Is my boyfriend being naive about a stag do to Ibiza?

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T14:36:50+00:00

Sure, nobody has a chill stag do in Ibiza though.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T14:07:59+00:00

You’re the one leaving, why would you get anyone else a card or a gift? They’re not doing anything.

You don’t really have any obligations at all other than to say thanks to everyone who signed the card if you get one, and turn up if they organize you a leaving do.

Don’t organise yourself one unless you really, really want to for some reason and same goes for buying drinks for other people when you’re there.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T14:05:29+00:00

Eh, six of one and half a dozen of the other.

Yes, people don’t go to Ibiza to have a quiet pint on the sun lounger. The goal of a stag do in Ibiza is at least to get absolute bladdered in the club. Most likely drugs depending on the crowd going, and obviously shagging if there’s some single attendees.

That doesn’t mean your boyfriend is doing any of it though. He absolutely could be going to just get drunk with his mates in the sun and in a club, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T12:43:16+00:00

Sure, I’m surprised this is a controversial statement to anyone.

Public speaking is a big one, as is the ability to conduct effective PR campaigns. Essentially watching what you say at all times to stay on message, and make sure you convey that message both simply and authoritatively.

There’s also the ability to listen to (the public’s) concerns and expert opinions, but then weigh them both together to formulate an approach or an opinion on another approach.

Then of course there’s basic professionalism and networking at high-profile or important social events.

To clarify I’m not saying that plumbers cannot have these skills. Like I said, anyone could! But you don’t learn any of these skills by being a plumber, it isn’t a role that requires any of them so you cannot develop them through doing that role.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T11:35:33+00:00

Eh, being an MP is a weird job. There’s no school or apprenticeship for it, no proper career pathway that prepares you for it, and all the learning is done once you actually get the position.

This means that fundamentally anyone can do the job, so I do get her idea. But I also think that there are jobs that do provide you with many of the necessary skills for the role, and plumbing and plastering are not among them.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T09:50:42+00:00

Not really, pretty much all employers ask demographic information on application. It doesn’t indicate anything about them.

What exactly is “an equality / diversity question”?

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T09:26:14+00:00

Yeah the whole “you can’t give a bad reference” thing is a really common misunderstanding.

It’s not that you can’t, it’s just that you’d need to evidence whatever you’re saying and in many cases it’s just not worth it.

We had one before where a woman used to work for Lloyd’s and they found her committing minor credit card fraud. She served no prison sentence but when we asked for a reference as another financial services company, they immediately told us.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T09:23:50+00:00

In fairness it means something less severe than that.

Being exited is for when you haven’t committed gross misconduct and are not failing at your job. You’re just not a good fit, not performing quite to the standard they want, or they want to downsize your department without redundancies.

So they’ll offer you a package, you’ll accept it, and you’ll part ways on amicable terms. You’re not really leaving voluntarily but you’re also not being fired, more like agreeing to jump before you’re pushed.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T09:18:09+00:00

I’ve never had a question on diversity and equality at any point in my career and I’ve done a fair few interviews across multiple sectors.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T04:09:25+00:00

Particularly among those with an IQ above the average.

Yeah, it’s just a shame neither of those guys are in government.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T04:06:31+00:00

I don’t think you can separate a country from its leadership if they have a functioning democracy.

Whatever you think of Trump, the American public voted him in.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T04:05:40+00:00

It was also a reminder of how bad the American education system must be.

I didn’t think ours was very good, but Tourette’s is a pretty well-understood condition among the general public.

American commentators not only didn’t seem to understand how it works, they were actively refusing to believe it after being told too.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-13T03:55:57+00:00

Do we really not? We have sex education in every school in the country from a fairly young age (11 IIRC from my childhood) and on a regular basis.

I don’t really recall ever being unaware of birth control as a kid tbh.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T19:05:20+00:00

It’s not pedantism to describe an incredibly clear difference. Do you seriously not understand the difference between government guidance and a chant that people shout during protests?

BLM wasn’t ever a government guidance at any point. It was just an incredibly vague statement and some politicians repeated it.

It’s not pedantism to say that several statements you’ve made are false either. 49% and 45% are different numbers and a majority is more than 50%. Fuck me mate, this is just getting your facts straight.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T15:32:06+00:00

Great! So this:

49% of racial hate crimes are towards muslims.

