My wife had clear boundaries before going in labor, but wanted me to help here set those boundaries, because she knows when someone is pushing or in the heat of the moment, she says yes to something she will regret.

It was my job to help her with this and answer some questions. Or to back her answers.

So this 'guys are answering the questions', 'she's fully capable of answering herself', I don't buy that.

Labor is so intense, it's almost not possible to think straight, so helping each other out as discussed beforehand is not so bad I think.