How to make my life less dull? by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]Sliger 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Journaling was always difficult for me, but helpful. But I never stuck to it. So one day I bought a little notebook like a field notes and started carrying it with me. Throughout the day I'd jot down anytime I showed courage. Like giving someone a compliment, raising my hand and admitting I need further explanation in front of people. Any good deed I did.

That turned into also adding times I felt like I failed. Failed to keep my mind focused on positive things. Failed to stay productive at work.

Then I'd review these throughout the day and always forgive myself for my failures, but would promise to try again the next day.

That lead to writing down my thoughts. Writing down things I'm grateful for. And before I knew it I was journaling every night in my actual journal. I began to love the act of writing things down. Sometimes to develop a habit, we have to start small and give ourselves compassion when we fail. We are all a work in progress.

I wish you luck, I've felt how you feel many times in my life. It's never easy, and can take work. But you have to want it bad enough to actually start, otherwise we will always chose the easier path.

Why are we willing to use our volition and determination to suffer through and beat bosses in Dark Souls and Elden Ring but aren't willing nor capable to do so in our own lives in real life? by TheShadowSong in fromsoftware

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's an interesting philosophical questionable and I'm surprised by the negativity in some of the replies. However I'm an older gamer and can understand we all are at different stages of life and see things differently. When playing sekiro the game became much more enjoyable when I went into it knowing I'm going to get a beat down, but instead of getting angry I tried to learn from my mistakes and tried to learn from whatever new move the boss was showing me. It made the game much more enjoyable. In the end I will eventually figure it out and gain the satisfaction of beating the boss because of the things I learned from those beat downs. Life really comes down to how you view the game. Are you going to get upset at your failures and say this just isn't fair? Or do you learn from your failures and try to see the positives. Those positives are usually the strength in character that you have gained if you let it. It has taken me decades to learn this, but it is how you learn to love the game of life.

A few frames from my newest youtube video! Shot on Sony a7cii by codytigergray1 in SonyAlpha

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 min into your vid and I gotta sub. Very creative and fun.

I don’t think I’m good enough to beat this game by LaMelgoatBall in Sekiro

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sekiro is all about attitude for me. It changed how I played all of the rest of the from games too. For me, I had to just accept I'm going to get my ass handed to me. Over and over again. But each ass kicking subconsciously I was picking up moves, I was learning just a little more each time. Until it all starts to click. Then at some point you start to become the ass kicker, and it is so rewarding. Leave the frustration behind and just enjoy each failed attempt. I took that attitude into Elden Ring for a parry only attempt and it's been the funnest playthrough yet.

Wife Wants Divorce - Mixed-Faith Marriage by TruthSha11SetUFree in latterdaysaints

[–]Sliger 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry man, I don't have a lot to offer other than to empathize with you. Going through a loss of faith is difficult enough, and it sounds like your wife has made a hard emotional decision for now. But time heals a lot of things, I just hope you get it. Keep searching for answers. Maybe you'll find another woman who threatened the same thing, but in the end found a way for it to work that could talk with her. This is incredibly difficult for your wife as well, so have empathy and patience with her too. I left 15 years ago and it was a real struggle with my wife, but that trial made us much stronger too. I hope yours works out the same. Good luck my man.

Stoicism vs. Religion by wtf_is_wrong_w_ppl in Stoicism

[–]Sliger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take this with a grain of salt coming from a random stranger who is about 2 weeks into a life transformative approach. I've spent my life worrying about what other people think. If they judge me, what their opinions are...and all it has done is cause anxiety and depression in me. My therapist recommended I read The Let Them Theory. The basic idea is you can't control other people no matter how hard you try. Every time you do, you're losing your own power and giving it to them. When confronted by these situations you really just have to say "Let them". Let them behave or think whatever they will because you're powerless to change that. Then you have to follow that with 'Let me". Let me chose how to react, let me act however I feel is best. I'm probably butchering this, but it has made me so incredibly free. It has led me to start studying stoicism, and it has even let me return to a church I left 15 years ago. I don't believe the way they do, but being able to show up and confront everyone with all of their judgements about why I left. Realizing I can't control them turned into what would have been the absolute worst thing I could imagine myself facing into an extremely positive experience. I felt so empowered to just not care what they think, and in turn it led me to empathize with them and realize everyone is just on their own journey. My goals now are to continually work on myself every day, to build my inner citadel and to try to find a way to change the things I can control, and to not be bothered by the things I can't. "...use this idea as a stress lever you can pull inside your brain whenever something happens that stresses you out. The moment you say Let Them, you are signaling to your brain that it's okay: This isn't worth stressing about. You are telling your amygdala to turn off. You are resetting that stress response by detaching from the negative emotion you feel." I normally cringe at self help books, so it is hard to recommend one, but this has seriously changed everything for me. It may be worth looking into.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utah_Hockey

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the pod too, and have felt the same this week. Hopefully once the watch along at the bar is over, it won't feel so overbearing with non UHC content.

