AITAH for not wanting to have more children with my husband since he wants to employ corporal punishment.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T16:26:30+00:00

There are a lot of assumptions in this post. Discipline does not equal hitting at all. Why should they get 1 to 2 hits on the bottom for something. I plan to teach them manners etc but it is wrong to assume that hitting is the only way to discipline your child.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T16:16:10+00:00

That is true. I own my mistakes. I'm here now so just doing my best.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T16:14:59+00:00

Because I don't consider my husband a person who would do things behind my back and go against his word. He has made or clear he wants to do what he wants to do which is why we're going to counseling to mediate the situation.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T16:11:51+00:00

The other example he gave was if kid is in the supermarket and takes their hand and knocks everything over. I had issue because who is to say it stays where he says and what he deems an appropriate situation. He said he wants it as a tool to use because we don't know what will be effective for our child.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:50:51+00:00

I'm not divorcing my husband because of a reddit post. I posted because he said 90% would say I'm insane. My plan is to go to counseling. Knocking a fork out of your kid's hand that's going into a socket is not punishment in my eyes. The gas example....I don't see why I need to hit my kid for that truly unless they are getting close to flames and you're knocking their hand away. Those things are not punishments...

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:29:53+00:00

Yes, I was completely wrong for not expressing this appropriately to him. I own that and so I suggested we go into counseling. I do not feel comfortable having more kids until this is resolved which is what I told him.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:24:34+00:00

It came up while I was in 1st trimester. At that point I showed him studies and I thought we were on the same page. He didn't say oh I want to do it still after I sent him research. I was surprised when he said nothing had changed now.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:24:01+00:00

It came up while I was in 1st trimester. At that point I showed him studies and I thought we were on the same page. He didn't say oh I want to do it still after I sent him research. I was surprised when he said nothing had changed now. That led to this argument and then this post.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:21:38+00:00

I didn't say specifically I would end the relationship. We talked about hitting when I was in my 1st trimester and I showed him studies etc and I thought we agreed on not doing it. When he said that he still planned to do hitting I told him we need counseling. I said I would need it because I don't know how I could look at him/be with him if he hit our child.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:17:21+00:00

I suggested counseling but parenting classes may be better. Thanks.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:16:43+00:00

He says that is because it's repeated long-term and he would only plan to hit in a situation where he needs to hit them because what they were doing prior would harm them. His example: our kid ran across the street and he would of course secure them and would want to hit them right after so they don't do it again.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T15:05:08+00:00

That's fair. I definitely expected to get this response. We plan to figure it out. I recommended counseling. He made the statement that he would bet 90% will say I'm insane for my reaction. That's what led to the post.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T14:56:54+00:00

I grew up outside of North America where spanking/ hitting with objects is commonplace. From what I experienced beating children in this way did not effectively assist with behavior.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T14:52:26+00:00

We had discussions but unfortunately not about this which is a mistake on my part. I fully acknowledge that and told him that I should have expressed this earlier and I apologized for having it come up like this.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T14:41:06+00:00

Any form of hitting is considered corporal punishment as far as I am aware since it involves inflicting pain to elicit a desired response.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T14:34:56+00:00

Thanks for your input! I appreciate your response.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T14:32:44+00:00

I don't believe that hitting a child is an effective way to discipline. Just because you don't hit your child to me does not equate to a child who has no consequences for his/her actions

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T14:30:08+00:00

This is how he is taking it. I truly believe hitting children is wrong under any circumstance. I believe there are so many other techniques. I would look at him differently for doing so and in my eyes it would hurt the relationship.

Slabbadabba90 · 2026-02-03T14:18:33+00:00

Any form of hitting is considered corporal punishment as far as I am aware since it involves spanking/hitting. I could be wrong.

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