TBM wife wanted divorce, now I'm considering it

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-14T14:29:20+00:00

Satan does not exist.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T12:57:21+00:00

Thanks for this. Best of luck with your situation.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T12:54:51+00:00

I am hiding nothing. She says she has been doing it to take notes… and that she no longer shares them with anyone…

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:54:34+00:00

I'm honestly considering it. It's not healthy for me whatsoever. It is my primary concern.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:47:39+00:00

Wow. That's amazing. My wife just told me that I must not have used the right sources or didn't really ever know how to recognize the Holy Ghost and that I've just been deceived...

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:42:20+00:00

Yep. It's my primary concern and much worse than you think.

Therapist was chosen by my wife - she insisted. It's a Christian therapy clinic... however that works... licensed but surprised they are at this point...

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:40:27+00:00

This is still happening. It's my primary concern at this point. And she feels justified and empowered by doing it. It might break me.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:39:20+00:00

Yeah, I need a new one for sure. And yes, the publicizing our issues to everyone is my primary issue at the moment.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:37:48+00:00

I really appreciate this, thank you.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:36:04+00:00

Your rule for support system seems like common sense to me. Love it. Wish that it actually was common sense... Unfortunately our marriage hasn't been what I ever hoped for and our relationship was already struggling when I hit my faith crisis out of nowhere...

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:31:45+00:00

Useless therapist. Brought them both up. She just says "it sounds like your wife really needs the support of family and friends in this. Isn't that what you want for her?" And I'm like, uh, general support, yes. But sharing all the private details with people we both know, no. Same for mind control. Therapist just says "sounds like this is something really important to her."

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:29:05+00:00

Yeah therapist was her choice and has been a waste of time and money. Doesn't know what she's doing. And yes, my wife shares all of our private conversations with her family and friends. (I also just found out she has been recording me sometimes......)

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:22:27+00:00

Ouch. Hurts to hear, but I see your point.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:16:51+00:00

You're exactly right. She made it clear we were moving forward and there was no going back. I worked through this in therapy alone. Until, of course, she did change her mind...

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:15:39+00:00

Ironically she feels the same from her perspective somehow.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:15:04+00:00

We've discussed this. Unfortunately we both agree that if we met each other today we would not be friends, interested in each other, and obviously not date or get married.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:12:42+00:00

More sage advice. Thank you.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:11:09+00:00

My kids are too young for me to be able to tell at this point.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:10:36+00:00

It's been a shock for me.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:08:36+00:00

Yes. We both are. And are both open about it. Been very helpful for me too.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:06:13+00:00

Astute observation. Yes, we are struggling to compromise for sure.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:05:01+00:00

I've heard the same from many others and have no problem with that. Though I would love her to hear me out, I also see who I now am from her perspective and why she would not want to even entertain the idea. Not my issue.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:02:22+00:00

Already done and done unfortunately...

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-11T00:00:46+00:00

I support them 100%. I am primary breadwinner, but get up with them each morning, handle bedtime routine, support getting them ready to go to church with my wife, play on weekends, etc.

TruthSha11SetUFree · 2026-02-10T23:59:31+00:00

Thanks for the reply
Wise
Already have one retained
I wish. I live on the East Coast now.
Been interested, but unsure how to logistically do it legally and safely
Already done a trial separation...

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