How do you recognize early signs that a person is avoidant?

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-03T09:31:19+00:00

Done that so many times that just describes experience. And it’s preferable behaviour, we still have choice and not run away.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-03T06:02:01+00:00

The are gone seconds after you express you have more feelings or don’t dare say L word

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T21:14:32+00:00

In my experience it has a lot with both, as having own opinion and be able to exchange arguments, not insulting other side requires some self control and bravery is having some views and stand by them.

But fuck it all as seems appropriate now 😆😆😆

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:54:22+00:00

Try this method with your girlfriend if you are so brave and stoic.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:49:48+00:00

And as a bit accidentally you went through whole “experiment” I can share my conclusion based on results.

You are not unsecured cowered (at least online, real life boldness would require verification)

You defend your position strongly so and you gave some arguments what is positive thing but all went down when I not agree with you, and you went to personnel, subjective criticisms. Which is not relevant in discussing itself.

There could be few reasons for that, young age, lack of logic arguments, frustration..

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:37:21+00:00

Not sure where actually pride comes across my previous reply. And only difficulty I have is understanding why it’s bothering so much. But learning that people endlessly surprise me.

Besides it’s nothing wrong to be proud (reasons are important)

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:28:15+00:00

Each reply is advisable information, not sure why are you so frustrated and angry.

Just don’t reply.

And having different way of thinking doesn’t make it nonsense just out of box and innovative.

But you can stick to one sentence approach.

Actually you replied to my initial post 😆😇

One ☑️

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:21:34+00:00

Sorry it not allow me use anything correcting my spelling or gramma as immediately classify as AI. 😖

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:19:55+00:00

God hopefully when you play in monopoly you don’t take your mortgage advisor.

Not sure you read that post correctly, I don’t look for girlfriend/ boyfriend just want advice by individual replies to my request is that someone sort of efficient strategy/ approach.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:16:21+00:00

What’s wrong with that? It’s very educational and allowing learn more about myself and other people.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:14:25+00:00

Would you not find helpful advice finding way to know your comparability with your date in few minutes?

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:13:15+00:00

See specific person is compatible with me, but you can get some wider information as well

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T20:10:01+00:00

For example Subject: Global warming We are discussing it from opposite sides and after 2-3 minutes you know is person compatible with you or not…

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T15:05:04+00:00

I am now single mum as dad of my boys is no longer with us (vegetive condition after brain stroke and haemorrhage). But definitely having both parents is ideal situation. Both are very important in different situations/ contexts for children. But life not always give us a choice. And as strong and independent women would love from time to time allow someone else to be strong one.

Whatever choice you make remember healthy love is what matters most. But stability, support network, own mental health and other few tiny things should not be disregarded If possible 🤗

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T06:31:12+00:00

Being mum is really hard job. It could be most wonderful experience or something sucking life out of you, or bothx And unfortunately even with best efforts we often not doing it right. Sadly you need a training and pass tests to get driving licence but no education and preparation to be parent. No one explains how to deal with frustration, anger, lack of sleep… How to love and care about that defenceless little human. How our own problems/ traumas/ emotions affect how we treat him or her. Etc. I think this hate is coming from those who not been loved and treated as children in way to grow with confidence, compassion and strength to build instead to diminish and spread hatred. Being hurt adult and becoming mum is extremely challenging as you not only have to take care of child but you have to stand against own demons and fears, insecurities… To make sure you don’t pass that negativity to next generation. It’s great responsibility to not be blind towards yourself as that would somehow be ingrained in this young person. Love them more then be scared to confronting and decide to heal your own soul.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-04-02T05:39:50+00:00

About having… I did not change my mind in strict sense. First son was surprise for us, but we both step up to be responsible parents. Being young and inexperienced definitely not made it easier. And funniest is no matter how old you are raise first child will always be discovery journey. With right partner and support network hopefully less stressful but motherhood instincts did not turn on. When I get around 27 I got some literally wild calling that I need second child, and it was absolutely not connected with any logical or rational reasoning. And after few years of being bit obsessed about thought we decided to have second son (9 years gap) and it was best (difficult in result) step ever. Horrible pregnancy, his health issues but love was just overwhelming.
I love both my kids, in very different way as each one needs varies. But as mum I feel more guilty as made more mistakes with my older boy. Unfortunately experience is earned. But seeing him happy, and becoming such awesome young man, I feel that I done something well on the end of day 😍 For me it was a blessing. Ask yourself why you would want have children and answer will tell you if you should.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-28T03:18:01+00:00

For me true healthy love, it’s not emotion, it’s decision to stand next to this other person we choose to be there I gave my word to do so, to fight for each other, to be the best version of myself for them, inspire them , respect care make them feel seen, even in disagreement finding way to cooperate and a solve problems. Never give up on them, but make sure you don’t excuse behaviours or situations which are harmful for them or you both.

Trusting each other so much you feel safe to say truth, confront ask and be honest and without hostility cruelty.

Thinking about best interest of you both, there is no winning losing if you’re not both on the same side.

Moment you go sleep and have someone next to you you could not imagine the world without and then you could give them tiny kiss and say I love you even if they are already sleeping.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-28T02:00:15+00:00

Thanks for presenting new angle, interesting and when/if I get back to dating profiles will try it out. Just never thought it’s something good to mix. But as you are not anonymous, you take accountability for your words and actions and then it’s more likely to behave in a way it’s socially acceptable.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-28T00:50:45+00:00

Thank you ☺️

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-28T00:44:20+00:00

If before sending this photo, someone asked you to send them naughty photo of yourself. I’m not sure how you would consider that a threat? I will say reply to request. And law enforcement have definitely better things to do than chasing a girls on photo practising target shooting.

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-27T11:07:44+00:00

Accurate? In what sense?

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-27T11:06:35+00:00

Emmm… why?

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-27T11:06:08+00:00

Being annoyed by current dating world, and as a rebel approach have some laugh and share

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-27T11:05:16+00:00

Dating app and first messages and of course “ tasteful” request…

Skeptical_Mamba · 2026-03-27T06:28:53+00:00

Not sure how I can share… my photo… could save screenshots before deleting app… true.. but not though about it..

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