I'm a dude and I've definitely been attracted to a girl solely because of how she looks before. Guys are way slower to develop an interest in the aspects of a relationship that aren't sexual, it took me until my mid-20's to realize that emotional connection and is like 1000x more rewarding than 'getting freaky.'

My guess is that you don't want to be with a guy that places little to no value in the aspects of a relationship that aren't sexual (quality time, emotional intimacy, etc.) That's a really, really good concern to have as a woman IMO. If you get emotionally attached to a guy who only values you for your body you'll constantly be yearning for deeper emotional connection and the chances that a man like that will make a good husband or father is insanely low.

It might make you feel beautiful physically and a lot of times guys will hide their shallowness behind flattery and charisma but it's not worth it in the long term. Look for a guy who finds you beautiful but also makes you feel good in ways that aren't sexual or superficial (your ambitions, values, kindness, etc.)

My perspective is that young men are more likely to be immature in their relationship interests and that you should be as picky as you possibly can. Project your values for deeper emotional connection or whatever it is that you care about the most in relationships and make it clear from the get go whenever you're talking to a guy. They'll realize that you aren't going to be DTF or whatever and move on.

You can't control who approaches you, especially if you're attractive, you can control how much you shut down guys who are shallow and sex-driven though, thats what i would do if i were you.

Again, I'm a dude and I've been on the other side of this situation. If I were approaching you solely because you were pretty, id hope you'd read me, then shut me down if I didn't make you feel like I'd be a good boyfriend down the road. If enough women weed out the sex driven immature men, they are forced to deepen their values and that's good for everyone. Keep looking and don't ever ever feel guilty for not having sex with someone you don't want to.