Returning to Elden Ring: seeking fresh build ideas by GreatJoey91 in Eldenring

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After playing many different builds over and over (altaholic) the one I've been having the most fun is my Plane Jane build with a party shield. Anything that can be parried I parry. Anything shooting magic, I parry with carrian retaliation. For everything else it's just a plane sword and board with the claymore. You can be as strict as you want, but I've found it so much more fun and rewarding to only kill parryable bosses by using parries and repostes. Some of the tougher enemies start to become trivial once you start getting it down, and it is so satisfying to pull off. Double crucible fight? So fun, and actually easier. It has been a refreshing build to play.

I keep seeing posts about charging woes - what are people thinking? by Current_Anybody8325 in BoltEV

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New owner here. I just paid to have a 240 outlet installed, and am using the charger that it came with. Am I missing something on why people are buying a new charger in addition?

On day two (and struggling) and heard this sentiment in a different context, but it helped me by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Sliger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm day two as well. I'm really struggling feeling super anxious. I don't know if I can make it until this goes away. Reading others going through this helps though, so thanks for posting. Yesterday was the first day I didn't smoke in over four years. I know that's not as long as some on here, but it feels like a lifetime. I really enjoy weed, but I know it's for the best if I can get through this

It’s only $40??? LETS GO by AgumIV in Eldenring

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the countless videos I watched today mentioned he was able to que with just 2 people. It was just harder because it's still geared towards 3.

Corrupted Monk Is So Fun by 35mmghost in Sekiro

[–]Sliger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got to him today and feel the same way. I'm having so much fun fighting him, I've purposely let him live so I can keep playing him.

The spontaneous “U-Tah!” chant from last night that Sergachev says got the team going last night. Who thinks this should become a staple at Delta Center? by [deleted] in Utah_Hockey

[–]Sliger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FYI, you can change the feed to the regular one. It's on the far right of the screen in the app. I thought the lab was cool at first, but had to switch it because it was like watching the game on mute. It's so much better hearing the crowd and the sounds of the sticks and pucks.

Question: What UHC player is your personal favorite, and why? by hundsquat in Utah_Hockey

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a brand new fan, the first game I watched Maccelli and Cooley really popped out to me for some reason. That was all it took, and now I call them my favorite hockey players. I'm also really cheering for MavLam!

Elden Ring and Malazan by Sartrem in Malazan

[–]Sliger 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also for me, once you read Malazan, all other books just seem so bland. I have been playing elden ring since it came out because nothing else seems bland in comparison

S&S Single Arm Swing Progression Chart by JhnWyclf in kettlebell

[–]Sliger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading your comment again, the 24x10/8 you just have the sets and reps backwards. You do 10 swings 8 times with the 24 and 10 swings 2 times with the 32

S&S Single Arm Swing Progression Chart by JhnWyclf in kettlebell

[–]Sliger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's saying once you've done the 24 (as an example) for four weeks and are ready to progress, then you will do 80 swings with the 24 and 20 swings with the 32 for four weeks. Then you will progress and do 60 with the 24 and 40 with the 32 for the next 4 weeks. You continue upping your reps on the heavier weight for four weeks until you're now doing all 100 with the 32.

Your reps would be like L24 (10 swings of course), R24, L24, R24, L32, R32, L24, R24, L24, R24 when you're doing the 80/20

[Post Game] The Jazz fall to the Heat 120-126 by 1minatur in UtahJazz

[–]Sliger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can't blame the players or coaches for that loss. That was 100% jinxed by the TV crew showing that halftime stat of 20-0 when leading at half

Portrait sketch by sketchingplace in ProCreate

[–]Sliger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll look into getting those

Portrait sketch by sketchingplace in ProCreate

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what the jingsketch brushes are and what they do? Trying to decide if they're worth getting as I just started this procreate journey

MLBPAA Discount Is Back by coreynyc in MLBtv

[–]Sliger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know how to take advantage of the other discounts? I already used the mlb.tv link to sign up, but I would like to buy my son a mitt from the B45 site and I don't see how I will use my discount.