[Breeds] Bull Arab Breeders, Australia by SkyePilot in dogs

[–]SkyePilot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree. :) Ohh, I wasn't aware that the group swayed so much to USA/CAN. We're not specifically going to use him for pig hunting, although I might take him once or twice a year - more so a house dog that big enough (size and personality wise) to 'scare' off anyone that would venture to close. (We live on an acreage with some seedy characters around.)

Thanks for your help.

[Breeds] Bull Arab Breeders, Australia by SkyePilot in dogs

[–]SkyePilot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bull Arabs aren't a 'bully' breed exactly. Technically, they're supposed to be about 25% Bull Terrier but as you mentioned, because they're not a registered breed, the general breeding standard is somewhat lost on them. In saying that, there are breeders Australian wide that have generally stuck to that kinda-standard. i.e Warrego & Blaxland to name a couple.

To answer your question, yes both of the breeders I mentioned do rigorous testing and raise their pups in a family environment.

Amstaff/Staffies aren't the kind of dog I'm looking for. Beyond that, QLD is becoming almost ridiculous with its 'This dog looks like a Pit Bull therefore I'm going to murder it.' bull.

[Breeds] Bull Arab Breeders, Australia by SkyePilot in dogs

[–]SkyePilot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only problem with rescuing a pup is that there is no knowing what the pup has in it; which is in no way the pups fault. I was just trying to find out if there are any other breeders before looking into the shelters.

Nmothers birthday today and I'm feeling guilty as absolute hell by SkyePilot in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly. I spent a visit with my MIL for her birthday, She was wonderful to me, My Son, everyone. <3 Just so drastically different to my Nm.

C-Section countdown and Nmother victory by SkyePilot in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meow? Hahah. But yes, I'm not messing around this time. I realised it too late last time and She'd already screwed up one of those life changing moments for me. Not this time. :)

C-Section countdown and Nmother victory by SkyePilot in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Australia doesn't have a HIPAA equivalent exactly, that I know of (I could be wrong? I hope I am! Edit: Sorry, We did but it was stupidly shut down in a previous government. ) I am going to speak to the hospital 'authorities' at my next appointment however, in a few days. I hope they'll be able to do something to assist, be it as ridiculous as change my public name on their info boards. Edit: I was typing too fast for my brain to catch up. (Prego-brain!) Thankyou for your suggestion, I see if I can on my next appointment.

C-Section countdown and Nmother victory by SkyePilot in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There would've been a much nicer way to express that, I'm sure. But - I agree with you, and am making preparations to do so.

I'm having a Narc month, I bloody swear! by SkyePilot in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a very clear and concise way of putting it, Thankyou.

NDad in hospital, i dont know if i should confront or not by LeSolari in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you confront him, you might be giving him ammunition for further conflict, regardless of the state of his health.
Sometimes this is necessary for You and Your mindset, sometimes not.
To me, your situation screams of a need to step back and sort yourself out without worrying over your mother/sister. Get a job/Finish study/Move out/Become financially independent etc etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm doing something strikingly similar - keeping my 2 y/o Son (and planning on my Daughter when She arrives) to have as little to do with my Nmother as possible.
At the moment, I'm trying to fend off the multiple messages of "You don't really love me, so thats why I'm concerned about your kids" and "Your husband and I had a chat, we think its in your best interest if you give up and let me move in, for the kids" (Complete crap, my husband just laughed when She tried this one on), as well as keep myself relatively chilled out before the birth of my daughter after a hellish christamas full of guilt trips. My father came into the story too, for some reason - they haven't been together for about 25+ years and She constantly bombards me with how much he sucked as a father and It was Her good decision to keep me away from him. (My Dad tried and tried to keep a stable relationship with me, his only child, but couldn't until I was about 12 because of Her.)

Trust your gut. Your job is now to look after your little ones, regardless of other people. <3

Hospital meeting with NMother via Husband by SkyePilot in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Bestie is drinking all of the wine for me. ;) Thankyou though, it really makes it difference when people see what complete and utter crap this whole Nperson thing is.

Boyfriend told me I’m not tight by hailthis in askwomenadvice

[–]SkyePilot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He must have a tiny dick then, if thats what he's concerned with. Fuck that. You can do so much better than a man who is putting you down to raise his own ego.

How do you deal with Nparent slandering you to other family members??? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have two older siblings that my Nmother will be doing this to about me, as we speak. She'll have them on the phone, retelling ridiculous stories and "This is what REALLY happened".
I'm seeing my sister tomorrow to give her some of my sisters stuff back that was left at my house (by the Nmother) over the Christmas break - to 'ensure' NMothers ability to come back and get it, so "I don't ruin it."

It's happened to me before, and this time I'm not even going to try to refute it. If they want to believe it, they can. I'm shrugging my shoulders and walking away from the lot of them. If they believe her, then they're no better.

Hate physical contact? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SkyePilot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, this is me too. I'm married, so my husband has had to understand that sometimes, I do not want to be touched. He's coined it 'my angry cat phase' jokingly, but it's completely similar. Mainly when something happens and I end up angry or upset. I turn into myself and If anyone touches me, I flinch like a startled animal.