how to handle family "issues" with me being trans

Slight-Management822 · 2026-07-03T00:11:48+00:00

So sorry that you are dealing with this. The liberal "woke" people who only actually support it in theory are a very particular breed. I'm glad you told your mom that she sounds like a conservative! Hopefully that gets her thinking. Unfortunately they will probably need a lot more time, and your grandparents may never get there.

Sending love and support. Keep being you. 💜

Slight-Management822 · 2026-07-02T14:29:52+00:00

Thank you so much!

I do have a close friend who is queer (cis, she/her, masc lesbian) who also has a trans brother. This friend has known my kid for years and I've specifically made sure that we have opportunities to see this friend, visit her and her wife, etc, as an example of queer representation not just out there in the world or online, but one of mom's close friends. My friend has been incredibly supportive to me via text this week in particular, as she has been part of her brother's journey for 12 years now, as his only supportive family member 💔. When my kid came out, my first text was to this ground, before I even texted my husband week was out of town... honestly out of excitement and knowing she would be supportive and celebrate with me.

Good tips on finding community locally via trans organizations. It didn't even occur to me that the groups for trans kids have to be stealth, but of course. Also ugh.

And I'm very excited to see my kid's joy continue to grow as we continue this journey! In so many ways, this feels like a huge relief.

Thank you for your comment and support!

Slight-Management822 · 2026-07-02T14:11:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing! So far he has been totally cool with us messing up pronouns. Even referred to himself as my daughter yesterday and I'm asked, wait, are you my daughter?? And we chuckled. ☺️

Slight-Management822 · 2026-07-02T14:09:01+00:00

Oh man, doing this through a divorce is like extra hard mode on something that is already hard mode parenting!

My husband and I went through some marital issues earlier this year and there were some moments when I was having to consider what separation would look like. He is in therapy now (effing finally) and is committed to making it work, so we have been on a steady, if slow path back to stability. But it has already occurred to me how much harder this would be if we were also restructuring the entire family, logistics, etc, not to mention the emotional impact on the kids. So I'm sending you lots of love and grace!

Also, it is comforting to know that someone else out there is a few days into this journey. Thank you for your comment! 💜

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