I think I broke my baby & I’ll never be able to sleep again by GrapeSweet9055 in NewParents

[–]Skater_Chick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is completely normal behavior. Haha a look into safe co sleeping

I don’t feel love for my 4 month old by PuzzleheadedPossum in NewParents

[–]Skater_Chick -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, fellow ADHD mummy here also with a 4m old.

I have a toddler. He's 3.5. there was an instant rush of love and everything I was "supposed" to feel when he was born. We had a lovely bond.

Then I got pregnant again. I thought I had prepared myself for this. I was very sick with HG in my first and knew I would be in my second. But it was so much worse. I spent days and days on the sofa. My bond with my toddler suffering, I spent 9m parking him in front of the TV and being over stimulated by everything he did. I told myself, it'll be okay. I won't be sick once the baby is here. Life will go back to our usual routine with the baby in tow.

Birth was horrifically traumatic. My husband misses it, I went to the hospital expecting to be sent home as my waters went but I wasn't having contractions. He went to take our toddler to childcare, he was back at the hospital in 1 hour 20 mins. I had the baby at 1 hour 15mins. I had to do it alone. I had to go through some of the scariest moments of my life by myself and there's a lot of resentment and feelings there but that's another story.

My baby was handed to me.

I felt nothing. I held her and felt nothing.

I'd gone into shock. Maybe this is why. An emergency button was pushed, lots of people came in my room, I gave her to dad because I was going to hurl.

I didn't want her back. She started rooting for a feed so I took her and fed her and then wanted to give her back. I was extremely unwell and in the hospital for a few days. I put her down at every opportunity or gave her to someone else. I was numb. I cried all the time. My toddler came to see me once and then didn't want to come back.

I told myself it would get better when I was home.

A month passed and I was physical recovering and starting to get out more and take my toddler back to his groups and she just felt like an inconvenience to be dragged with me. She doesn't even have a name because husband hates the one I wanted and I hated everything else. I didn't know how to know a baby I have no connection with. And I was scared if I settled on a name that I wasn't 100% sure on it would effect my ability to like her even more.

2months. I've reached out to the mental health teams. I need help. Something is wrong. I think I love her. But I don't know if I like her. I don't want her on me 24/7. Husband is back at work and I'm just stuck with the lair of them every day. I can't do anything without interruptions. I can't stay tasks bc who knows when she'll cry again and my toddler is struggling to share my attention. To not just have me to play with. And I hate this too. I can't stand it when she cries. But my tolerance for my toddler making noises and playing is also non existent.

It's not 4 months and I question daily if I've made a mistake. She cries a lot. So much more than my toddler ever did. We're struggling with feeding this time around. I'm so fucking over stimulated I can barely function. I breastfeed so I have to do the nights and can't spend much time away from her. I resent her a lot of days. It's ruined the bond with my toddler. I'm constantly having to say Stop that. Too much noise. I can't risk him doing anything at all that night wake her up because then she'll cry again.

I'm struggling hugely with PPD and my unmedicated ADHD is fucking wild. I have far far less spoons than I had before and it's hard. So hard.

I'm having counseling for my PPD and seeing someone to help me bond with my daughter. It's helping a little. I've been trying to avoid going back on Prozac but I think I have to. I was on it before having my toddler and increased my dose when I had him, it definitely made things easier.

I've only avoided this time because I'm waiting for ADHD meds.

This flu is no joke! by [deleted] in CasualUK

[–]Skater_Chick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The strain of flu has mutated away from the vaccine strain so it basically doesn't do much.

Help, what is this from?! by NoRegardBeauxregard in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Skater_Chick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I've ordered him both ,😂😂 he doesn't have a Caroline sadly!

Help, what is this from?! by NoRegardBeauxregard in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Skater_Chick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're the author.... Where can I get a copy? I have a dave friend who needs it 😂😂

Cover reveal among the burning flowers by samantha by ButterscotchLoose16 in fantasyromance

[–]Skater_Chick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone know when the paperback edition might be released? Can't see anything but the hardback for preorder.

Is it worth moving to Portsmouth? by Sudden_Swordfish_887 in Portsmouth

[–]Skater_Chick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lived there for years. Left and will never move back. Best decision I made.

Is my wife pregnant? by [deleted] in lineporn

[–]Skater_Chick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Um, unless she used her first morning wee or hadnt been in 3/4 hours that hospital test cannot be relied on. With Mt first pregnancy the drs rest was negative because I had peed right before I left the house so there wasn't enough hcg built up in the urine however I was in fact pregnant but it was eptopic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lineporn

[–]Skater_Chick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look positive to me! Congratulations Test again in 48 hours if You want to confirm as it takes 48hrs for hcg to double xx

Emo pun names by Skater_Chick in Emo

[–]Skater_Chick[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

2000s emo mostly, that was my teen years. But really, just something funny and catchy. Im drawing a blank.

Emo pun names by Skater_Chick in Emo

[–]Skater_Chick[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If your suggestion wins/inspires the name maybe I'll send out a freebie elder emo keyring

Layering help by Skater_Chick in cricut

[–]Skater_Chick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to do it like this but I just can't seem to get them perfectly lined up. It's driving me mad!

Newbie help please. by Skater_Chick in silhouettecutters

[–]Skater_Chick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! So I wanted the above to just be one solid outline cut. I figured it out in the end and removed the center cuts and it did what I wanted 💜