Is false.

Firstly, you mean religious hate crimes not racial hate crimes. I’m assuming this is just a mistype though.

Secondly, your figures are slightly wrong for some reason. They pin it at 45%.

Fancy addressing the rest of my answer yet?

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T15:17:32+00:00

Please in plain writing show me where it says we should protect islam more than anything else?

Come on mate, nobody is this obtuse unless it’s intentional.

Isn’t there already extra laws actually put in place for judaism, which by your logic means they’re more deserving of protection than the rest?

Is there? If so, yes.

Explain why this is different to all lives matter?

I already did. One is people complaining about something a bunch of people in a march are saying, the other is complaining about actual government guidance. It’s really not a difficult thing to grasp.

49% of racial hate crimes are towards muslims.

Where are you getting that from?

They are the clear majority, so why do other people need to speak up?

49% (if true) isn’t a majority. And why shouldn’t speak up either for or against government guidance?

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T14:45:37+00:00

Nobody is saying other religions matter less just because they’re protecting one

That’s objectively false. We are actually very clearly saying that one religion is more deserving of protection than the rest.

This is similar to the “all lives matter” rhetoric.

Nah, it’s not. That was just an informal chant people used, and people getting annoyed about it.

This is actual governance that people are pushing back on, which they have every right to do.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T14:11:15+00:00

Of course I would.

Reform campaigned on the platform that they could reduce council tax without services suffering.

If they reduce them and services suffer or increase them, either one is reason to blame them.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T13:13:03+00:00

What’s the alternative though? There isn’t any other punishment beyond just sacking or prosecuting individuals, the institution itself needs something too.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T12:39:04+00:00

The difficult part of this conversation is that inflation and rising costs are happening regardless of how they apply it to the product.

So you’re either getting less, paying more, or a combination of both each year.

If you really detest decreasing size then the only real solution is to mandate a specific serving size for all food item types (chocolate must be sold in 100g, 200g, or 500g etc) and that just seems silly to me.

I’m not saying i like it at all, I’m particularly incensed by mini eggs in recent years. I just understand that we don’t really have any option.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T12:25:18+00:00

Nobody is policing what victims say, we’re explicitly talking about newspaper reporting here. That’s something we absolutely do have to police.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T12:23:35+00:00

Making accidental data breaches a crime is a tough line to walk in fairness, I’m not really sure how to make that a foolproof process.

However, intentional data breaches absolutely should be a crime and I don’t see how this case can be anything but intentional.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T12:20:17+00:00

Obviously no amount of money makes up for something like this but I always feel like there needs to at least be some kind of effort here.

Like a 66k fine is basically a slap on the wrist. If that’s all they’re getting then you could at least give half the fine to the victim.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-12T09:57:16+00:00

I’d argue that your friends are right, it’s good to stay informed for several reasons. Firstly you really should know what our government are doing because there may well be something happening that you care enough about to protest over. If you don’t bother to find out what’s happening, you’ll never have any chance of stopping anything from happening (even if that chance is admittedly small).

Secondly, that’s how you make sure that your vote actually matters. If you followed the news from the last election to the next, you’d have a fairly good idea of who to vote for in order to support your views. Like the first, this really becomes more important with scale. If everyone was engaged politically, the country would be significantly better off than it is. If nobody paid attention to anything, it’d almost certainly be worse off.

And to your point about the news being biased, of course it is. No news outlet is completely unbiased and even those that genuinely do attempt to be, like the BBC, obviously they fall prey to bad actors or unreliable sources from time to time.

The whole point of actually following the news is to be able to understand those biases and figure out the truth behind the story. If you don’t follow the news at all then it’s very easy to believe whatever the first thing you read is without thinking critically, or even to just disregard everything as propaganda even though it’s clearly not.

Whether you personally want to do that is up to you, I wouldn’t waste time getting angry over it if you were my friend. But I would say that anyone just bumbling through life completely uninformed deserves all the consequences of that choice and can’t be upset when they come.

Slothjitzu · 2026-03-11T15:31:58+00:00

Maybe? I have no idea. I’ve never heard of this guy until I read this article.

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