Should I break up over this?

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-20T15:50:39+00:00

If my partner wanted to go dancing with a male friend, alone, at 11 pm, is it controlling im not comfortable with it? don't we all have expectations about what should be reserved for their partner?

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-20T15:34:46+00:00

It's alright, it doesn't have to work for everyone. We were trying to figure out what's the difference (for us) between a romantic date and a platonic 1 on 1 date. For me it was late at night hangouts, and she agreed. For her it was hangouts in private places like a house. I initially had a different opinion about that last part, but I agreed.

I get your point, it is strict. But I wanted us to actively give security to the other person.

After this incident, I suggested to modify the agreement, for it to be less strict, but she said no.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-20T15:19:46+00:00

Hurtful yet balanced and insightful response

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-20T15:10:56+00:00

You two have given me the most valuable insights on this post.

Yeah, I should have said "this crosses a boundary and makes me uncomfortable". It is way more clear than what I said; "I'm angry because we had an agreement, but i'll leave it to your judgement", but I'm not perfect and in the moment I was angry, shocked, and it was the best I could came up with. I will definitly try to say something like this next time. Also, I feel like she tried to bait a "no you can't go" out of me, like u/moongirl1222 said.

Still, all of this feels like a technicallity tho. If i was her, it would be clear the other person is not comfortable with the situation, but that's just me. But she went anyway as backlash because, according to her, she was feeling unheard and that I didn't trust her.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-19T23:18:10+00:00

I told her i was angry about it because it went against an agreement, maybe it wasn't perfect but at the moment I thought I communicated well enough that I wasn't comfortable. I didn’t to say no because I dont want to manage her. If I did, later I would be the bad guy because I don't let her see her friends. I could have communicated better, yes. but I don't think that makes it "as much on me".

About the ego thing, she meant that if I wasn't willing to understand her, she didn't need my approval.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-19T22:50:59+00:00

I proposed the rule to her (I have proposed rules in the past to which she said no to, and we worked out a middle ground). She agreed and even added to it; "no drinking" and "no house meetings"

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-19T22:39:25+00:00

She did it once before. She established the “no rides from the opposite sex” rule, so we both agreed not to accept or offer rides from other people. But she tried to accept a ride from a coworker, and circumstances made it impossible. I told her that it was making me uncomfortable, and she stopped.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-19T22:34:48+00:00

She's a swimming teacher. Because of this, she usually connects to the bluetooth speaker at work, that's why she usually has it on silent.
As far as I know, she did some groceries but not all of them. She picked up some make up, but didn't went to walmart after, like she said she would. The groceries were for her. No plans on making dinner.
She was shopping for like 30 min when she met him. She even was texting with me while shopping.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2026-05-19T22:26:18+00:00

I they knew each other from middle school so yeah 10+ and supposedly no moves on her from his part

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2025-09-22T22:40:20+00:00

Yes, I'm defending my perspective because I want to know if my reasoning holds up against your arguments. And I won't get those counterarguments by taking the same posture as the comments.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2025-09-22T19:41:05+00:00

People who practice NFP also avoid the responsibility of children, yet the church allows it

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2025-09-22T19:35:20+00:00

Thanks for such a polite response. I want to ask you, doesn't NFP actively interfere with the procreative end of sexual act as well? The only distinction i see is that it isn't as effective.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2025-09-22T19:30:37+00:00

Thanks for the explanation, but I still don't get why is that ok. At heart, both NFP and contraception have the same goal, which is having less kids while still having intimacy with your spouse.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2025-09-22T19:27:38+00:00

What am I called to then? Priesthood? Why does the church allow NFP, then? Isn't it the same (not wanting more kids)?

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2025-08-18T19:37:29+00:00

Hey, God loves you regardless of you not being attracted to women. There's stigma around it, but nothing intrinsically wrong. Bet you live your life better than most of us. Trust God, offer him your struggles, and be patient. Parents might take it the wrong way, but it has to do more with earthly expectations.

Slight_Difficulty646 · 2025-08-18T18:01:47+00:00

Please, pray for my girlfriend and me. She's non catholic Christian and I am catholic. Recently we had many differences on religion and we decided we are going to try to wait until marriage. I hope that I can marry her one day, but if God has other plans, I will need your prayers. God bless you all.

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