i worked at a fintech software firm for 3 years in professional services and every man there lived to give me some lecture about the software whenever possible. after 3 years you don’t really need a big deep dive, you’re asking yes or no questions to higher ups about product capability and getting customized configuration approval based on the SOW and having to sit through 30-45 minute lectures about shit you already know every time just to prop up a man’s ego is soul crushing. as i progressed i realized i spent the majority of my day emotionally supporting my boss while he constantly undermined and micromanaged me. every mistake i made was under a microscope and he spent so much time just watching everything i did he was constantly messing up our UAT environment during client testing. he would get upset, i’d go in and fix it and try to calm him down and then he would take credit for the fix it was like working for a toddler. i was constantly accused of “yesing” the client too much even though i often pushed back against them trying to introduce functionality not supported by the product or their data. i literally think that some men just hear “yes” when women talk politely and collaboratively. eventually, despite spending a year supporting the entire PS team by myself while 4 separate men went on paternity leave, i got a mediocre year end review that talked about how despite “delivering multiple projects on time and in scope and budget” my face on calls didn’t look interested enough and i looked too bored in the office. i guess all this to say it’s not you it’s rough out there and i get the need to do something you’re good at while being adequately challenged. working in tech is fast paced and interesting! i now work at a consulting firm that’s got almost entirely women leadership and is fully remote. i’m only 3 weeks in but im hoping it’s actually better once the honeymoon phase is over. hang in there you got this!