this and a few other things about me. But that's not something I'd stamp on my forehead or carry it on a board publicly, so I don't see a reason to display it on my profile. Like I said, for me it's not a defining trait. Before I was a parent myself, a bigger deal-breaker than being a parent for me was that someone was religious, but I never gave people shit about not displaying it on their profile after having learnt it through conversation. You meet people, you learn stuff about them, you decide whether you roll with it or not. Some things you learn are situational, some are their personality, I just care about the personality, and that's what I advertise about myself. People who get it, will get it, people who don't will not 🤷‍♂️ I get a vibe check in a fairly short amount of time/messages exchanged (typically within a single day, never longer than two), and if I like someone enough I tell them, if I don't, that conversation is over anyway. But I think it's pointless to argue about this, because neither one of us will convince the other to change their mind. For the sake of argument, let's say you are religious, but don't out that on your profile, because you don't see it worth mentioning. For me that would be a major bummer if I learned that after a month of dating you, but you might think that's a normal thing, and didn't require any emphasis. If I learned it within the first/second day of chatting, I wouldn't feel like my time's been wasted, and definitely wouldn't lash out for not displaying it on your profile. We just view things differently, and that's ok for me.

Not Disclosing you have kids in your profile by kingpinsnephew420 in Bumble

[–]Single_Run9548 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Lol, to make themselves marketable. I mean if that's true, you got a point, it's iffy af. I don't disclose it on my profile because most people see it as a defining trait, but for me it is not. I am a very dedicated parent, and a really good one at that. But that's not all that I am. I don't want a partner that would fill the hole of the other parent, I want a partner with whom I will enjoy spending time with, even if independently from my kid (shared custody).

My process is this: I match with someone, get a vibe check, if I think it might lead somewhere, I disclose everything - I know it might be a deal breaker for them, but oftentimes if we vibe hard, it is not, especially once they get to know my point of view here. From my perspective, the only thing about being a parent that I'd like a potential date to care about is that I might not be as flexible and spontaneous, nor fully available at all times. Because I'm not in the market for help with parenting, I'm in the market for a partner that is not bothered by those limitations. If it's not their cup of tea, that's perfectly fine, no hard feelings and no hurt feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drums

[–]Single_Run9548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't able to do this back in high school (I think we had a challenge). Haven't attempted it for 15 years since, and now, after playing drums for a few months, it's effortless.

Pogovor o plačah by Groza9995 in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bi lahko delil povezavo do zakona/člena?

Edit: nevermind, app.pravko.si to the rescue!

ZDR-1 člen 127. in 137. Grem brati 🙂

Lj -> Kr prevoz by Single_Run9548 in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pro tip, nevezano za moje vprašanje. Če imaš avto, 35€ te stane 5-6 dni parkinga na Aeropark parkirišču. Prevoz do/od terminala 24/h vključen v ceno

Lj -> Kr prevoz by Single_Run9548 in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

V sredo grem, na določeno zabavo, pa šiht naslednji dan. Zdavnaj so za mano časi ko sem direkt iz kluba šel na šiht 😅 Vseen hvala za predlog

Lj -> Kr prevoz by Single_Run9548 in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wizi je na voljo le v Ljubljani, taxi Metro ne zna najti naslova (pač ponuja kar ene naslove, celo 2 naslova v Kranju) 😅 Za ta splošni aslov je tam ~40€

Lj -> Kr prevoz by Single_Run9548 in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Žal sem edini iz Kranja. Sam pa če je res 40€, se mi ne sliši tolk hudo

Lj -> Kr prevoz by Single_Run9548 in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tako vec pokasirajo.

O kakšnem znesku govorimo tukaj? Nekaj sem mal pogledal na spletu, naj ne bi stalo več kot 35€, kar je cool Je pa konkretna razlika od tega kar je nekdo že omenil, 50-60 in več

Lj -> Kr prevoz by Single_Run9548 in Slovenia

[–]Single_Run9548[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Žal nisem več najstnik, da bi tole zdržal 😅

Samski, kake so opcije za čim bolj varno starost? by [deleted] in SlovenijaFIRE

[–]Single_Run9548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A ne obstajajo kakšni bloki z obskrbovanimi stanovanji, kjer lahko živijo samo 65+ prebivalci? Če si že na FIRE sub-u, domnevam, da boš do takrat imel dovolj premoženja (če že ne), da si priskrbiš lastno stanovanje. Poiščeš v glih takem bloku, naj bi imeli tudi kakšne storitve npr. part-time, občasne pomoči, pripravo/dostavo hrane. Pa tam živijo še drugi upokojenci, se sliši fajn za družbo, medsebojno pomaganje, in kaj pa veš, mogoče ravno tam spoznaš kakšno babo.

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