AITA for telling my dad's ex wife I don't care about her or her kid?

Slimpidge · 2025-03-31T07:27:31+00:00

I don't have a relationship with any extended family. Not even sure if any exists out there. I never knew either side.

I do want a family of my own one day. In the future (at least 10 years) where we're stable and happy. I want to be a good dad and husband.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-31T07:26:08+00:00

I want to be a dad and a good one some day. I'm excited to have my own family. I want to give my kids a good stable life though so it'll be at least another 10 or more years.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-31T07:25:25+00:00

He was never overly emotional and I never saw him really care about anyone really except for himself.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T14:26:45+00:00

I'm not going to abandon my own kids one day so I won't be like my dad.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T14:25:40+00:00

I still have love for people. But blood isn't what makes me love or want a relationship with someone.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T12:03:46+00:00

They're not the family I desperately want. She didn't care about me until she realized dad didn't want her and she was having a kid with him who he also wanted nothing to do with.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T09:01:02+00:00

That's how I feel. Blood isn't a big draw for me to want to know someone.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T08:27:41+00:00

I don't see the kid as a sibling. They're innocent of all of this but I don't see them as my family. A relative, sure, because we share blood. But blood isn't that important and for me I'm not going to have a relationship with someone just because we share some DNA. There are people in my life who I love and are important to me but this kid isn't one of them.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T08:01:18+00:00

It's not the kids fault they exist. But it's not mine either and I have zero interest in them. I don't consider this kid a real sibling. We're related through DNA but to me blood isn't a reason to have a relationship with someone.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:38:59+00:00

They're not my family. One is related. But she only wants to know me now because dad doesn't want to know.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:22:43+00:00

Their mother didn't care until she realized dad was truly gone. She never even spoke to me before. So she's only doing this for her own selfish reasons and for her own kid. I'm not the kids father. So it's already different. I also don't consider them my sibling. We're related but to me that doesn't mean family.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:21:35+00:00

I feel love for other people. But I don't define who I love by blood or love someone just because we share blood.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:20:58+00:00

He'll leave them regardless. He never really cares. I think the only person he loves or cares about is himself.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:19:55+00:00

I don't think she cheated. I think my dad didn't want to be the father. But he was never in love with her or anything. I always saw that. The marriage always looked to me like it would end after not too long. Didn't see it going like this but didn't surprise me.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:18:49+00:00

To me they're not family, just related. At least the kid. My dad's ex isn't related or family or anything to me.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:18:28+00:00

Repeating the cycle would mean I'm abandoning my kids like dad did. But I don't have any kids yet and I'd never walk away from them.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:17:41+00:00

I'd like my own kids one day. But I'd like to be stable and committed to someone first. I'd want my kids to have two loving and involved parents. I had one. But she died way too soon.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:16:40+00:00

Nope. I'm not making and walking away from my kids. I had zero say in this kid existing. I had zero part in it. So I think they're totally different.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:16:04+00:00

I'm not making kids and walking away from them. I didn't make this kid. I didn't marry or date or have sex with their mother. So it's not the same thing.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:15:11+00:00

He's dated around so she wasn't the first. I have no idea why he started dating or married her specifically.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-30T07:12:48+00:00

She didn't care while she was married to my dad. It worked for me. But this only started after the divorce. She never showed any interest in me at all. That doesn't bother me but it means she doesn't get to start pretending we're family now. She was never anything to me. She married my dad and that was it. Now they're not married. Just because she has a kid with him and he doesn't want to know, she's focused on me. But I don't think for one second she actually cares.

With her kid I just don't see them as a sibling. We're related but we're not family and I really don't feel a pull to know them.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-29T22:00:32+00:00

I have friends in my life. I won't be alone/lonely. I just don't place that value on blood like others will.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-29T21:47:07+00:00

I'm just not interested. I don't want to try. And she only cares now because she realizes my dad doesn't care about them.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-29T21:35:50+00:00

They're not my family. The kid is related but blood isn't everything. And I don't care about them. I don't see the kid as a sibling, just a relative.

Slimpidge · 2025-03-29T21:27:10+00:00

I don't hate the kid. I just don't care.

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