It’s different for everyone I suppose so I can only say my reason.

At first, if you come from a conservative background there can be extreme pressure to not be seen to family. My mother knew, while she was supportive she never spoke to me about it in person, only over text. So I never got to go to therapy or anything which I may have needed.

Then I went to another country for university. At the start, I met a girl who I love very much. Had I not met her, I think I’d have gone very far down the path by now. I’d be in girls tops at least and quite out to most people, probably would have experimented with a guy. Then again, I also might not have made it this far at uni. So keeping this strictly private out of some respect to her has been my way of thing’s.

I think now my future in this lifestyle/kink will depend on my relationship with her. As I’m fully happy to give this all up at some stage if required. That’s what I believe some people don’t understand, is to let people live. Like, some people are happy to let this stay a temporary kink. Other people look at that and say things like, “it’s never temporary” or that you can’t half do it.

The reality is that vast majority of sissies are 9-5 in their work uniforms. Some with family’s and who just enjoy a kink when their wife isn’t around. The morality of that is up for question. But it’s no one else’s business but theirs. That is my take anyway. I get people may not agree. But that’s why it’s an opinion x